Anyone been to a wedding (or is anyone) not inviting people with dates to their wedding??
Original post by SeptWed
I have heard of three people i know doing this. And i don't just mean not inviting people with a date who are single but even people who are not single???? One of the girls even said if they don't have a ring they are not inviting the person with the date.
Now not that i have to worry about this but I think i would of been offended if while i was dating DH for the four years that we were dating if i was invited to a wedding and he was not. I kind of understand if you don't invite a single person with a date but not someone who is dating someone...how do you even determine who is officially dating someone??
Is anyone doing this or have been to a wedding like this? What are your feelings?
Goldi1021
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People who are engaged, living with, or dating someone for a significant period of time witll be invited with a guest to my wedding. That is what proper wedding etiquette dictates. It is not my family's job to entertain the 'flavor of the month' for single guests. There are no single guests invited who do not know someone at the wedding that they can dance or socialize with. At most of the weddings I was invited to alone, I ended up dancing with female guests and had a much better time than I would had I just picked some random guy for the sake of having arm/eye candy.
knotted
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We are under a strict budget and guest limit, which we are already over anyway. So, we invited only married, engaged couples, and guests who's significant others we know/met before.
IMO, the kind of guests you have at your wedding dictates the mood of the affair. The more strangers you have in attendance, the more small talk you have to make, drawing you away from the really important guests - the ones you know and are dear to you. You don't want to spread yourself too thin.
We are paying for the wedding ourselves, and for us THIS IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO. I think all of us needs to do what we are comfortable with, based on our own unique circumstances.
SuzBride
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I am inviting all my OOT singles with guests (even if single) and all my intown friends with guests (most have been dating the same people for years - so I don't want the ones who aren't dating anyone to feel left out when the rest of my friends are dancing/chatting with their significant other). My recently divorced aunt also will be invited with a guest (I don't think she'll bring one, but I want her to have that option!)
Cousins who are older than me (I'm 24) are invited with a date (only 2 single ones) and those younger than me only get a date if they have been dating for at least a year (which at this point means none of them get a date)!
My gosh, I never realized how convoluted that all is!
ShortBride
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I've been invited both with a date and without. I think it depends on the situation. If its a group of friends or family, then it's fine to invite them without a date. However (just my opinion), if you have mostly friends in committed relationships and just a few single friends who do not know each other, it will be really awkward for those people to be at your wedding for several hours alone...
SeptWed
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I could be wrong but i thought proper wedding ettiquite was to invite everyone with a guest? (Someone mentioned in one of their posts that it was to invite only married/engaged couples).
Like i said i understand the not inviting someone who is single when you send out the invitations....but not inviting someones boyfriend/girlfriend of more then 6 months (whether you met them or not) I don't think is right. Though i am sure they will know people at the wedding to mingle with, it would be nice to slow dance with their BF/GF if a dance comes on and sit with him/her at the table.
I had a bigger size wedding but there were two couples who significant other i had not met before my wedding who were dating 6+ months and I had to invite them in my mind with their siginficant others. JMO
LilyOfValley
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I am inviting everyone who has a boyfriend/girlfriend with guest (or if long term their name on the invite). If they are not dating anyone, I am inviting them without guest.
SUNSHINE24
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we had a large invite of 277 and we invited people that were dating for a significant time with a guest. The singles werent invited with a guest, but most of the people that are coming solo, are friends so they will be able to hang together.
italia6973
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Posted by M&LSept1606
I am inviting all singles with a guest. I think it's rude not to invite people with guests. some might want to bring a son/daughter along if they don't know anyone else, or a friend, etc. especially if they're dating someone. they don't have to be engaged for god sakes!
some argue that it's too expensive. I say if you're going to do it, do it right. JMO
