Hi all, Ive been a lurker for a while and decided i would like some of your great advice that Ive been reading here for a while now.
I have an issue and i dont know if im making a big deal out of nothing or what. I guess ill put it hypothetically cause Im not sure who comes across this site..
Would any of you be upset if you had your wedding booked and then you find out a few months later that another member of your extended family decided to book their wedding a few months before yours and they booked their date knowing your date was already booked?
AMGBride2008
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I would be pisssed that they booked before mine just to be married first.
I wouldn't be pissed if was just more convenient for them, KWIM?
AmandaLynn04
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Hmmm..... tough one. I guess if I knew they were doing it to be malicious, then I'd be pissed. But, if not, if it were for a specific reason, or money related or something, what can you do?
At least you will be able to see what worked at theirs, and what didn't, and make yours that much better!
KiTTeN0819
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Yeah i dont think they did it to be malicious but they had originally told me they wouldnt get married before me casue they didnt want to steal my thunder i guess. But once they started looking at halls they decided they didnt want to wait that long so they booked it and then told other members of my family that i didnt mind, even though i had never been asked.
I think I am just being a bridezilla lol.
MJDoc12
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it might perturb me a for a minute--but in the end, what can ya do? no sense in getting hung up or upset on anything you can't change. besides--your weddings will be totally different, i'm sure!
Espo22
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Honestly it really doesn't matter, it wont steal your thunder, they'll have their day and you'll have yours. FH's close friend got engaged months after us but they decided to get married in 10 months and it will be before ours, it really doesn't bother me. People have always dreamed of this day and maybe they have a preference for what month they want or season and wouldn't want them to have to change it bc of me and I would not want to have to change what i would want for others.
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i would be upset but at the same time, there's nothing you can do about it. i got engaged before one of my older cousins. he got engaged a few months later to a girl with the same name as me! he announced their engagement before we did and now they'll be getting married a few months before me. at the venue we originally wanted.
i'm a bit annoyed. BUT i'm super happy for him, and i know our weddings will be totally differant and no one will be comparing them in negative ways.
Collweenie21
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I had the same thing happen to me. I was upset at first. However it is my cousin and I'm happy for him. I know his day will be totally different than mine. Then I found out a friend of FH booked the same HALL as us after we booked for before our wedding. And this I feel is much worse!!!
kate0211
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I would like to share that my brother is getting married two weeks after me. beat that. lol
KiTTeN0819
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Yeah i am happy for them. I am VERY happy that they did not pick my RH, and hopefully we wont fall in love with the same dress lol.
Wow 2 weeks after lol that stinks. Will you even be back from your honeymoon? One of my FH friends wedding is 3 weeks before us, hes one of our GM so I'm hoping he will be back in time. My FH was going to make him the Best Man but i advised him against it since he was undecided between which one of his friends to ask anyhow and that I knew this friend would be crazy busy with his own preparations.
ZCHM08
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I wouldn't be upset - Everyone's situation is different and they probably have really good reasons for booking the date that they did - just like you had reasons for booking your date.
jgl
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no i would not be pissed. why does someone have to change their plans for when they want to get married because you got engaged first and wanted to wait a longer period of time. I would be pissed if someone expected me to plan my wedding after theirs just because they got engaged first.
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i`d be really annoyed! the same thing happened to my mother, it was her best friend at the time and she told her to go look att he hall that she (my mother) picked and the best friend booked it! for 1 month prior to my mothers! i hope it`s not this severe in your case!
jgl
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i`d be really annoyed! the same thing happened to my mother, it was her best friend at the time and she told her to go look att he hall that she (my mother) picked and the best friend booked it! for 1 month prior to my mothers! i hope it`s not this severe in your case!
well i think that is a bit different, that would make me mad. I dont think that picking the same hall is right, it will be like going to 1 wedding 2x haha.
mnd1202
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umm yeah id flip
PapayaChic
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i wouldnt be upset especially since i see youre engagement to marriage is about 2.5 years. Maybe they just didnt want to wait too long, you know?
you're wedding will be special no matter what
Luvbsb4eva
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no i would not be pissed. why does someone have to change their plans for when they want to get married because you got engaged first and wanted to wait a longer period of time. I would be pissed if someone expected me to plan my wedding after theirs just because they got engaged first.
I agree
chrispar
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I really wouldn't be upset at all. Only if they picked the same RH would it bother me.
kellybean
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I would be upset at first....but then Id let it go !!!
jessamyn78
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My cousin got engaged after me and is getting married this July in Aruba. I was not upset at all. It was most convenient for them. You have to think of the other couple's circumstances too.
