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Original post by lolita4life

Oct 14, 2004 10:18 PM

just wondering if any of you have any major regrets with your current relationship?
One thing you would go back an undo, or do.

If you could start your relationship over, would you?!

I would. When i met my FH i was a niave 16 year old, 17 when i started having feelings for him. He was currently living with his then GF. We all worked together. They started having problems and were on again off again, exept they always ended up together for two reasons. 1: they had a lease on their house, and 2: she was crazy (literally) she would try to kill herself if he would say he didnt love her anymore or he wnted to leave.... anyway, during this time we started up.. even though we TRIED to wait!!! we really did. But in the end it was hurting all of us. me, my FH and his ex gf. I hated that he would tell me he loved ME, but would go home to HER. he was confused b/c ppl told him he was wrong for liking a younger girl... and he felt guilty leaving his gf. anyway, so if i could go back and change something i would. i wouldve waited til he left her for good. We broke up for a few days and then he realized he wanted me back.... i said NO, not while shes still living there. A few days later he called me back, she was gone. for good. i made him wait a few more months to see how serious we felt about each other, and obviously we cared ALOT... but if i could go back i wouldve done that ALOT sooner.

i also regret that i got so mad at him i started seeing someone else to get over him (during our 3 month break) which got me into bad things.... which only kept me away from him longer. i finally realized that that person cared more about drugs than me, and it was like a wake-p call. i called my FH and the rest is history

ckgmwedding Posted: Oct 14, 2004 11:36 PM

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I wish we have done this wedding business long time ago lol

me too! I wished we didn't have to wait this long. I feel like its being dragged out. I also would like to be pregnant now. I am getting too old.

yay it means I am going to be Aunt Aga in not so distant future

If I am lucky, I bet I am the first 05 bride on our board to be pregnant! I am hoping for a honeymoon baby....Go Aunt Aga!

lolita4life Posted: Oct 14, 2004 11:44 PM

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I would be 6 months pregnant right now!

azoodie Posted: Oct 15, 2004 07:14 AM

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jess did you have a loss? i'm so sorry

this whole thread is way too deep for me but interesting to read nonetheless.

i must say though, i can barely see past all the '05 weddings...then '05ers having babies!!!!

omg i can't wait!!!!

Ang&Rich Posted: Oct 15, 2004 09:46 AM

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I think what I regret most is that we decided to buy the co-op and hold off on the wedding. I don't regret living together but I do regret not getting married sooner - we will have been together 9 years when we get married. I think if we had married a few years ago the horrible non-sense with his brother might not have been so bad. I think I would have gotten more respect since I was his wife. But who knows...it might have all been the same.

DebsNY Posted: Oct 15, 2004 10:00 AM

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not really a regret, but part of me wishes i had met him say, sophomore year of college, as opposed to senior year of high school. Freshman year I was really the only girl w/ a boyfriend, and got kind of jealous of the girls who were just meeting guys, and starting new relationships etc... It didn't help that Kev was still in NY either...

I'm so glad I met him though and am excited about getting married and all, but at the time i felt like i was kind of missing out... thought it' doesn't even compare to what i probably would have missed out on had i listened to my stupid friend and broken up with him

azoodie Posted: Oct 15, 2004 01:24 PM

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debs

ray and i started dating freshman year of college and i don't regret it one bit! i am so glad that i've had all this time to get to know the real him before marriage. also there were so many experiences that i am glad he was there fore like the death of my grandmother and my uncle whom i was very very attached to. having him there made all the difference, and i'm also glad that they got to know each other too.

believe me girl, you didn't miss anything. when you know, you know!!! those girls in college were just looking for what you already had

DebsNY Posted: Oct 15, 2004 01:26 PM

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awww, thanks Azad!

I know that now - but at the time i was a bit jealous...

And actually, i don't know how many times I've gotten 'Why can't we just clone Kevin and all date him'

prncssrachel Posted: Oct 15, 2004 02:45 PM

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I can truely say no regrets. Before I met JT, I had dated a lot of guys, I went to lots of bars and partied with my friends, I took a trip to Puerto Rico with some friends, I did it all. I always say that had I met him any earlier in life, I would never had dated him. He is what I want for the rest of my life, but he definitely was not what I wanted when I was younger, which is why I think it's complete fate that we graduated high school from the same school, the same year, but still I didn't know who he was.

Happybride2005 Posted: Oct 15, 2004 02:50 PM

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the only regret i haveis that i didn't meet fh sooner

IrishBride-05 Posted: Oct 15, 2004 02:57 PM

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Absolutely none. I can thankfully say that I have no regrets about any ex-relationship, and if I had any about this one, it would soon be history also! Of course, I do wish I didn't have to wait 35 years to find him

angelbear217 Posted: Oct 15, 2004 05:36 PM

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Posted by Happybride2005

the only regret i haveis that i didn't meet fh sooner

Same with me. Then I wouldn't have had to go through the crappiest relationship I ever had. I also regret not beginning to save money once I knew he was the one.

Sweetpea130000 Posted: Oct 15, 2004 06:03 PM

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But doesn't going through the crappy relationships make us appreciate FH even more? I know I do b/c of the garbage I dealt with before him.

My regret is probably not trying to get together with him sooner. We were friends for 2 years (and I was interested in him) before we started dating.

February05 Posted: Oct 15, 2004 06:20 PM

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i used to wish that i had met him later on, but i definately believe that people come into your life when they do for a reason!!
as far as other things, i guess there are things that i 'could' regret, but everything we've gone through (not that theres much bad) has made us the couple we are today... and i wouldnt change that for anything (though you could check out the thread on 'FI's pet peeves' for some Minor adjustments)

GettingMarried0402 Posted: Oct 15, 2004 08:29 PM

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I really don't have any regrets about my relationship with my FI, but I will say that I wish I had more time with my friends to hang out and have fun with the girls. I could never really do this since most of the time was spent with him. At least we would always agree on what we wanted to do and we always had fun.

LadyPrincess Posted: Oct 15, 2004 08:31 PM

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Posted by GettingMarried0402

I really don't have any regrets about my relationship with my FI, but I will say that I wish I had more time with my friends to hang out and have fun with the girls. I could never really do this since most of the time was spent with him. At least we would always agree on what we wanted to do and we always had fun.

HI GM0402 so good to see you posting more on the 05 boards -

Hope you come the the GTG in Dec - & Hang with us girls !!!

GettingMarried0402 Posted: Oct 15, 2004 08:34 PM

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Posted by LadyPrincess

Posted by GettingMarried0402

I really don't have any regrets about my relationship with my FI, but I will say that I wish I had more time with my friends to hang out and have fun with the girls. I could never really do this since most of the time was spent with him. At least we would always agree on what we wanted to do and we always had fun.

HI GM0402 so good to see you posting more on the 05 boards -

Hope you come the the GTG in Dec - & Hang with us girls !!!

Hi LP, thanks. I figure I'd join the 05 crew .

I am definitely looking forward to the GTG in Dec. I can't wait to meet all of you. I've been seeing the pictures from the previous GTG and they are so cool. You guys looked like you had tons of fun.

LadyPrincess Posted: Oct 15, 2004 08:35 PM

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Posted by GettingMarried0402

Posted by LadyPrincess

Posted by GettingMarried0402

I really don't have any regrets about my relationship with my FI, but I will say that I wish I had more time with my friends to hang out and have fun with the girls. I could never really do this since most of the time was spent with him. At least we would always agree on what we wanted to do and we always had fun.

HI GM0402 so good to see you posting more on the 05 boards -

Hope you come the the GTG in Dec - & Hang with us girls !!!

Hi LP, thanks. I figure I'd join the 05 crew .

I am definitely looking forward to the GTG in Dec. I can't wait to meet all of you. I've been seeing the pictures from the previous GTG and they are so cool. You guys looked like you had tons of fun.