Am I wrong? sorry long...

no youre not wrong... i dont think she should have picked the same color as you, knowing you had already picked it. doesnt matter which wedding is first. im sorry that happened to you..

I dont think there will be any of the same people at our weddings... but I am really not concerned with what other people will think. I am more concerned with the fact that she knew what I picked and didnt even think twice about taking exactly what I wanted. ...sorry to bother everyone with this but I dont have anyone else to ask and it is hurting my feelings that she is being so snotty and acting like I am being petty

That would make me pretty unhappy too

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Posted by Songstress1212

I would be peeved. She may feel like youre overreacting but she knew what color you chose a long time ago. I mean you dont want to make it into a huge thing but its okay to vent about it...

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I am trying not to turn it into a huge thing but her attitude about it and the tone of voice she used when talking to me about it was completely out of line. She even hung up on me. I cannot believe this is even happening

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Posted by Lucky0510

I dont think there will be any of the same people at our weddings... but I am really not concerned with what other people will think. I am more concerned with the fact that she knew what I picked and didnt even think twice about taking exactly what I wanted. ...sorry to bother everyone with this but I dont have anyone else to ask and it is hurting my feelings that she is being so snotty and acting like I am being petty

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Then I will be upset too!
I am sorry that she is being a Biotch

sorry,
those things dont bother me in the slightest

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Posted by Lucky0510

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Posted by Songstress1212

I would be peeved. She may feel like youre overreacting but she knew what color you chose a long time ago. I mean you dont want to make it into a huge thing but its okay to vent about it...

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I am trying not to turn it into a huge thing but her attitude about it and the tone of voice she used when talking to me about it was completely out of line. She even hung up on me. I cannot believe this is even happening

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She's probably acting defensive because she knows she's wrong! I cant believe she's getting an attitude. Let her cool down before speaking to her again. She started this whole thing to begin with. Dont worry Im sure you guys wont end your friendship because of this. I hope you workit out

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Posted by Lucky0510

I dont think there will be any of the same people at our weddings... but I am really not concerned with what other people will think. I am more concerned with the fact that she knew what I picked and didnt even think twice about taking exactly what I wanted. ...sorry to bother everyone with this but I dont have anyone else to ask and it is hurting my feelings that she is being so snotty and acting like I am being petty

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I might be annoyed if my MOH did that to me because we're related and would have nearly identical guest lists, but even then I'd try not to get too upset. In your situation I just don't see why it's that big of a deal.

As brides we(i'm including myself here) sometimes forget that we don't 'own' anything in relation to our weddings. We dont own the week, the month, the colors we choose, the style gown we pick, or anything else like that.

Try to be flattered instead of annoyed. It's just a dress and nothing to ruin a friendship over.

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Posted by bemyyoko

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Posted by Lucky0510

I dont think there will be any of the same people at our weddings... but I am really not concerned with what other people will think. I am more concerned with the fact that she knew what I picked and didnt even think twice about taking exactly what I wanted. ...sorry to bother everyone with this but I dont have anyone else to ask and it is hurting my feelings that she is being so snotty and acting like I am being petty

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I might be annoyed if my MOH did that to me because we're related and would have nearly identical guest lists, but even then I'd try not to get too upset. In your situation I just don't see why it's that big of a deal.

As brides we(i'm including myself here) sometimes forget that we don't 'own' anything in relation to our weddings. We dont own the week, the month, the colors we choose, the style gown we pick, or anything else like that.

Try to be flattered instead of annoyed. It's just a dress and nothing to ruin a friendship over.

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I am her co- MOH as she puts it and she is in my BP. I don't think I own the color... but, thats what I picked and I think its insane that of all the other 100's of styles and colors of BM dresses... she had to pick exactly what I picked. I mean if the dress was tea length and the same color... I wouldnt mind. It just the point that it is exactly what I picked.

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Posted by Lucky0510

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Posted by bemyyoko

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Posted by Lucky0510

I dont think there will be any of the same people at our weddings... but I am really not concerned with what other people will think. I am more concerned with the fact that she knew what I picked and didnt even think twice about taking exactly what I wanted. ...sorry to bother everyone with this but I dont have anyone else to ask and it is hurting my feelings that she is being so snotty and acting like I am being petty

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I might be annoyed if my MOH did that to me because we're related and would have nearly identical guest lists, but even then I'd try not to get too upset. In your situation I just don't see why it's that big of a deal.

As brides we(i'm including myself here) sometimes forget that we don't 'own' anything in relation to our weddings. We dont own the week, the month, the colors we choose, the style gown we pick, or anything else like that.

Try to be flattered instead of annoyed. It's just a dress and nothing to ruin a friendship over.

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I am her co- MOH as she puts it and she is in my BP. I don't think I own the color... but, thats what I picked and I think its insane that of all the other 100's of styles and colors of BM dresses... she had to pick exactly what I picked. I mean if the dress was tea length and the same color... I wouldnt mind. It just the point that it is exactly what I picked.

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i didnt mean to imply that you think you own the color, that's why i said 'we brides' and gave several examples.... i can understand being annoyed, but i cant see getting too upset over it and ruining a friendship over a dress.
there are tons of other styles and colors yes, but if she loves the same style and color is it really fair for her to compromise her vision of her wedding b/c it's similar to yours?
did she pick the exact same dress? b/c that would be a little silly, and perhaps rude. Either way i don't think insane is a fair term to use when referring to someone who is your close friend b/c of a dress.
Is it actually the same color? have you compared swatches? I only ask because a lot of colors appear to be the same from a distance or when seperate but are actually no where near the same color in person.

again, i understand why you're upset, i'd just hate to hear that your friendship is damaged b/c of this.

I can understand why you're upset.. I won't say you're wrong - I'm sure you have your reasons, it might just be the principle of it... but I personally wouldn't have a problem with this kind of thing. But that's just me... I mean if it's like you said that you probably won't even have the same guests then who will really notice that your bridal parties had the same dress/colors on? except for you and her.... brides are the only ones who really notice these things anyway...

Sorry it's bothering you... try to not let it get to you, it seems she's gonna do what she's gonna do... think of it as flattering - she likes your style!