Anyone chking out the 08 board and the relationship problems?!

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Posted by MrsDaniRella

If Vinny wanted to postpone the wedding (I guess let's pretend that we weren't married first lol)... But if he wanted to either cancel it or put it off I would immediately feel the need to work on US... I think the 'wedding' would be the last thing on my mind in terms of importance.

I would want to go to counseling with him and sit down and discuss what is wrong, what we are not doing correctly, open up the lines of communication and take it from there. Then, I would decide if we want to continue the relationship or if we are better off going our seperate ways.

But in terms of worrying about the wedding... Hellllll NO... that would be the last thing on my mind b/c it, at the end of the day, means NOTHING unless Vinny and I are OK...

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Dani - You said it perfectly and this is basically what you have to do if you are in the situation. everything about or regarding the wedding gets put to the side and the relationship is THE MOST IMPORTANT THING. Thank you for saying what you did...

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Posted by MrsDaniRella

If Vinny wanted to postpone the wedding (I guess let's pretend that we weren't married first lol)... But if he wanted to either cancel it or put it off I would immediately feel the need to work on US... I think the 'wedding' would be the last thing on my mind in terms of importance.

I would want to go to counseling with him and sit down and discuss what is wrong, what we are not doing correctly, open up the lines of communication and take it from there. Then, I would decide if we want to continue the relationship or if we are better off going our seperate ways.

But in terms of worrying about the wedding... Hellllll NO... that would be the last thing on my mind b/c it, at the end of the day, means NOTHING unless Vinny and I are OK...

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Well said..

SO SAD....................................

I cant even begin to imagine what these ladies are going through right now -- the mere THOUGHT of not having FH in my life makes me sick. He IS my life. Their worlds must be turned upside down right now and my heart goes out to all of the girls who are going through this I hope things work out for them.

I really dont think the 'wedding' is what is upsetting them right now. From the posts I read, it seemed that the break itself was what they were so upset about. The wedding would be the last thing on my mind...saving my relationship would be the first -- and I beleive its their first too from the sound of the posts.

to all you 08 ladies who are having a hard time right now and that everything works out the way it should. And remember, everything happens for a reason. Maybe this is just a wake-up call that you need to truly focus on the two of you right now....or maybe its just post-engagement jitters. Hopefully it'll blow over, but if it doesnt, God has other plans for you and he always has his reasons

omg....that is so sad and so horrible to even think about!!! I really do not even know what to say except the earlier they realize that it wasnt meant to be the easier it will be emotionally and financially

that is so tough! i couldn't imagine that. thank God Fh and i are centered and don't worry about that. but i feel for them.
i wonder how old they are? sometimes people get so caught up in the wedding and forget about the marriage......................

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Posted by jayandjenny

that is so tough! i couldn't imagine that. thank God Fh and i are centered and don't worry about that. but i feel for them.
i wonder how old they are? sometimes people get so caught up in the wedding and forget about the marriage......................

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I dont know what age has to do with it, but I believe one of the girls is 23.

Its true tho -- MANY people get caught up in the wedding process....I think we're all a little guilty of that. Its so important to always focus on the two of you.

But it sounded like there was also so other issues going on with these couples. Its so sad.

Oh my goodness...that is so terrible! I don;t know what I would do!

That's a shame.

Honestly, if FW or I ever decided we weren't ready, I'd rather know that ahead of time than afterwards. As much as we both want an awesome wedding, I'm with Dani- the wedding is just the first day of a marriage.