Anyone else thinking of not using Mr and Mrs on envelopes

LJill Posted: Aug 04, 2009 10:34 PM

Anyone else thinking of not using Mr and Mrs on envelopes

Hi-

Not a huge fan of Mr and Mrs John Smith on invites. Guess I am more of a feminist and question where the woman exists in this address format. Is anyone addressing with -- Linda and John Smith ???

geegee827 Posted: Aug 04, 2009 10:37 PM

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I am starting my invitations this week and am struggling with the same issue. No one's first name is 'Mrs' so I will probably be doing Linda and John Smith.

springsandra Posted: Aug 04, 2009 10:41 PM

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I addressed the envelopes the traditional way, mostly because of space issues. For people who live together but have different last names, I wrote out Mr. John Smith & Ms. Jane Doe.

I don't think it much matters. I've received hand-written envelopes (in scrawly personal handwriting) that just say our names on them and you toss the envelope as soon as you get it. Just make sure they're legible.

LJill Posted: Aug 04, 2009 10:44 PM

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Thanks- will be interesting when I finally start typing them all out and getting them ready for printer- oh, yes and deciding on who I am really inviting- ah! This is so hard !

marinai7 Posted: Aug 05, 2009 06:44 AM

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I am doing Mr. John and Mrs. Linda Smith. I don't see a reason to leave out the woman's name even if they are married and have the same last name.

MarjorieFrank Posted: Aug 05, 2009 09:02 AM

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I plan on writing out the woman's first name. Nothing drives me more crazy than a woman being referred to as 'Mrs. John Smith' as if she has no identity.
I plan on writing 'Mr. and Mrs. John and Linda Smith'

MrsBlueRibbon Posted: Aug 05, 2009 09:29 AM

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I did it the way etiquette states for a formal invitation,Mr. & Mrs. John Smith. I'm a traditionalist!

JAAMS Posted: Aug 05, 2009 09:33 AM

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Posted by MarjorieFrank

I plan on writing out the woman's first name. Nothing drives me more crazy than a woman being referred to as 'Mrs. John Smith' as if she has no identity.
I plan on writing 'Mr. and Mrs. John and Linda Smith'

I think I'm going to do this too; I too, cannot stand when a woman is identified by her husband's first name

AngnShaun Posted: Aug 05, 2009 09:40 AM

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I'm doing Mr. & Mrs. John Smtih & Mr. & Mrs. John Smith & Family...

i dont really care if my guest is a traditionalist or feminist or whatever... the envelope is being thrown out immediately anyway...

allegracristina Posted: Aug 05, 2009 09:48 AM

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Posted by MrsBlueRibbon

I did it the way etiquette states for a formal invitation,Mr. & Mrs. John Smith. I'm a traditionalist!

Me too!

nraboni Posted: Aug 05, 2009 09:56 AM

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I addressed the outer envelope like this:

John & Jane Smith

John Smith
Jane Doe

The innter envelope I did like this:

John & Jane

If I was inviting someone with a guest I only put the invitee on the outer envelope and on the inner envelope I did it like this:

Jane & Guest

I really didn't care about etiquette...lolol

MarjorieFrank Posted: Aug 05, 2009 10:03 AM

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Posted by JAAMS

Posted by MarjorieFrank

I plan on writing out the woman's first name. Nothing drives me more crazy than a woman being referred to as 'Mrs. John Smith' as if she has no identity.
I plan on writing 'Mr. and Mrs. John and Linda Smith'

I think I'm going to do this too; I too, cannot stand when a woman is identified by her husband's first name

Personally, when I am married and someone refers to me as 'Mrs. Frank ___' I will be extremely offended.

MrsBlueRibbon Posted: Aug 05, 2009 10:51 AM

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Posted by MarjorieFrank

Posted by JAAMS

Posted by MarjorieFrank

I plan on writing out the woman's first name. Nothing drives me more crazy than a woman being referred to as 'Mrs. John Smith' as if she has no identity.
I plan on writing 'Mr. and Mrs. John and Linda Smith'

I think I'm going to do this too; I too, cannot stand when a woman is identified by her husband's first name

Personally, when I am married and someone refers to me as 'Mrs. Frank ___' I will be extremely offended.

Awww, don't be offended, you are going to get a lot of invitations like that in the coming years! I wouldn't like if someone did not follow etiquette! To each his own, that's why we are all different!

emric Posted: Aug 05, 2009 11:01 AM

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I didn't use Mr. & Mrs. on the shower (jack and jill) and RD invites, when it came time for wedding invites it didn't look right so I ended up doing Mr & Mrs.

KatieG2010 Posted: Aug 05, 2009 11:03 AM

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Posted by allegracristina

Posted by MrsBlueRibbon

I did it the way etiquette states for a formal invitation,Mr. & Mrs. John Smith. I'm a traditionalist!

Me too!

Me three!!!

jas1317 Posted: Aug 05, 2009 11:35 AM

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I am not a traditional person. I addressed mine as whatever seemed appropriate 'Aunt so and so and Uncle so and so' or for friends just first names and last name.

Its2Snappy Posted: Aug 05, 2009 11:38 AM

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If you put Mr. & Mrs. Smith, why is the woman losing identity? You aren't putting either of their first names on it. I'd consider myself a feminist and don't care for the title Mrs. so much, but I think it would be safer than putting Mr. & Ms. Smith. Some women might be offended by that.

thenewmrsharrington Posted: Aug 05, 2009 11:47 AM

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Posted by MarjorieFrank

Posted by JAAMS

Posted by MarjorieFrank

I plan on writing out the woman's first name. Nothing drives me more crazy than a woman being referred to as 'Mrs. John Smith' as if she has no identity.
I plan on writing 'Mr. and Mrs. John and Linda Smith'

I think I'm going to do this too; I too, cannot stand when a woman is identified by her husband's first name

Personally, when I am married and someone refers to me as 'Mrs. Frank ___' I will be extremely offended.

if you are going to be offended, i would suggest not changing your name! i've received invites like this and it will probably happen to you too!

Katlyco Posted: Aug 05, 2009 11:59 AM

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Posted by MarjorieFrank

I plan on writing out the woman's first name. Nothing drives me more crazy than a woman being referred to as 'Mrs. John Smith' as if she has no identity.
I plan on writing 'Mr. and Mrs. John and Linda Smith'

I think this too!