Any ideas on re: deceased father

My father is not alive and I just thought about the whole father/daughter dance. Obviously that is out. I dont want to dance with my brother just for the sake of dancing with a male family member. Of course I could just opt for just not having any dance but then I was thinking, if anyone, it should be my mother but I don't think I like the idea of a mother/daughter dance, maybe but I cant picture it.. IF anyone has any ideas or has seen how other brides have handled this in a creative or touching way, please let me know. Thanks girls..

My fiancee and I decided to go through with the wedding because it was wanted she wanted. I have been having a very hard time figuring what to do to honor her. For me this loss is still difficult as she just passed away in March. I would prefer to elope, but we have too much family and friends to do that (plus we would lose all our deposits).

Anyway, I think the donation idea is great, though for me I think I want to do something more. I want to feel as she is there with us, but I don't want it to be too depressing either.

What kind of dance will you have with your Mom? I mean, a traditionally male/female partner type of dance position? (I just dont know, sorry if I sound so clueless)

I like your idea as well. I think I am going to do the same.

You know, I was just thinking there are ways we can honor our mothers in our own private way. For example, I am planning on wearing my mother's pearls. I am thinking about arranging my bouquet in pink (my mother loved pink and she loved flowers) I am also going to attach my grandmother's (mom's mom) handkerchief to my wedding dress. And my fiancee and I are going to Hawaii for our honeymoon, this is where my parents went on their honeymoon. In this way I feel that I will keep a personal connection with her on that day.

Thanks Marisol, Ann Marie, Kate for your thoughts & suggestions re dancing with my mother. It was my mother who really raised both me & my brother. I certainly do want my mother to have her moments in the spotlight too on my wedding day. My fiancee & I will honor our fathers (his father is also deceased). I have to say it is just the beginning of plans for us and I am overflowing with emotions. His mother has Alzheimers and he is the last child to get married in his family. She is not too far gone in the disease today and I hope she is still doing as well next March 17th (our wedding date). Anyway, we are also going to set up a table with pictures at the reception, his parents wedding pic, my parents wedding pic, my grandparents pic, photos of us from our trips to Utah & California. I'm getting into the ideas of how to make our day extra special for us. Enough from me on this subject..Thanks for listening, fellow brides

Hope this helps, and good luck with whatever you decide.