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I know we've done this before. I guess I need a little validation. We are a littleeeee (lie - a lot) over on our guest list. We were trying to include guests for everyone but it think its getting a little unmanageable. I know I was invited to weddings in the past by myself, even when I was in a relationship, and it wasn't the end of the world. I even travelled to Boston for a friends wedding without a guest. BUT I'm concerned people will have something to say about it. I have a bunch of single friends and people in the bridal party that are single - is it okay to not 'and guest them'? FH's family made SUCH a fiasco of the 'no kids' policy. Im just not looking to create more drama. For example, I have cousins that are distant, we are fb friends and because of that I know 1 of the 3 have a bf because of her fb, but I wasn't planning on inviting them with guests. I don't know if the others have bf/gfs, can I just invite them as a family and no one gets a guest?

This makes me so effin nuts. I know that people say if someone doesn't have a guest they wont bring one but ive been to FH's family events where his cousins were bringing their friends because they got invited with +1. So I would like to eliminate that game.

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we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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awesome. thanks for sharing. I think I could live with that. I have to talk to FH about it tonight. its delaying our invites going out.

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This exactly. The bottom line is, no matter what you do (about the guest list or anything else for that matter), someone will have something to say about it. So, do what's right for YOU and forget what other people think. You're not going to be able to please everyone so just worry about what's best for you and FH.

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Posted by Alimm729

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This exactly. The bottom line is, no matter what you do (about the guest list or anything else for that matter), someone will have something to say about it. So, do what's right for YOU and forget what other people think. You're not going to be able to please everyone so just worry about what's best for you and FH.

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This is exactly what we are doing.

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This is what we are doing too! I invited no kids as well and some people gave me a huge problem over it. I was so stressed and finally had people talk some common sense into me, and it's true---we will never be able to please everyone!

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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Same here...

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Posted by karebear1

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This is what we are doing too! I invited no kids as well and some people gave me a huge problem over it. I was so stressed and finally had people talk some common sense into me, and it's true---we will never be able to please everyone!

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we aren't having kids either, aside from the FGs. #sorrynotsorry

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Posted by guitarstikibars

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Posted by karebear1

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This is what we are doing too! I invited no kids as well and some people gave me a huge problem over it. I was so stressed and finally had people talk some common sense into me, and it's true---we will never be able to please everyone!

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we aren't having kids either, aside from the FGs. #sorrynotsorry

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This is what we will probably do as well. We have a couple people in the wedding party who are single and we are currently leaving them on the guest list as & guest because they are in the party. Everyone else 1) only if they have a serious partner or are elderly and need to bring their aide with them. We have one exception because she is coming all the way from Japan for our wedding and would like to bring someone rather than use them only for a bed to crash in and a driver to get her there and back.

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Posted by guitarstikibars

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Posted by karebear1

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This is what we are doing too! I invited no kids as well and some people gave me a huge problem over it. I was so stressed and finally had people talk some common sense into me, and it's true---we will never be able to please everyone!

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we aren't having kids either, aside from the FGs. #sorrynotsorry

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more like, #NOTsorrynotsorry it's my day, i do what i want

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Posted by Alimm729

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Posted by guitarstikibars

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Posted by karebear1

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This is what we are doing too! I invited no kids as well and some people gave me a huge problem over it. I was so stressed and finally had people talk some common sense into me, and it's true---we will never be able to please everyone!

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we aren't having kids either, aside from the FGs. #sorrynotsorry

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more like, #NOTsorrynotsorry it's my day, i do what i want

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::stamps foot::


you don't even want to know how many times i've made decisions and said to myself 'whatever, i'm the bride'

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not even reading the other comments on this post, sorry if this is a repeat-
there is NOTHING wrong with inviting people without a guest if they are not in a relationship! ESPECIALLY if they will know a ton of other people there!!
my general rule is: im only inviting dates if they dont know anyone else, if im friends with their s/o, or if theyre living with or engaged to their s/o.

of course after the guest list was made this way i added on a bunch of 'and guest's left and right but thats bc we ended up with room.

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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perfectly stated. we're in the same position with our +1 situation

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This!

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Posted by Jack84

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This!

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Yes! Don't feel bad at all, you are not being unreasonable. We only have 2 friends who are single and I gave them both a plus one since I didn't want them to feel like the two odd balls, although they will know everyone there so either way there's no issue. But we did not give any of the cousins or nieces/nephews a plus one. They are all on the young side and even though some have had s/o in the past they haven't reached 'bring them to grandma's for Christmas' status lol so there's no way I'm letting the flavor of the month come to the wedding lol

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Posted by Alimm729

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Posted by guitarstikibars

we are giving everyone in our bridal party a +1, regardless of their relationship status. however, for the 'general population,' we are ONLY giving a guest if (1) they have a serious partner or (2) they are one of those random friends who aren't connected to any other circle of friends and would be totally awkward alone.

people need to get over it. weddings are expensive and you can't please everyone.

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This exactly. The bottom line is, no matter what you do (about the guest list or anything else for that matter), someone will have something to say about it. So, do what's right for YOU and forget what other people think. You're not going to be able to please everyone so just worry about what's best for you and FH.

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I did and guest! But one that are engaged I put there names

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I'm feeling this now too since I sat down the other day to type out the official guest list with the plus ones and the numbers scared me.