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AM i WRONG to feel this wayy???

luvabul Posted:

AM i WRONG to feel this wayy???

My wedding is in less than 2 months... and im super excited.
until ...........

i found out FH brother wants to propose to his GF within the next month

i know i probably sound really stupid but for some reason its TOTALLY bothering me.... i mean he cant wait 54 more days? and do it AFTER my wedding...

His sister is coming June 10th next month... and he wants to have a big family bbq, etc so the families meet first, and than another one when he proposes... etc etc...

im really close to FH's brother.... he's been with this girl less than a year ... but anyways thats not my problem...im just so sad about the timing he thinking of doing it...

all the spotlight and attention will be taken off OF ME...i feel , yeah that may sound bratty but ive spent 2 years planning and trying to make everything perfect...only so everyone can be busy with the NEXT new daughter in law .... and busy congratulating them etc....

and to top it all off.... when Adam [my FH] told FMIL he wanted to get married she was no where near excited... and now that FBIL wants to propose to a girl shes NEVER even met ...she just seems so thrilled, thats all she ever tells her friends...but in the meantime she barely wants to acknowledge that her other son is getting married too..? i feel BITTER... and UPSET..


theres nothing i can do... i just dont wana feel this way



EDIT:
FBIL thinks its a perfect time because family from all over Cali, Chicago, Europe, is coming down just for OUR wedding, and he thinks they can meet his GF too and he can do the proposal since all the relatives are in town..... in his mind hes right, but im so bothered!
and FH doesnt care! he's like so what..

and now i dont feel like mentioning anything because i will look immature/jealous


its SO upsetting... like what else can possibly happen? ???

As soon as FH i got engaged, 2 weeks later FSIL announced she was pregnant... than she became the Focus...shes the oldest in the family.. and everyone was busy with her baby shower.. etc etc... and we didnt even HAVE an engagement party because towards the end she wasnt feeling well... and if FMIL wouldnt make it cuz she wanted to be her daughters side what was the point.. argh
i dont want to be bitter forever...

thelastresort Posted:

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I can see why you'd be annoyed with that but there is nothing that is going to take away attention from you on your special day. My friend's FSIL got engaged on the eve of her wedding and nobody paid attention the next day. They were too focused on the wedding. If anything, THEY lost out on the attention their engagement deserved. I wouldn't get bent out of shape about it.

Mrs.A2006 Posted:

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Posted by thelastresort

I can see why you'd be annoyed with that but there is nothing that is going to take away attention from you on your special day. My friend's FSIL got engaged on the eve of her wedding and nobody paid attention the next day. They were too focused on the wedding. If anything, THEY lost out on the attention their engagement deserved. I wouldn't get bent out of shape about it.


I agree...unless he proposes at your wedding or your rehearsal dinner (if your having one) I wouldn't worry about it. It will be impossible for anyone to not to focus on you and your FH on your wedding day!
Kara and Todd Posted:

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Your wedding isn't about the attention from other people - it's about marrying the man of your dreams. I don't see the point in getting so upset over something that should be really exciting for this couple getting engaged. That's not going to take away from your wedding day, unless you let it get to you.

I would just be happy for them. There doesn't seem to be any ill-intent, so I wouldn't make any drama out of it.
smplynluv Posted:

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Don't worry about it.... I can see why you might get bitter about the whole thing but you know what? On your wedding day, you will wow the crowd and they'll be talking about YOU. The proposal attention will be done with before your wedding. Even if people decide to congratulate him on your day, it takes like 3 seconds to say and then they'll move on to those beautiful cp! lol don't let it get you down!

Mizzdimple Posted:

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I dont think your wrong to feel this way but your the main event....people are coming to see you...thats just an added bonus...


I think she may feel robbed of her engagement because your the movie star!!!!!!!!!1
SusiBtoM Posted:

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Don't feel this way.
Yes, it is upsetting to feel as if you will be upstaged on your day, but that won't happen, but keep in mind that everyone will focus on you as the bride.
Your FSIS will be getting the short end of the stick by not having as much attention lavished on her and her special occasion as would if the engagement took place after your wedding.

Just let it go and don't stress.
Some things you just can't control.
LaurenluvsTJ Posted:

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Posted by Kara and Todd

Your wedding isn't about the attention from other people - it's about marrying the man of your dreams. I don't see the point in getting so upset over something that should be really exciting for this couple getting engaged. That's not going to take away from your wedding day, unless you let it get to you.

I would just be happy for them. There doesn't seem to be any ill-intent, so I wouldn't make any drama out of it.


I agree!
Drv0716 Posted:

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Posted by Kara and Todd

Your wedding isn't about the attention from other people - it's about marrying the man of your dreams. I don't see the point in getting so upset over something that should be really exciting for this couple getting engaged. That's not going to take away from your wedding day, unless you let it get to you.

I would just be happy for them. There doesn't seem to be any ill-intent, so I wouldn't make any drama out of it.


Agreed. I don't think anybody will pay any less attention to you becasue they get engaged. Don't let it bother you.
Bridex100 Posted:

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You can't help the way you feel.

Personally I think you should be happy for them. Don't think of it as them taking away from your big day. There will always be other things going on in other people's lives. (promotions, sicknesses, death, births, graduations, the list goes on and on.)

You are getting married! Be happy!
cantwait84 Posted:

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Posted by Drv0716

Posted by Kara and Todd

Your wedding isn't about the attention from other people - it's about marrying the man of your dreams. I don't see the point in getting so upset over something that should be really exciting for this couple getting engaged. That's not going to take away from your wedding day, unless you let it get to you.

I would just be happy for them. There doesn't seem to be any ill-intent, so I wouldn't make any drama out of it.


Agreed. I don't think anybody will pay any less attention to you becasue they get engaged. Don't let it bother you.


i agree with these posts as well...
rkl1130 Posted:

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I actually agree with you.

I know it may sound petty, but I do see exactly where you are coming from. My friend's BF is planning on doing the same thing, which completely pissed me off--I actually talked to him about it because I didn't think it was fair...especially since they used to be engaged and my friend broke it off because she loves him more like a brother and he has many issues.

I know it's a tough situation because you can't control what people will do. But, in the end it is YOUR day and all the focus will be on you and not your FBIL.


DananTodd Posted:

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I don't think it's ever wrong to feel anything..you are only human, and emotions are emotions. I hear what you are saying though..I would prob feel the same way...but, ultimately, it's YOUR day, and on the day of your wedding you won't even think about them!!

emcheung Posted:

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i don't think anything will be taken from your day. as things get closer, people will get more excited. and if you show them how happy and excited you are and will be, they'll be just as excited as you.

LoveBug1124 Posted:

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I don't think you are wrong for being a little upset - but I have to agree with what a few people have said - as long as they don't do it at the RHD or wedding don't sweat it - it won't take away from your big day at all.

Aug06 Posted:

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Try not to worry about it, as long as they are cool about it it should be fine! I got engaged the week before my cousin's wedding and since I live out of town most people found out for the first time at the wedding. I made sure people knew that it was her day and I did not want anyone fussing about it during her wedding and people were great! I did let her know when we were talking and she ended up being so excited she had the DJ announce it and I thought she was so awesome for doing that. Don't worry, you will be the center of attention!

DiamondPipa Posted:

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His mother was just excited b/c now she has all her children basically married off...don't take it personally!!!! My parents were super excited when I got the ring just b/c now they know that both me and my bro and marrying amazing people!!!!! NOT b/c they feel one is better than the other!!!!

MJDoc12 Posted:

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Posted by Kara and Todd

Your wedding isn't about the attention from other people - it's about marrying the man of your dreams. I don't see the point in getting so upset over something that should be really exciting for this couple getting engaged. That's not going to take away from your wedding day, unless you let it get to you.

I would just be happy for them. There doesn't seem to be any ill-intent, so I wouldn't make any drama out of it.


ditto

maybe i just don't jealous like that--but i don't really understand being upset about this. so what if they get engaged the month u get married? don't worry about not having enough attention, you'll have more than enough.
GinaZ Posted:

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ya I can see why you are annoyed, but Im sure on the wedding day its not going to even be an issue or anything. It really wont matter!! Just vent about it on here to get out ur frustrations. I know its annoying, but it really wont matter that day!!!
the future mrs m Posted:

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there's enough happiness to go around. all the attention will still be on you.

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