I am just curious... How many of you still have ex-bf/gf's that STILL try to talk to you via calls, emails etc.?
And how do you handle this?
matron
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I kept in touch with two of my very serious exes quite frequently via e-mail, but it died down alot once I got engaged. I wouldn't mind hearing from either of them actually. I miss them and wonder how they're doing.
Russo'sbride
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When things ended w/ my ex over three years ago I still kept in touch for a while and we were friendly to eachother. I just couldn't see myself hating him.
september2004
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it depends what type of ex it is...
i have one ex who we invited to the wedding! he was my best friend in college for a bit and when we tried to date it became disasterous . we still really like each other but have a friendship base. we write and speak maybe once every 4-6 months.
if it were an ex who still thought there was 'hope' i would cut all ties. i would take care of it myself and not have DH involved as it would only piss him off...
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Posted by september2004
it depends what type of ex it is...
i have one ex who we invited to the wedding! he was my best friend in college for a bit and when we tried to date it became disasterous . we still really like each other but have a friendship base. we write and speak maybe once every 4-6 months.
if it were an ex who still thought there was 'hope' i would cut all ties. i would take care of it myself and not have DH involved as it would only piss him off...
hmmm interesting...
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Throughtout this relationship I've had various contact with all of my exes, some of them trying to get bakc together, some of them wanting booty, some of them just trying to be friends. I keep in touch with one of the, my frst boyfrined from when I was 15. We chat online once in awhile and I see him once or twice a year. We're inviting him to the wedding. it was so long ago, so it's no big deal
dm24angel
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I have no contact with my ex's ..one of whome I broke up with only a week before meeting FH, but if they ( the two most serious) did contact me, I think I would ask how they are doing, and then say how I was getting married etc and then say goodbye. I would NOT feel ok if I knew FH talked to an EX....unless the relationship had always been there, like when you end as friends...If it just ENDED..then I would be uncomfortable having to re-live in a sense the past.
janwinterbridejoy
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i speak to only one ex via email and instant message he lives out of the country most if the year so we never run into each other. i was with him for 7 years so it was hard to break that bond but its very platonic and dh is fine with it
RedHead
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Well i have this ex that will IM me once every 3 months. He has a tendency to bring up old romantic memories, asks me do i still gifts he had given me, or how songs that he heard during the day remind him of me..... I usually give one word answers and then say i gotta run.
I am wondering now should i really be keeping this open line of conversations going.
Danielle&Scott
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I don't have any contact with any of my exes, but myhusband does. We tallked about it b/c it bothered me. Probably b/c I never had a relationship that ended in a friendship. He still stays in contact with via e-mail, she is actually over seas right now.
marymoon
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Well if it's ony every 3 months and you give him one word answers, it's nto worth confronting him. You could just block him online (works wonders!). Or just keep gushing about DH until he gets the picture.
RedHead
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Posted by marymoon
Well if it's ony every 3 months and you give him one word answers, it's nto worth confronting him. You could just block him online (works wonders!). Or just keep gushing about DH until he gets the picture.
i tried the blocking way back when we first broke up and he would constantly create new names to talk to me...
I will definately try to gush about the DH to excess!
sarahthegreat
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there is only 1 ex that i would want to have a friendship with now...but it is literally impossible.
OSCARtheGROOM
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I have no choice in the matter its my son's mother.
wc0143
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Both DH & I see my ex twice a year for cleanings ... he's our dentist!!
Jax430
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I'm actually friends with 5 of my exs! Two of them were in the wedding party, and 4 were at the wedding. One of them was my first boyfriend at age 15...we dated for 5 months and have been friends for 10 years since then - he's one of my best friends. Two others are also former HS boyfriends. One was my first college BF, and he was partially responsible for getting me and DH together - we're both good friends with him. I guess I'm just weird!
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I had one ex that used to call all the time (but not leave a message). That finally ended when I moved to LI (he no longer had my number!). But if he sees my MOH, he hounds her for information about me. He's actually married and has a kid, and still asks about me. Ugh.
Butterflybride
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I'm still good friends with 3 of my exes. One of my exes is actually coming to the wedding
MRSJLK
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One of my ex's I'll talk to on the instant messager every now and then - and another one will send me a text message and I'll get the occasionaly phone call from him. I'm sure once I'm married the communication w/ him will stop.
Neither one will be invited to the wedding....one because he is so annoying and if i have to look at his ugly face at my wedding I will throw up and the other one just because it would be weird
May152005
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I don't talk to any of them, I really only dated 3 guys before I met FH and all 3 of them were jerks & I had absolutely no desire to speak to any of them. The last guy that I dated before I met FH was the worst & when we ended things, I actually told him never to call me again, because I wanted nothing to do with him, well he called me when he found out that FH & I were dating to claim that he needed help with work! The nerve & then he sent me emails insisting that I help him, even though I had told him I was not interested in helping him do anything, regardless of how good the cause is!
