So one of our groomsmen is getting married in January and I was so excited to see the wedding invitation in the mail...until I opened it. The invitation is addressed to FH and GUEST?!! I'm usually not a sensitive person but I must admit I was a little hurt. Me and FH have been together for 6 years, living together, engaged, and the groom is in the bridal party, so of course I feel a little insulted. I'm not going to say anything it is what it is but I can't help that it bothered me. Sorry for the rant.
Kimberley2015
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I know how you feel and you have every right to feel insulted. That had happened to me this one time I was dating this guy. We were together for 3 years and his cousin was getting married. I was addressed as a plus one. Trust me that comment reflected the amount in the envelope. Under no circumstance am I saying that in your situation but would you mention to FH as to why it was addressed to and guest?
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I too know how you feel. Last year we were invited to a wedding for whom the bride I've known since childhood and the groom I've been best friends with since middle school and so has fh. The groom was practically living with FHs family at one point in high school. So we get the invite and its to 'the amato family and Renee'. REALLY?! You don't know my last name?!? It's on Facebook for crying out loud, we played in the sandbox together, we played spin the bottle! Grr people are so stupid some times. I never said anything and were still very close friends with them now lol
FutureMrsPonce
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Don't take it to heart. Not everyone has invitation etiquette.
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I would have been happy if at least my first name was on it lol I told FH not to bother asking there's nothing that can be done about it now. Yeah I'm just chalking it up to lack of etiquette. Maybe I'll write FH'S name and Guest on their wedding gift haha jk
Its pretty rude. I was considering doing stuff like this to the people who annoyed me or who had SO's that we didn't get along with. The only one I forgot to change that with is my friend from HS because I forgot to change 'guest' to her boyfriends name on my final guest list before it went to the printers.
killerqueen
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Wow. Chalk it up to a lack of etiquette and maybe make a little 'joke' the next time you see them
Mmaser86
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Same exact thing happened to me this past summer. Just gotta laugh it off to bad manners,
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Sometimes, like me, people wait until the last minute to print the invitations and don't have the time to find out the other person's name. I didn't do it with any malice but a lot of invitations said and guest because my designer need the list by 2 and I was typing it at 1:30 and working and eating lunch. I wouldn't put and guest on the seating arrangement though, that is pretty tacky.
FutureMrsPonce
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It would be hilarious if you write your name in all CAPS for the wedding gift.
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Don't take it personally. We have a few guests who have a gf or bf and we put and guest on the invitation. But the seating chart will have their name on it. We arent coming from a bad place, we just wanted to make sure that we aren't re-doing (and duplicate paying) calligraphied envelopes.
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Don't take it personally. We have a few guests who have a gf or bf and we put and guest on the invitation. But the seating chart will have their name on it. We arent coming from a bad place, we just wanted to make sure that we aren't re-doing (and duplicate paying) calligraphied envelopes.
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I kind of understand if you guys were just dating but since you are getting married and that this guy is in your wedding party, they should have put your name on the invitation! I would be offended too.
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I see where you're coming from,but they probably just wanted to keep it simple since they couldn't just write Mr. & Mrs. ____ (yet). I know it stinks but I wouldn't let it ruin your day
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Posted by ChristineNicole
I kind of understand if you guys were just dating but since you are getting married and that this guy is in your wedding party, they should have put your name on the invitation! I would be offended too.
This exactly if I was just a girlfriend I totally would have been ok whatever. But we're engaged getting married in almost a year! I've just let it be...I've just learned when sending out my invites I'm going to take the time and write the full names of people in long term relationships I would hate to make someone else feel the same way I did.
