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just wondering if any of you have any major regrets with your current relationship?
One thing you would go back an undo, or do.

If you could start your relationship over, would you?!

I would. When i met my FH i was a niave 16 year old, 17 when i started having feelings for him. He was currently living with his then GF. We all worked together. They started having problems and were on again off again, exept they always ended up together for two reasons. 1: they had a lease on their house, and 2: she was crazy (literally) she would try to kill herself if he would say he didnt love her anymore or he wnted to leave.... anyway, during this time we started up.. even though we TRIED to wait!!! we really did. But in the end it was hurting all of us. me, my FH and his ex gf. I hated that he would tell me he loved ME, but would go home to HER. he was confused b/c ppl told him he was wrong for liking a younger girl... and he felt guilty leaving his gf. anyway, so if i could go back and change something i would. i wouldve waited til he left her for good. We broke up for a few days and then he realized he wanted me back.... i said NO, not while shes still living there. A few days later he called me back, she was gone. for good. i made him wait a few more months to see how serious we felt about each other, and obviously we cared ALOT... but if i could go back i wouldve done that ALOT sooner.

i also regret that i got so mad at him i started seeing someone else to get over him (during our 3 month break) which got me into bad things.... which only kept me away from him longer. i finally realized that that person cared more about drugs than me, and it was like a wake-p call. i called my FH and the rest is history

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One regret:

I had broken up with a boy in order to date my FH. A couple of weeks later, I jumped back to my ex, because I wasn't sure what I wanted or if I was doing the right thing. I ended up making out with my ex and I realized that it wasn't what I wanted. I told my FH about it and it really hurt him. I wish that I would've just trusted my heart and realized that my FH was the one for me instead of questioning myself and hurting him like that. In a way I don't regret it though, because it only made us stronger.

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I definitely hear what you're saying about being young when you started your relationship. I actually met my FH when I was 17 as well I was a freshman in college and had the hugest crush on him (he was a senior) but he was (like your FH) dating someone else. We actually didn't get together until 4 years later after he'd broken up with her and I had just graduated college. Honestly, I'm really thankful that I didn't get what I thought I wanted at 17. I feel (for me) that it was better for me to have those 4 years to date other people, go out to frat/sorority parties and be crazy with my friends, make HUGE mistakes with other guys so I could appreciate what I have now.

The only thing I really regret with FH is that I started off our relationship being very jealous. So, I would make insane demands on him. But now, I'm 'normal' because I know I can trust him but I feel like whenver I say I don't feel comfortable with him doing something, he automatically thinks I'm being 'ridiculous' because that's how I used to be. But we've been talking about it, so I think it will get better

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ooh... thast good too... I also am very jealous .... ESPECIALLY when i first got back together with him..... i guess its just the way things had unfolded.

i also regret finding and reading a stack of letters from his Ex Ex GF..... i was snooping in the basement when i first moved in and found them.. he didnt even know he had them and i was all like 'why do you still have these' blah blah.... we're fine, but i REALLY want to meet this chick. He was with her for a long time so i say shes my 'competition' even though shes not!.

also, one more regret (last one i promise) is that i didnt experience more before i was with him. i really think i missed out on a lot on one hand, i feel i want to go out and have a good time, but on the other i think maybe im lucky i didnt have to go through alot of crap. i dunno

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I think going through all the 'crap' just makes you appreciate when you have a really good guy, but it's certainly not 'necessary.' One of my friends, who got married last year, has been with her husband (and no one else) since they were in high school. And I think he actually broke up with her for a few months to go back to an ex, but she took him back and they are such a great couple together.

Just remember, you can still go out and have fun NOW. And there's a lot less pressure on you once you have someone special because you're not worried about 'who's going to hit on me? do I not look cute enough tonight?' etc, etc. That was always such a headached!

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true true.

we have a BIG problem though.. we DONT have separate lives.... we only go out together and he doesnt want to do the things i want to do.

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Posted by lolita4life

true true.

we have a BIG problem though.. we DONT have separate lives.... we only go out together and he doesnt want to do the things i want to do.

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That's why you need to get a Fri night off to come to one of the GTGs!!

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I would not have moved in w/ him until either right before the wedding or after we were married.

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i WANT to sooo bad! but the only thing is theres only me and one other girl who work there, so if she cant cover me im screwed.. BUT im covering for her sat, so shell owe me one!

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Posted by Russo'sbride

I would not have moved in w/ him until either right before the wedding or after we were married.

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thats a GOOD one!

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Posted by Russo'sbride

I would not have moved in w/ him until either right before the wedding or after we were married.

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That is true. I'd miss the $$ I save on rent, but it was kind of nice because when we didn't want to go 'out, out' we could go to each other's apartment and it was like a change of scenery, you know? I really do like living together--except for the extra boy mess.

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I feel when we didn't live together we were always excited to see eachother. Now I feel that has changed. I guess in a way its good experiece living together b/c that is how married life will be. He often does leave messes too

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I wish we have done this wedding business long time ago lol

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Posted by Aga

I wish we have done this wedding business long time ago lol

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I wish (just a bit) that we'd waited another year to get engaged so that I wouldn't spend my first year working saving EVERY single dime for this wedding! Of course, then it would be an entirely different group of ladies on these boards and I'm glad I have all of you to go through this with

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I have on regret, I was dating his (ex) best friend for 2.5 years before hand, and things got really messy when we started going out, his best friend gave him he green light, but then re thought things and tried to desperately break us up. What I regret is that I should have been more cautious and not ruined such a friendship, they grew up together, went to the same high school and college together and were inseperable, and I hate to live with the thought that I broke up their friendship....

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Posted by jenniesunshine

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Posted by Aga

I wish we have done this wedding business long time ago lol

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I wish (just a bit) that we'd waited another year to get engaged so that I wouldn't spend my first year working saving EVERY single dime for this wedding! Of course, then it would be an entirely different group of ladies on these boards and I'm glad I have all of you to go through this with

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see we have been legally married for over 4 years now, it is going to be 5 on August 29th next year... I just wish we did it right the first time, it makes things kinda weird now, but oh well I want my party and I will have it

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Posted by Aga

see we have been legally married for over 4 years now, it is going to be 5 on August 29th next year... I just wish we did it right the first time, it makes things kinda weird now, but oh well I want my party and I will have it

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One of my good friends got married 2 years ago before her DH left for Iraq but it was very small and not at all what she wanted. Now, she just really wants the wedding she'd been planning but her parents (esp her dad) keep saying, 'why should we spend the $$ when you're already married?' I feel so bad for her. She's such a sweeties and I wish she could've had her whole big wedding with the pics at Old Westbury Gardens like she wanted.

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Posted by Aga

I wish we have done this wedding business long time ago lol

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me too! I wished we didn't have to wait this long. I feel like its being dragged out. I also would like to be pregnant now. I am getting too old.

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she should have the wedding if she wants to, otherwise she will always regret it... thats one of the reasons why we are doing it but also because we come from catholic families and they want to see us married in a church...

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Posted by ckgmwedding

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Posted by Aga

I wish we have done this wedding business long time ago lol

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me too! I wished we didn't have to wait this long. I feel like its being dragged out. I also would like to be pregnant now. I am getting too old.

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yay it means I am going to be Aunt Aga in not so distant future