Annoyed with FH

ZCHM08 Posted: Jul 21, 2007 05:45 PM

Annoyed with FH

Sorry girls, but I need to vent!

Afew weeks ago, I asked FH if we could include my MOH's (my best friend) husband in our BP. We had room for 1 more guy and since FH and her hisband are pretty good friends, I thought this would be a nice addition to our BP. FH got all upset and said that he felt that the entire BP was made up of my friends/family and that he wanted to put one of his male cousins in our BP (not true, he asked 8 people to be in the BP and I had asked 8 people). I let it go and didn't make a big deal out of it.
So, as of this morning, our BP (not counting 2 flower girls & our 1 ring boy) had 7 girls and 6 guys in it.
FH just called me to tell me that an old friend of his (not a close friend, and also someone that FH isn't even too fond of) passed by to tell FH that he got married a month and a half ago. The guy was with FH as we were on the phone - suddelny FH says to me 'By the way, I asked my cousin to be in our BP this morning and I'm also asking my friend to be in it as well.' The guy was right there!!!!
I don't mind FH putting friends in the BP - I want him to put whoever he wants. But to be honest, I'm really upset with him right now. He added 2 guys to the BP without even telling me before he did it!!!
This 'friend' of his got married over a month ago and didn't even call FH to tell him. FH hasn't even seen him in a few months! Meanwhile FH sees my best friend's husband all the time - even when my best friend and I asren't with them!
UGH!!!!!!!!!

I really want to address this with FH tonight when I see him but I know it's going to cause a HUGE fight. Any suggestions?

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chrispar Posted: Jul 21, 2007 05:56 PM

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I can definitely understand why you are upset. This is a tough one though because you don't want to start a fight yet it's not fair for you to hold it in if its bothering you this much. I think the best way to approach it is to say it in a non accusatory and non confrontational way otherwise FH will totally get defensive. Good luck. Let us know how it goes.

ZCHM08 Posted: Jul 22, 2007 01:40 AM

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Thanks - I talked to him about it tonight and everything went well.

ILOVEBRIAN2008 Posted: Jul 22, 2007 01:42 AM

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yeah i def see your point...his cousin fine, but some random friend that he didnt even know just got married? thats a bit annoying

JTsGal829 Posted: Jul 22, 2007 04:19 AM

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well i'm glad it went well. I totally get why you're upset but i hope that your talk with FH fixed it a bit!!!!! hope it all works out!

alymikewedding08 Posted: Jul 22, 2007 10:52 AM

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YAY!! I'm glad you worked it out!

megzzie Posted: Jul 22, 2007 10:55 AM

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I totally understand why you were upset, but I'm glad everything worked out!

dream426 Posted: Jul 22, 2007 10:55 AM

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I am glad it went well and I do think it was important that you talked to him about it. It would just continue to bother you and might have been worse keeping it in.

ZCHM08 Posted: Jul 22, 2007 12:04 PM

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Thanks everyone. It all worked out for the best. FH is going to include his 'friend'. (The only reason he asked him is b/c the guy was telling FH how he has never been in a BP and he always wanted to - not exactly a good reason to include someome in a BP, but FH wanted to do it so......)
FH completely forgot that I wanted to include my MOH's husband. We decided we are going to ask him too. And, instead of asking his male cousin to be in the BP, FH is going to ask one of his female cousins so that way our couples will be an even number of guys and girls.
Our BP is alittle larger than I would have liked, but we're both happy so that's what's important.

We have 8 guys (including his BM), 8 girls (Including my MOH), 2 flower girls & 1 ring bearer - WHEW!