my fh went out yest and i just get so mad when he leaves me by myself at home and comes back really late..he didnt even call ..i usually cant sleep if hes not home to..im just so mad at him!!!! i cant help it!!!!!! i dont mean to sound like wierdo or anything... am i selfish..?
tinadansr
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nope when they dont call its the worst!
Alexandra1028
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No I get the same way, and then I sit there even more mad because I am acting that way - its so frustrating!
JKFris09
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You're not it s ucks when that happens and especially when they dont call.
Future Mulligan
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i guess i'd be upset if he didnt call, but you should let him go out and do his thing when he wants too....just make sure he remembers to call you so you dont get upset
Jflod710
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no you are not selfish... He should at least call.That is my one rule if my fh goes out. you need to talk to him!
longislandlibrarian
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I dont' mind if FH goes out with his friends at all.. but it would be nice to at least hear from him before bed.
kabo0831
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no i get the same way
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Your preaching to the choir on that one... Me and my FH got into an arguement about that a few months ago.. every friday, and I mean every friday, he goes out with his cousins, they go out to the same bar, and he comes home late, like 3 or 4. Granted I have dance class until about 8 and don't get home until 9, he is getting ready to leave when Im comming in. Sometimes, I want him to spend a Friday with me.. One Friday I called him up at work and ask him out on a 'date', i was going to call in a sub for dance, so that we could spend the night with each other... he told me that he was looking forward to going out to his cousins. I was sooo hurt, and heated! We got into a terrible argument where I called him selfish and that he puts them before me, his soon to be wife.
To make a long story short, we made up and now he understands, that this is the family that matters, me and him. He is more willing to let some fridays go, and I don't ask him to, I understand he wants to hang out with the guys, we see each other everyday. He also calls me if he is going to be later than 2 am because I too can't sleep until he's home, I worry.
Your not selfish, talk to him and tell him how your feeling. It will all work out in the end!
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when my FH doesnt call me...i freak out, that is the worst thing for me, show a little consideration...you didnt overreact and you arent selfish...unless we all are!!!
CMS
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Are you upset that he's going out with his friends? Or just upset that he doesn't call?
Whenever FH and me go out with our friends, the only thing we say to each other is, 'Have fun and don't get too drunk!'
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I would say he needs to call. FH and I mostly go out with our friends together because we have been together so long that we have the same group of friends. However, I usually work Fridays and there are night when he has time with his guy friends and I have time with my girl friends. I expect a call because I like to know he's safe and ok! It's just respectful and shows that he cares.
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talk to him about it, if it happens all the time, its best to communicate your thoughts n feelings so when you are married issues are already brought forward. and it will probably make the transition better good luck try n go out with ur friends when he is out so u arent alone
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No he should call...FH and I use to fight about this all the time. He finally understood that I just wanted a call to feel like he was missing me and to check in. I am good with that....he can go out and do what he wants just check in.
Maybe explain how you feel....I know that he use to feel like I was being controlling and not letting him have his time when all I wanted was the call... so let him know how you feel.
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thank you girls a lot, i did already explain to him that...we always fight because of this...and he thinks that i dont want him to go out, but its not that...i just need a call to let me know that he is ok..he does not get it!!!!
Aristotelina
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Def not being selfish, especially if he doesn't call. I would feel the SAME way!
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I understand. My ex did that all the time, and granted, he was from England and I had all my friends saying they were unfaithful people!! so i would sit at home walking back and forth getting mad and madder!!
fh doesnt do it though thank goodness...calls always to tell me that he wishes i was there and the girls are grose haha
CMS
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Posted by aliska21
thank you girls a lot, i did already explain to him that...we always fight because of this...and he thinks that i dont want him to go out, but its not that...i just need a call to let me know that he is ok..he does not get it!!!!
Have you tried not calling him when you go out to see how likes it?
Petty, I know, but sometimes it works :)
crazeee18
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no...he should have at least called u
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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i used to get jealous when hed go on trips and go to clubs n bars without me... but as time goes on, im def okay with it b/c hes a royal pain sometimes.... time away from one another is GOOD sweetie!
but he should def call... i've had to beat that into fh's head, but he finally learned LOL
