My two sisters are my co- MOHS and a friend is a BM along with FH's 3 sisters. My friend started the contact between all of them to plan a shower for me. One of my MOH lives in Italy and did nothing for my other sister's shower anyway (I planned that one by myself) and the other MOH has a 15 month old and lives in NC. They wanted my shower the day before the wedding so they could be here & didn't have to make an extra trip to NY. I said ok as long as I know ahead of time to prepare. Then FH's sisters and FH said thats not a good idea and no one will come, its asking a lot of people, including me, etc. So they said isn't there another date? My sister in NC has spring break in March. Am I being unreasonable that she is now coming up for it? It means an extra trip for her, I know - but is that wrong? I do tons for my family, too much, as FH reminds me. Not to make myself out to be an angel or anything but... TIA!
mushsgrl
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I dont think that is wrong of you at all. I didnt have a shower, but I know from attending them they can be very tiring. It can be an all day thing and you dont want that the day before your wedding. You need to rest and take care of last minute things. I defenitly think you should do it a different day.
petunia77
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hmmm.... that's a toughy. my maid of honor lives in seattle and i didn't want to create extra expense for her, so i suggested that we have it the weekend of the wedding, figuring people will be in town. but, you should do what you feel comfortable with.
hocus
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Could you have a shower without them? Maybe the day before the wedding could be just a sister thing.
I do think that a shower the day before the wedding is a bad idea.
spooks
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Thanks everyone. Yeah, b/c my other sister definitely can't make it another day - we will be doing a sister thing sometime before or maybe even after the wedding, which is fine with me. I feel really bad about asking the other sister to come up again - I feel selfish but at the same time its not right to all the other girls involved and the other family to do it the day before either. Plus the things is - while my sister will be doing some things for it, its mostly my friend here on LI that is doing the brunt of the work.
divabride
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I think its a better idea to have it in march. You stated very good reasons why its not feasible to do it the day before your wedding. Its a lot to ask of your guests to not only to provide a shower gift, but a wedding gift the next day. Not to mention the last minute running around you have to do the day before. Save yourself a lot of aggravation and stress and have it in march.
