My FH is Portuguese and apparently Portuguese people bring their children everywhere and i do not want children at the wedding and my FMIL (not Portuguese) is saying im direspecting them and im sooooo wrong and we have t ohave children at our wedding but i do not agree! Im having half Portuguese food and desserts and Portuguese wines and the pig at CH the way the Portuguse people do it so i am trying but i do not want to budge on the children! the only chld that i want there is my 4 yr old daughter!!! Am i wrong for not having children? This is a big issue and is totally stressing me out!!!!!!!!!
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We are only having the children that are in the bridal party at the wedding. We basically told everyone that we are paying for the entire wedding and it would be too out of control (in $$) if we allowed everyone to bring kids.
I think you just need to explain the entire situation but if they are paying maybe you can limit it to close family children only.
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I am having children at my wedding but IMO they don't belong at weddings
You are totally not wrong and if you don't want them there and are not going to give in than stand by your choice
lissylissa
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We are 100 percent paying for the wedding by ourselves!!!!!!!!!!
regy_k
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i dont think that u are, its ur day - have what u want, especially if u are paying for all 100% although i dont see how can u stop people from bringing children. also i think its going a bit too far saying ur disrespecting them, a bit over the top
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If you are paying then you have ALL the say. What does FH think?
Jen84
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i dont think you're wrong... its your day and if you dont want kids, you shouldnt have kids... the only kids we are having are the flower girl and ring boy and just the cousins from the immeidate families... all other random children are not invited... this is a wedding, not a kid party...
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I think it's your day, and if you don't want kids, then you shouldn't have to have them. What does FH think?
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Posted by lissylissa
We are 100 percent paying for the wedding by ourselves!!!!!!!!!!
I agree with you. We are having FH's two kids and that is it. Weddings arent a place for kids, in my opinion.
If your MIL isnt paying...she has even less of a right to harass you about this
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I think you are completely right!
lissylissa
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FH was upset with me at first for saying no but after i explained to him that this is a wedding at 7pm till 1 am on saturday and that guests without children dont want to b arnd kids running around he agreed with me BUTTTT now he is afraid of confrontation with his parents !!!!!
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This *****! I hate how they are bringing tradition into the picture, to try to make it seem like you are doing something sooo horrible. Children do not belong at a wedding, sorry.
lissylissa
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lol exactly i feel the same way!!!! when my FH told my mom it was tradition she was like huh what do u mean y do u have to bring kids!!!! makes me sooooo mad! i wld nvr bring my daughter to a wedding cause she wld just want to run around evrywhere!!!!!!
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Posted by regy_k
i dont think that u are, its ur day - have what u want, especially if u are paying for all 100% although i dont see how can u stop people from bringing children. also i think its going a bit too far saying ur disrespecting them, a bit over the top
wayyyy over the top i mean come on ru kidding me!!!!!
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You are 100% in the right. It is your decision, not FMIL's. If you don't want kids there, say something...on the other hand, do you think your daughter will be bored with no one her age to play with? It might be a good idea for close family members to bring kids so she has someone to play with...JMO
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my fh family is sicilian and they think children belong everywhere!!!! i think and so do my parents (who are footing the entie bill) that only the children in the immediate family belong...it has been an ongoing fight since the day i got the ring
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Posted by iHeartMoogle
You are 100% in the right. It is your decision, not FMIL's. If you don't want kids there, say something...on the other hand, do you think your daughter will be bored with no one her age to play with? It might be a good idea for close family members to bring kids so she has someone to play with...JMO
No my daughter wont get bored thank god! Shes not like that and she will have so many ppl lovin her up the whole nt lol!!! Plus she loves to dance !!!
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well.... did you think about what your daughter is going to do with no one to play with. Ihave a 2 1/2 year old and the only reason why i am having A FEW children at my wedding is for her sake. JMO
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You are totally right. Especially since you're paying it by yourselves.
MissyAstoria
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There is nothing wrong with not wanting children at your wedding! I am only having the children in our wedding party.
