We opted to pay for everything ourselves since I didn't want anyone trying to takeover and do things their way. But it's getting crazy how expensive everything is and it adds up so quick. I'm not regretting it but my fmil is constantly saying to me that they have money if I need to borrow and just pay them back after. I feel like if I do that than she will think she has a say. Am I the only one out there who is stressing doing this? I know I'll feel so good after knowing that we did it all by ourselves. Ugh just stressing and venting
Butterflyfaye
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FH and I are paying for probably close to about half of our own wedding.
My parents are paying for the RH - which also happens to be our ceremony location, food, drinks and includes cake. So they are completely covering that part of the wedding, but want us to keep it as close to 100 people as possible....
FH and I are paying for the rest - which means mostly I'm paying for the rest. FH moved long distance (from Florida to NY) to be up here with me. He's got a job, pays his own bills, has a bit of extra money - but unfortunately he had a much better jobi n Florida... not as good up here.
He's on the job hunt, and where he is is steady.. but its not a lot of extra income. He is talking of picking up a second job, but I'd rather him not be burnt out...
He is going back to college to finally complete his bachelors. So there is some positive
DianaAndAnthony2013
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We are paying for our wedding, it is expensive and overwhelming but at least we get to do everything the way we want to
Sabellabride12
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We are paying for our wedding ourselves with little help but it has caused many fights and stress. I am going to try to do as much DIY things but I can't help wanting little extras like photo booth and boxed invitations so I'm trying to work extra hard to cover those things but am willing to cut them out if I have to. Its not worth all the stress
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Posted by fdnybride163
my parents are paying for reception, yet FMIL is taking that as an invitation to invite everyone she has ever met!
Im like NOPE if you want 80+ people then you are more then welcome to pay the difference. So they cut their list.. how freakin cheap?
**She even told my FSIL oh its so nice that it looks like lindsay's parents are going to let us invite anyone we want...
this isnt the olden days where you trade me for a goat... pay for you ish.. sorry youhave 3 boys cough it up lady
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We are paying for the whole thing ourselves. I like it...like that I have the only say! LOL It's hard but we budgeted by the month and bonuses will be going towards it and tax returns so all in all it works out.
The greatest lesson I learned while planning my wedding is that if we can save over 30 grand in a year and a half then we better learn how to have an amazing savings account after we are married. Its amazing how much money I used to spend on nonsense! We refuse to put any thing at all for the wedding on a credit card so it just goes to show that people really can save money if they are forced to. It's a lesson I never thought I'd learn. I penny pinch here and there but after the wedding we are going to keep the same savings plan we have now. Who the hell did I think I was just spending hundreds of dollars a week on what? I don't even have a lot of clothes. Stupid lotto and lunches and ordering takeout. Not anymore!
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My parents are helping out by giving a lump sum for us to use as we need, but it basically (not even completely) covers the RH. Of course my parents are taking that as an excuse to invite everyone and their mother... or is it the fact that my father believes its THEIR celebration, not FH and mine... hmmm
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Posted by fdnybride163
my parents are paying for reception, yet FMIL is taking that as an invitation to invite everyone she has ever met!
Im like NOPE if you want 80+ people then you are more then welcome to pay the difference. So they cut their list.. how freakin cheap?
**She even told my FSIL oh its so nice that it looks like lindsay's parents are going to let us invite anyone we want...
this isnt the olden days where you trade me for a goat... pay for you ish.. sorry youhave 3 boys cough it up lady
This cracks me up!!! FMIL has 3 boys too... and didn't even ASK how many people she could invite, just gave FH a list... UGH
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We did and it was not fun. My only advice would be to dont go over board with all the little extras that you see others doing on this site bc they add up. Its a day and it flies by.
As far as accepting the money I'd say yes and that its going towards your HM, therefore no need for anyone to feel the need to comment on your wedding planning. Giving you money shouldnt come in exceptions and you both should be able to do what you like. Treat it like a loan.
fdnybride163
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Posted by fdnybride163
my parents are paying for reception, yet FMIL is taking that as an invitation to invite everyone she has ever met!
Im like NOPE if you want 80+ people then you are more then welcome to pay the difference. So they cut their list.. how freakin cheap?
**She even told my FSIL oh its so nice that it looks like lindsay's parents are going to let us invite anyone we want...
this isnt the olden days where you trade me for a goat... pay for you ish.. sorry youhave 3 boys cough it up lady
This cracks me up!!! FMIL has 3 boys too... and didn't even ASK how many people she could invite, just gave FH a list... UGH
