this might sound selfish , but is there anyone else out there that's a little worried about their bachelorette party or bridal shower? i dont have any hand in planning it which is fine with me because surprises are fun! but im really hoping that my BP is working on the plans and that it will be all that i hope it will! my FMIL is a procrastinator and im scared that she is goign to hold up the process maybe! i started writing out a guest list for the shower and emailed my sister and best friend with the list and my friend...oh dont worry we have that covered. im afraid they are going to forget someone though! guess there's nothing i can do but hope for the best!! im just really bad with surprises, i cant wait...the not knowing really kills me! (im a pain in the a$$ at christmas haha!)
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Count your blessings that everyones 'got it covered'. My shower planning has been a total disaster with my BP arguing amongst themselves and my mother and dragging FH into it as well. NIGHTMARE Sit back and relax and let them work out the details. Have confidence that what they plan is going to be beautiful
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I dont know anything either. I did thought give a list 2 nights ago to my mom fo people. Im not worried about the shower...I actually know some stuff cause i came home early from work and saw a magazine on the tavle ( oriental trading) with a million hawaiian things circled. But I'm keeping that to myself..cause my mom and sister anre so excited planning.
The bachlorette party IM scared of. My sister knows im more conservative and will NOT have raunchy guys there...but FSIL is DYING to have them there.....gross-all-over-you-and-feeling-you-up-kind liek she had at hers...so IM scard what surprises she'll throw in
But dont worry...trust your family & friends
DrBeLLaRoSe
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i can understand how you feel, and i dont think you are being selfish at all. surprises are really hard, and i know you would love some input in what they end up planning. But just have faith that whatever they choose will be fun, they have good intentions in mind. and even if it is not exactly the way you wanted it, if you try not to worry too much, you will be able to enjoy it anyway!
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I don't think you're being selfish. I think most bride’s 2B wonder about their showers... present company included.
My shower is out of state – where my FH’s family lives (for the most part). I think it’s very kind of FH’s Aunt’s to give me shower but I have wondered on occasion about some things… now this is probably going to sound bad, but I thought I would share it anyway.
His family loves to shop at bargain basement type stores. I’ve seen the kind of gifts they give for Christmas (only 1 of his aunts gave FH and I a gift and it was a set of 4 cheese spreaders. FH and I sent his aunts 14kt gold pendants – 1 never even thanked us).
My FH’s cousin just had a baby shower last weekend and 4 of his aunt’s chipped in to get her a $100 Babies R Us gift card. I spent more $ on his cousin who I’ve met 3 times and I wasn’t even invited to the shower. I guess what I am trying to say is…. I won’t be holding my breath to get anything from our registry.
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My shower is a secret also. I am not related to any of my BM's so I sent one of them my entire excel spread sheet with all of our guests. I wrote in the email who I thought would want to attend a shower and funny enough, DF, my mom and my friends all had the same people on the list - give or take a few people. My girls appreciated the fact that I let them know - it made their lives easier. Lisa
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I feel like we have enough to worry about so if someone has it covered we just have to have faith in them that they do. If they forget someone it won't be the end of the world. Peopel know that you aren't planning your own bridal shower. Either way you will have fun!!
conigs25
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NO Im thankful for anything people go out of their way to do for me. Its a lot to ask of anyone so.... JMO
Kiddo115
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I'm worried ..... I am usually the planner in my family and group of friends.. so I'm worried that I'll be burdening them with these responsibilities....I feel guilty, but at the same time I feel I've earned it! lol....
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I'm not quite concerned about guest lists but I'm still worried about my bachelorette party because I know that hunk-o-mania lurks in my future. I'm already frightened.
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Posted by conigs25
NO Im thankful for anything people go out of their way to do for me. Its a lot to ask of anyone so.... JMO
of course i know that it's a lot to ask of anyone. i am completely grateful to all of my family and friends for all that they are doing for me and my FH on our big day and everything else that they do/have done for the rest of our lives. i am not an ungrateful person. i guess some things are better left 'unposted'.
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i try not to worry b/c i know everything will work out. my bm's are great and MOH is exceptional! mom is doing a lot to help (now that i've relinquished jobs to her!) i was never a good planner to begin w/ so it's great to know i have people who can help!
