anyone heard from ...?

I dont know if she ended up telling anyone who she was and if we knew her but remember the anonymous poster who was having really bad problems with FHs family and she was considering breaking up with him because he wouldnt stand up for her to his family?? Anyone heard from her?? I was thinking about her and it was just such a tough situation she was in

was this on the 2010 boards? why dont I remember this post...

yeah i believe it was on the 2010 boards. it was about 2 weeks ago i would say. basically to make a very very long story short, she and her FH lived together, he had gotten into some debt a while back and it just happened that she was working like crazy, 2 jobs and never ever home and he worked i think but was home more so he cleaned and did stuff around the house. his family, saw her as this horrible person and would try to put things into his head that she was out cheating on him and thats why she was never home and why isnt she in the house where she should be doing housework and making babies (i think they said about babies too but not sure). Anyway although this would be crazy either way, he wouldnt tell them why she was out so much because he didnt want to tell them he was in debt, etc. so they were cruel to her, to her face, behind her back and to him and he would never stick up for her. she didnt want to make him chooose betweenm her and his fam but just wanted him to talk to his family and be honest. he wouldnt after a million conversations with him and she tried everything. she loved him so much but didnt know if she could marry him knowing it might be like this always.

ok, i guess that wasnt the short version. there might be more to it that i missed but this was the jist of it. it was very sad. she said she created a username to speak anonomysly, but she may have been a girl we know. either way, that fine but it stuck me with and apparently some other people too

I've been wondering about her too... I THINK she posted on BHB though, so she might not even be a '10er.

I could be wrong though.

She was a 2010 bride, but she posted in BHB. Her first post was on Easter, I remember, because it was something that her FSIL said about her on Easter that started it all.

We exchanged a lot of FMs, which I still have. Her name was maybebride and this was the thread:

http://www.liweddings.com/chat/topic.aspx?ID=604160&Highlight=

She was really torn up about it. She loved him, but refused to spend the rest of her life being put down by his family. And she would not make her FH choose a side and ruin his life as well.

In her last FM she told me she had made up her mind that she was going to split with him, but for reasons she didn't want to go into she couldn't do it until the summer.

She said if she told the reason we would all know who she was.

She basically made up her mind that she would never be in the same room as her FILs again. That included for her wedding which she would not let them ruin. And knowing how painful the tension would be for her FH, especially a wedding without his family, she was going to let them have him. There was also the fact he was apparently choosing them over her by never standing up for her and choosing his own pride over her feelings.

She admitted to me she was scared to start over because she and FH had been together almost 7 years and she was over 35. Otherwise she would have ended it much earlier, like when she founf out about all his debt. But this was the breaking point. She said she stopped going into the thread because she had made up her mind and wanted the board to be about happy things and happy people.

The last FM I sent her was never responded to. I told her I am glad she chose self respect, and if she settled for a guy because of her age she would regret it for the rest of her life.

Sweetheart, if you are reading this, please let us know how you are doing.

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Posted by TheLadyJ

She was a 2010 bride, but she posted in BHB. Her first post was on Easter, I remember, because it was something that her FSIL said about her on Easter that started it all.

We exchanged a lot of FMs, which I still have. Her name was maybebride and this was the thread:

http://www.liweddings.com/chat/topic.aspx?ID=604160&Highlight=

She was really torn up about it. She loved him, but refused to spend the rest of her life being put down by his family. And she would not make her FH choose a side and ruin his life as well.

In her last FM she told me she had made up her mind that she was going to split with him, but for reasons she didn't want to go into she couldn't do it until the summer.

She said if she told the reason we would all know who she was.

She basically made up her mind that she would never be in the same room as her FILs again. That included for her wedding which she would not let them ruin. And knowing how painful the tension would be for her FH, especially a wedding without his family, she was going to let them have him. There was also the fact he was apparently choosing them over her by never standing up for her and choosing his own pride over her feelings.

She admitted to me she was scared to start over because she and FH had been together almost 7 years and she was over 35. Otherwise she would have ended it much earlier, like when she founf out about all his debt. But this was the breaking point. She said she stopped going into the thread because she had made up her mind and wanted the board to be about happy things and happy people.

The last FM I sent her was never responded to. I told her I am glad she chose self respect, and if she settled for a guy because of her age she would regret it for the rest of her life.

Sweetheart, if you are reading this, please let us know how you are doing.

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I think thats nice of you - I'm glad we are here for each other...

Im almost in tears. That was very nice of you and it is just such a heartwrenching thing for her to have done that. I pray that she has the strength to actually do it if that's what her decision is and if not, then whatever she does, she will not regret and be happy.

Wow I couldnt imagine having to make a decision like that.


MaybeBride if you are reading this, I wish you all the best for the future. We are all still here for you...

I got the chills from reading that...

if you're reading this maybebride, we're still here for you!

That is so sad. I remember reading that thread and my heart just went out to her. I hope that everything is okay.

If you're reading this and ever want to talk we're all here to listen and help if we can. Best of luck to you!