Am I being unreasonable? (kind of long) N WR

I know I seem to always gripe and for that, I am sorry, but I just feel like everything is falling apart in front of me all the time and I am blamed for it...

FH and I had such a nice day yesterday! We picked out wedding bands, went to a brunch at my family's house....then one of my BM calls (she just broke up with her BF and is totally nutso over it) asking if she can come over..>I really just wanted to watch Desperate Housewives but I said fine....we are having a great time, drinking and whatever and around 1AM she starts digging into me, telling me I am not a good friend because I didn't stop talking to someone that she didn't like (mind you, this girl did nothing to her, she just think she is a s l ut and wants to screw her ex man) and she kept digging into me and digging into me telling me I am too cliquey ( I used to be her manager and she said that i didn't act like her friend by being civil to the girl she didn't like) so I could have acted up and told her to get the F out of my house, but she was drunk and I didn't want her to drive...so FH and her go outside and proceed to sit out there for over an hour talking about me...then around 2 AM he comes in and tells me that she and him are going to a bar because they ran out of beer..

That's when I flipped....she tells me I am a bad friend, challenges my integrity and this mother f--r is gonna try to go to a bar with her???

ANd this morning, he is defending her and telling me I need to call her.... w t f??

I guess I just needed to get this out thanks... I am not a bad friend by the way, I had this b i t c h over on a Sunday night and always listen to her s h i t.....and she has the nerve......

Yeah, I'd be pissed too. Quite frankly, I think you are a good friend for not telling her to leave.

whoa!!!

hold on..your FH went to a bar with her and defender her that you were wrong??

Yeah, I would definetely be upset.....FH should have your back and not be buddy buddy with someone who just dissed you.
I think you should talk to him about it later tonight when he is not drinking and things have blown over a bit. Tell him that it hurts your feelings when he doesn't see your side and takes someone else's side.
By the way, good job not letting your friend leave drunk! That is definetely a good friend.

Ohhhhhhh noooooooooo.. In my opinion she is the one that needs to call you and apologize…Did they end up going to the bar??? I would have flipped out!!!

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Posted by shelby34

Yeah, I would definetely be upset.....FH should have your back and not be buddy buddy with someone who just dissed you.
I think you should talk to him about it later tonight when he is not drinking and things have blown over a bit. Tell him that it hurts your feelings when he doesn't see your side and takes someone else's side.
By the way, good job not letting your friend leave drunk! That is definetely a good friend.

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agree 100%

yeah that shiit is F'd up. i'd be beyond PO'd if my FH had the balls to stick up for this biitch after she talked shiit about you...and then say 'we're gonna go to the bar' and basically not ask if you want to go. that sounds like shadiness to me.

you better have a sit down with your FH and let him know that is NOT cool. i'd be suspect of my friend who wants to go to a bar while drunk, with my man. the ghetto would definietely come out in me

You have a lot more tolerance than I would have. Honestly, my FH would NOT have gone anywhere with a DRUNK!!! Specially, when she's bad mouthing you. The NERVE!!!

Nope, I wouldn't call her ever. She owes YOU an apology.

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Posted by danielle19755

Ohhhhhhh noooooooooo.. In my opinion she is the one that needs to call you and apologize…Did they end up going to the bar??? I would have flipped out!!!

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No thank god! I would have definitely flipped my s h i t big time on her and him..>I would have thrown down! I am glad I am not being unreasonable, lately I feel everything I do, get's f-ed up and everyone blames me...and now it is 1 Pm and he is SLEEPING...........

I am getting alittle suspect and I am definitely suspect of her inentions!


Arrrgghhhh

O I would have flippity flipped!!! and no way in hell is he gonna sit out there with her for a hr talkin about me! I would have made him come inside and locked her in a closet

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Posted by dianadrw

My problem would not be with your friend it would be with your FH. Why would he be talking about you with one of your friends? That is wrong on so many levels and you need to get to the bottom of it.

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He told me that he felt bad for her because she said something that she didn't mean and he knows the feeling...He wasn't talking s h i t about me just listening to what she had to say..>I dunno, we are working through it today but needless to say I really don't want to talk to this girl anymore...and she is in my BP!

You have every right to be PO'd, he has some nerve taking her side, give it some time and talk to her and tell her you don't appreciate the way she acted. Hopefully she apologizes and everything will be alright!!

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Posted by shelby34

Yeah, I would definetely be upset.....FH should have your back and not be buddy buddy with someone who just dissed you.
I think you should talk to him about it later tonight when he is not drinking and things have blown over a bit. Tell him that it hurts your feelings when he doesn't see your side and takes someone else's side.
By the way, good job not letting your friend leave drunk! That is definetely a good friend.

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Perfectly Said.... I would sit him down and have a little chat.... I would be a little upset myself!