Another question for the Monday blues

stinenandy2010 Posted: Nov 03, 2008 11:43 AM

Another question for the Monday blues

I heard something on the radio the other day that got me thinking.....

Did you ladies ever talk with FH about getting married? Was there any pressure for FH to propose? Did you not see it coming at all?

For me - I was kind of at the breaking point. When FH got a job in CT, he wanted me to move with him - So I quit my job, commute from CT to Stony Brook for my masters, and moved away from all my family. I told him if I did this, he has 1 year to pop the question or I was moving back home. I had to know I was doing all of this for a reason. Well 11 months later, he popped the question. So we definitely talked about it and I knew it was coming but I was totally surprised at the way he did it.

christophersgirl Posted: Nov 03, 2008 11:49 AM

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hmm, for us we both always knew we would get hitched one day, we're always talking about 'when we get married..' on those drives homes after a wedding we attended, not sure if there was that much pressure on him though, if anything i think he woud've done it sooner had his sister not been waiting for HER engagment first... he pretty much gave it away when he was ring shopping so it was and it wasn't a surprise proposal haha, i just didnt' know exactly when it would happen.

Its2Snappy Posted: Nov 03, 2008 11:49 AM

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I had been dating my FH for 8 years before he proposed. And I was definitely feeling like $hit or get off the pot, so to speak. I had moved to Japan for a few months to teach, and when I moved back home I wanted to move in together. When he said that he wasn't ready, I was devastated, and ready to go right back to Japan. But, a few weeks later, he proposed! He wasn't ready to move in, because he had saved his money for the ring!

T E R I Posted: Nov 03, 2008 11:50 AM

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FH would always bring it up about getting married and living together, I never really thought about it until he would bring it up. I never pressured him about it, until he started teasing me about my ring-once I knew he had it-I wanted it

stinenandy2010 Posted: Nov 03, 2008 12:00 PM

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Posted by T E R I

FH would always bring it up about getting married and living together, I never really thought about it until he would bring it up. I never pressured him about it, until he started teasing me about my ring-once I knew he had it-I wanted it

haha!

christophersgirl Posted: Nov 03, 2008 12:04 PM

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Posted by stinenandy2010

Posted by T E R I

FH would always bring it up about getting married and living together, I never really thought about it until he would bring it up. I never pressured him about it, until he started teasing me about my ring-once I knew he had it-I wanted it

haha!

rocketsummer17 Posted: Nov 03, 2008 12:06 PM

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we had always talked about it but i never pressured him to ask me...I was fine with waiting a while but he was the one who wanted to get married like NOW!! He apparently has a very strict timeline of 'married with kids' so I guess he wants to get on that now being he turns 30 in 2 1/2 years...guess the kids timeline will have to wait!!

JenBill61210 Posted: Nov 03, 2008 12:21 PM

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i guess we always joked about it but i never pressured him. i guess if i was a bit older then i probably would have!

RitasEngaged Posted: Nov 03, 2008 12:22 PM

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We talked about it all the time and he was pressured. we almost broke up many times over it and if he didn't do it when he did we would have been over.

RedsBride Posted: Nov 03, 2008 05:20 PM

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We talked about getting engaged for awhile. I'd say it was a good 9 months I did tell him when we moved in together that I wanted things to get more serious and take the next step so I guess there was some pressure too! But he felt the same way. We were very honest with each other. The money just wasn't there for a ring cuz he had just bought a new car (his old one died on him).

MrsL2010 Posted: Nov 03, 2008 05:31 PM

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we talked about it all the time. I would jokingly tell him that I NEEDED a ring and I couldn't live without one, but there was never any pressure for him to propose.

FallBride2010 Posted: Nov 03, 2008 05:37 PM

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I pretty told him I was kicking him out of the house if he didnt get his sh*t together. I raise his two kids...so I needed some sign of commitment.

mosh424 Posted: Nov 03, 2008 06:42 PM

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It is something we def. talked about a lot but i would never say there was pressure from either one of us to get engaged, the families on the other hand gave us pressure!

christine2010 Posted: Nov 03, 2008 07:16 PM

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we spoke about it in passing a couple of times in the past 8 years. but in february of 2007, we were at my friends engagement party & FH turned to me & said, 'its upsetting that my dad is going to miss all these events when we get engaged & married.' his dad had only passed away a month prior. honestly i thought he had to much to drink & never thought anything of it. but 13 months later we were engaged.

Ray8183 Posted: Nov 03, 2008 07:31 PM

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We talked about it a lot and brought the ring together. If we didn't need a place to live we would have gotten married this month.

CloudNine Posted: Nov 03, 2008 07:32 PM

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we always talked about it like 'when we get married ' , 'when we have kids' but it was always in a positive way. never a pressure of anything.

he kinda took it upon himself to decide that we would get angaged soon, he told me he had started a 'bling bling' account and that was his savings for my ring

LouMar2010 Posted: Nov 03, 2008 07:56 PM

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we would talk about it but there was never any pressure. FH would bring up all the time that i needed to have a real teaching position instead of teachers assistant before we could get married. he would say that to throw me off because he had already bought the ring.

JoanneAndJustin Posted: Nov 03, 2008 10:14 PM

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I always have these stories, or I tend to over-explain... either way here it goes:

BACKGROUND: Before FH I dated a 'boy' for 5.5 YEARS who PROMISED AND PROMISED and PROMISED a ring. Always something in the way. I should have known better, but you know...

I met FH and we got serious rather quickly... I don't remember who brought it up first but from pretty early on, we talked marriage. I told him I wouldn't take ANY of his talk seriously without a ring. 17 months after we started dating he bought it. There wasn't any pressure, but I wouldn't have been dating him at the 2 year mark without the ring. I just knew I didn't have to worry about that!

grrulz Posted: Nov 03, 2008 11:42 PM

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well after 4 years i was like WHERE IS THE RING? so sometimes i will throw hints here and there but it wasn't anything excessive I totally didn't know he was going to pop the question. It was a total surprise. Actually when i started hinting he had already bought the ring. He bought the ring 2 months before the actual engagement! He did it all!