Any advice would be appreciated ladies
new name due to lurkers. i feel so sad and i dont know what to do. i feel like i have no one to talk to bc they would be judgemental and hold a grudge with me or fh in the future so i am posting here.
would you be upset if a bridesmaid couldnt attend your shower? reason being bc she is in another bridal party and has to attend that girls bach party out of state- which i completely understand she needs to be there for her other friend as well BUT she knew of my shower date for a year. couldnt she of told them that day was no good for her? also, what really baffles me is a few months ago she told me how perfect all the dates worked out between the 2 weddings/events bc they were doing the other girls bach party a week before mine. now something must of changed bc they are doing the other bach party on the date of my shower? when i thought the other date was the only day that worked for them? whatever happened idk, i just feel like the right thing to do was to say hey, i cant do it this date bc i had something planned for the past year.
so i only know this bc fh has a big mouth and told me. im not supposed to know anything but wouldnt say anything to her anyway- it is what it is - im just upset. dont i have a right to be upset/disappointed??? well fh basically flips on me last night bc i was upset, calling me a baby etc. and saying that other people cant revolve everything around me other people get married too. yeah i get it, im just upset and disappointed so let me be, ill get over it. but now im even more upset bc shouldnt your fh be the one person you can talk to when your upset and make u feel better? instead i get yelled at and told to get out of his face. so now i feel as though i cant ever talk to him when im upset bc this is what i get. ughhhh sooo frustrated i dont even want to talk to him now im dreading it.
thanks if you read this long bs sorry
would you be upset if a bridesmaid couldnt attend your shower? reason being bc she is in another bridal party and has to attend that girls bach party out of state- which i completely understand she needs to be there for her other friend as well BUT she knew of my shower date for a year. couldnt she of told them that day was no good for her? also, what really baffles me is a few months ago she told me how perfect all the dates worked out between the 2 weddings/events bc they were doing the other girls bach party a week before mine. now something must of changed bc they are doing the other bach party on the date of my shower? when i thought the other date was the only day that worked for them? whatever happened idk, i just feel like the right thing to do was to say hey, i cant do it this date bc i had something planned for the past year.
so i only know this bc fh has a big mouth and told me. im not supposed to know anything but wouldnt say anything to her anyway- it is what it is - im just upset. dont i have a right to be upset/disappointed??? well fh basically flips on me last night bc i was upset, calling me a baby etc. and saying that other people cant revolve everything around me other people get married too. yeah i get it, im just upset and disappointed so let me be, ill get over it. but now im even more upset bc shouldnt your fh be the one person you can talk to when your upset and make u feel better? instead i get yelled at and told to get out of his face. so now i feel as though i cant ever talk to him when im upset bc this is what i get. ughhhh sooo frustrated i dont even want to talk to him now im dreading it.
thanks if you read this long bs sorry
