Am I wrong ?? Please be honest

i understand ur feelings completely...

BUT i feel that its his body to decide what he does with it even after he passes...

i mean i personally feel that everyone can decide what they want...i bet if anyone close to him needed an organ he would donate the organ but not just for anyone...does that make sense?

and im not being mean bc
i dont think you are overreacting at all...but everyone feels different about this..you love him...it shouldnt really make you look that differently at him.

I knowthat I just cant think of dying becuase it upsets me so much. I also looked into some articles a while back about it and they were saying that if you are a doner, they dont really try to hard to rececitate you.....so you might not have died if u werent a doner.. I know its stupid n its just some article but that made me feel weird about it...FH knows that if i was like a Veggie and would never come out of it, then yea, thats fine....But I wouldnt sign one of those cards because its a personal choice about how and what id like to donate...I hope that helps :)

people have different views on this. I am an organ donor and steve hasnt done it yet. My parents understand i want to do it but r a little weird by it but they understand i want to do it. Some people just dont like the idea. I dont blame u for the way you feel but if thats the way he feels then its ok you dont have to like it and he doesnt have to like your decision either. You are doing a wonderful thing!! i applaud you

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Posted by Jamnike

I knowthat I just cant think of dying becuase it upsets me so much. I also looked into some articles a while back about it and they were saying that if you are a doner, they dont really try to hard to rececitate you.....so you might not have died if u werent a doner.. I know its stupid n its just some article but that made me feel weird about it...FH knows that if i was like a Veggie and would never come out of it, then yea, thats fine....But I wouldnt sign one of those cards because its a personal choice about how and what id like to donate...I hope that helps :)

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see now i didnt want to say anything but thats why i dont have 'donor' on my license!! I work in the hospital (ive been in healthcare for some time now) and i have never seen it happen, but i have heard that it happens because the hopsital make a whole bunch of money with that organ and surgical fees!!
Again dont look into to................to each its own

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

i think its personal prefrence and i personally wouldnt judge him b.c of this. im very iffy about this whole topic to be honest.. i just wouldnt want to give someone MY eyes MY heart or MY brain.. my liver kidneys that kinda stuff.. sure.. but everything else STAYS!

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My FH had emergency surgery in February and he filled out all the paper work appointing the decision maker in the event of his death as me (before we were engaged, I was so scared). He said he wanted to donate everything but his eyes!! - he said that freaked him out.

I think for a lot of people, sayingn you'll donate your organs has a lot to do with being afraid of dying in the first place. I don't think you should judge your FH for that, it might just be too hard to think of oneself as no longer needing organs...maybe one day in the future when FH has his own kids, he'll see it differently, but right now it's not enough of a thing for you to get in a fight over... IMO