anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

I'm really upset...

his sister is a BM and is having all these problems with being on time, hair, and all and she wants it her way.. I am not sure how to handle it , any advice????

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

Is she someone that no one stands up to? If that's the case, try to get your FH to tell her what she needs to do.

I don't know if this will help you, but when his sister told him that we should be honored that she flew out of the wedding, that she got the dress and that she's showing up, he said, 'You're lucky that you're even in the bridal party and that my fiance hasn't kicked your a$$ out.' I followed it with my own 'Shut up and do what you're told' the morning of the wedding and it all worked out just fine.

It stinks to deal with people like that. good luck

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

well, my situation is similar...

all my bm's loved the bm dress, and have been very responsive to my MOH, EXCEPT for my FSIL....she was the only one that didn't love the dress, she shows no interest and no excitement in the wedding or any activities related to the wedding (shower, bachelorette party), and it's like pulling teeth trying to get a response out of her.

it ***** but there isn't much I can do about it

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

yeah, she is not a BM but her daughter is the flower girl. she gave us all kinds of issues about the dress... I made him deal with it.

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

yeah I am trying that but she's difficult...

I finally said today if it's too much trouble she doesn't have to be in the wedding.. I mean today she wanted my itinery from the photographer to see what time we could hold off until she can get to the house to take pictures.. check me if I'm wrong.. but aren't BM's supposed to help with the bride the day of??? not show up like 5 min before the church.. right....
and she told me she needs sleep and has to have her hair done by the guy who usually does it so it has to be this way.. ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I asked him to handle it but he's too nice and I'm afraid she will walk all over him.....

I don't want there to be bad blood over all this... so how do you nicely say ' show up on time b----' LOL

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Posted by 69


I asked him to handle it but he's too nice and I'm afraid she will walk all over him.....

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hmm... yeah, I didn't think of that... I can talk to him about it if you want

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

sounds like she wants a way out - maybe you should tell her that it sounds like its too much for her and let her back out this way you dont have t odeal with the stress

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

My DH has two Sisters. One is a gem..the other... . THANKFULLY we both knew this ahead of time and had no problem with not including her in the bridal party. Yes...you read right...we did not include her. She very dramatic and no matter what could be said or done it was never good enough for her and her family, so we took the 'easy' way out and avoided the nonsense ahead of time and did not bother including her.
As it was she refused to show up for family pictures at 8:30...so she is not going to be in the albums..., but we expected this.

Since she's showing her true colors now....ask FH to speak to her. If she wants to back out...this would be the perfect time before an argument occurs and causes a problem in the relationship.

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

Thanks everyone..
you made me feel better... having a tough time with this one... and i don't have a sister... I was so looking forward to it too!!!!

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

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Posted by 69

yeah I am trying that but she's difficult...

I finally said today if it's too much trouble she doesn't have to be in the wedding.. I mean today she wanted my itinery from the photographer to see what time we could hold off until she can get to the house to take pictures.. check me if I'm wrong.. but aren't BM's supposed to help with the bride the day of??? not show up like 5 min before the church.. right....
and she told me she needs sleep and has to have her hair done by the guy who usually does it so it has to be this way.. ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
I asked him to handle it but he's too nice and I'm afraid she will walk all over him.....

I don't want there to be bad blood over all this... so how do you nicely say ' show up on time b----' LOL

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If she needs to be at your house by ( i woul dtell her she absouletly had to be there at 8 if you already know she will be late - and that way shes on time can you 'amend' the itinerary?

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

That why I'm glad that my FSIL are all old and are not in my wedding party. I know for a fact it they were in the wedding, they would make me want to smack them. I hate to say this, but they all look so stressed out like they all need a good F**** and a good meal. I reaally don'y want that representing my entrance down the aisle. They are helping me with the glasses and some religious readings.

Re: anyone have difficulties with sister of FI, and how did you handle it?

ok her update tonight was that she will be there 1/2 earlier... still too late to be with me to get dressed and stuff.....

maybe I just have to not care... but it's not in my nature to do that..... ahhhhhhhhhhhhh