I just need to vent because I am having a hard time dealing with this... So for those of you who already know all the drama that I have been dealing with my FSIL its still going...for those of you who dont know here is a short story... FSIL does not get along with FH therefore for some reason she does not get along with me. She does not say hello to me she pretty much doesnt even acknowledge me no matter where we are....she makes comments about us all the time to her parents and so on. She is going to be one of my BMs because FMIL would not let us NOT have her so we are stuck....so with that I refused to ask her so FH did and of course she said yes to him but never mentioned it to me...ANYWAY so now its 4 months before the wedding and I told FMIL to tell her she has 4 days to go order the BM dress ( i wanted them ordered by a certain date bc they take long to come in) Ok so on the 4th day I go to the store and she still has not ordered her dress...I call FH and tell him and he calls his mom and flips out.......About 45 mins after my call to him she walks in the store ( i was still there helping my mom shop for a dress) and says Im here...so we go to order the dress and she says to me 'I have to tell you something......I say ok WHAT? so she looks at me and says 'I AM PREGNANT and I cannot wear this dress..I will be 6 months for your wedding' At this point I had no words and I tried to have her just back out of being in the wedding but she didnt get it.....NOW she picks out a different dress which I absolutly DO NOT like and then she tells me 'Oh you CANT say anything because no one knows and we are not sure when we are gonna tell everyone'
Ok so now that I made this longer then it had to be here is how it ends: I am keeping this secret from everyone but my FH and of course my parents and I am as well as FH praying that the dress comes in and is to SMALL....... I know some of you girls might think I should just get over it but if you saw how she treated us you might not feel that way..
OH 1 more thing......This is what she says to me as we are leaving the store 'And look this wasent even suppose to be about ME'
I cried the whole way home
Thanks for letting me vent!!
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That really *****! This is suppose to be your day ...It isnt selfish to pray that the dress doesnt fit...if anything I will pray with you lol...I am just so mad that your FMIL insists she be in ur wedding..even tho u dont want her to be. Good luck....
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I would feel the same way...........this girl is a monster. I wish that your FMIL did not insist that your FSIL be in the BP...........she does not deserve to be part of your day.
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If she wasn't not pregnant I think I would have had to punch her in the face. I don't even know this girl and I am getting mad just thinking of her selfishness. I truly feel very bad for you.
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Hey Maryanne, this may sound bad but what if you asked the place to order her a smaller size than what she origionally ordered? Two things will happen. One- she backs out. Two- she gets pissy with the store manager for ordering her the wrong size and demands a new dress.
Good luck! Sorry she is such a biatch!
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Hey Maryanne, this may sound bad but what if you asked the place to order her a smaller size than what she origionally ordered? Two things will happen. One- she backs out. Two- she gets pissy with the store manager for ordering her the wrong size and demands a new dress.
Good luck! Sorry she is such a biatch!
LOL That;s what I said!!!!! Listen not for nothing but I thought you should have just said NO to a different dress. Would she have let you pick a totally different dress for her wedding? This is YOUR wedding Day and you can't let other people run it for you. I would put my foot down and cancel her order !!!! Ok maybe it is too late for that???? This is just your MOH venting a little.....she will pay somehow :)
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oh my goodness...I cannot believe all the stuff she has done to you. I dont know what to say. I just dont understand why she is treating you this way.
i understand she may not get along with your brother but to treat you like dirt is just crap.....i cannot believe it. I dont know what I would do in your case. Good Luck....and you can vent to us any time....
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wow...I give you alot of credit. She sounds like a very cold person...well what goes around comes around. you are the better person...and we all hope the dress doesnt fit! LOL
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Don't let her get to you! It's your day and if she doesnt like it then tuff s**t! Seriously...Tell her that YOU don NOT like the dress and you either A: want a different one or B: Tell her that she needs to back out! I'm not trying to be a beeatch I'm just sayin it's your day and if you think the dress is not what you want then you have to do something about it because you will see it in all the pics and be like *** why did I let her wear it! Aside from kicking her out totally there has to be some sort of solution you guys can come to...without causing a major fight between everyone. I feel your pain believe me!!! One of my BM's is pregnant and abut to give birth and absolutely REFUSES to get sized for a dress and wants to wait until like february to order her dress...WHAT????? The wedding is in JUne!
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What a little witch ~ I know it is mean but I will pray for you that the dress will be to small and she cant wear it and will be to late to order another dress...so is her dress different than all the other girls?
sorry sweetie that you are going through this!
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Man... I don't even KNOW this girl and I can't STAND her. I wanna stomp her toes.
JKamore
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wow.... your FSIL sounds like mine! I didn't ask to to be in my bridal party and my FMIL respected our decision. She is the type of person that would need the attention on her that day. I almost asked her out of respect.....thank-goodness I did not! I think I would have made a big mistake!
I hope that the dress doesn't fit and that she can't be in your bridal party! hehe Sorry that your FSIL isn't so nice
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All I can say is that I am sorry you are going to have her for a sister in law.
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OK, not for nothing but I think you're being extremely stupid for letting her be in your bridal party. Kick the bit** out! Deal with the drama that comes with it, but at least have people who love you and care about you in your bridal party. Thats just my opinion.... XOXOXO Kitty
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MARYANN
I CAN'T BELIEVE YOU LET HER PICK AN OTHER DRESS. OMG. ITS YOUR WEDDING DAY. SCREW HER. SEE I WOULD BE SPITFUL AND TELL EVERYONE SHE PREGANT. I WOULD FIX HER . DO YOU THINK SHE DID THIS ON PURPOSE BECAUSE SHE A JEALOUS WITCH!!!!!!!
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That completely *****! SOrry you have to deal with a FSIL like that! Maybe over time she will just back out! Never know...hormones raging bitchiness she just might!
I think it is ridiculous that your FMIL is insisting that she be in the BP...if they dont get along then why? B/c she iwll throw a tantrum if she isnt? ugh
Good Luck
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My question is have you ever said anything to her? Ask her what the **** her problem is. If she doesnt like you then she shouldnt be standing with you. Tell her to stand with her brother. Your better than me cause I would've cursed her out a long time ago. You shouldnt have to be subjected to her crap just because. It's your day, if she cant wear the dress you picked then she has to go. It's NOT about her, bring it up to her parents how she wont wear your dress, let her explain why she doesnt want to wear it .
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What an evil evil person! I'm so sorry you have to deal w/ her. But honestly, I would just kick her out of the bridal party. This is YOUR day. You FSIL and FMIL should respect that!
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that stinks, I am sorry you have to deal with this,
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You poor girl!!!! I have to say I totally understand how you feel. The exact same thing happened to my cousin and her sister. Her sister (my other cousin) got pregnant out of wed lock and was 8 months pregnant at her wedding. She couldn't even stand up at the alter with us. Needless to say it was a difficult time for all of us. My cousin had her dress specially fitted, you should totally see if a seamstress can do that to the one you want her to wear.
Hang in there, everything will work out! and your day will be beautiful.
