And the FMIL issues commence.....need help! Or ....
Original post by Soon2BMrsErichsen
J/K with the xanax part! lol
So, I've been waiting 3 weeks to get a tentative guest list from my FMIL. Finally, my FH says he'll be picking it up today. I get home to a 3 page list!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously? ***? My mom and dad have both kept it to a minimum 75-85 people....we've been budgeting for a 150 person wedding, as that's what we can afford. Small, intimate....and that's not even THAT small! Ready for her count alone?? 153!!! 153 people! Cousins...and cousins of cousins....my FH doesn't even KNOW most of the people on the list! This doesn't include all the people HE want to invite that his mother doesn't know....friends, coworker etc.
What do I do???
P.S. My mom is helping on a small portion, but we are, for the most part paying for the entire thing. They haven't offered, nor are we going to ask them. We are adults and can perfectly handle a MEDIUM sized wedding....well, I thought we could......
I need a drink.....
Oh...and now I know why she told us that 10 months wouldn't be enough when we told her about the possible summer date.
Re: And the FMIL issues commence.....need help! Or ....
I really don't mean to laugh but thank you for the enjoyable reading material while I patiently wait for my workday to end!
I, like some others, am not haveing FMIL issues but FFIL ones!!! Don't get me wrong, he is a wonderful man but a little too opinionated! FH has a huge family and his FFIL's guest list, right now, is at 131...and he left people off! They did offer to pay for their side, which is wonderful, but I really didn't want a huge wedding....plus I don't want all these kids there either! And we have no idea how many kids are included in this number. We are making this our wedding, though...so ultimately, what we want will be what goes!
So, as i am doing with my mother who is unable to contribute, put your foot down and if their are other's who don't make it to your list that are on hers, tell her she has to pay!
Good Luck!
5272012
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Re: And the FMIL issues commence.....need help! Or ....
WOW! im sorry you have to deal with that.
I like the suggestion of giving them an amount of people they can invite. Or you come up with a list of who you are inviting that you think they would want and say hey, anyone else you want?
Be nice about it..but be persistant and stay with how u feel..dont cave in!
goodluck
kcoleman1981
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Wow! This sounds all too familiar!! My FMIL did the same exact thing to me.
My FH and I are paying for our wedding completely by ourselves. She had the nerve to give me a 2 page guest list!! They are people that I never even met before.
I think it's only fair for her to pay for these people, since SHE is the one who wants them there on our wedding day!
Gotta love it, right!?!?!
fdnybride163
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oh boy,
so just tell her, if you dont talk to them on a weekly basis they are not coming. OR if you want to invite them then you have to pay for them, and also pay for a new hall because they DONT FIT!
stand your ground and tell her absolutely not. Im really hoping that your FH will stand w you on this one and when she sees the two of you together she will realize that its not worth the fight, time or money to invite people you dont even know, and i agree that you should allow her the same amount of people that your parents have, so no complaints!!
