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Anyone not doing a unity candle?

SoonToBeMrsCali Posted:

Anyone not doing a unity candle?

Just wondering....

adelz Posted:

Re: Anyone not doing a unity candle?

I'm not doing one.

WeezyGirl2354 Posted:

Re: Anyone not doing a unity candle?

Not doing one

jettahot Posted:

Re: Anyone not doing a unity candle?

im not doing one.
Is it a catholic or christian tradition, im not sure?
Cataverri Posted:

Re: Anyone not doing a unity candle?

Not me.

SoonToBeMrsCali Posted:

Re: Anyone not doing a unity candle?

I am reading a bunch on the catholic ceremony and it is said to be discouraged in a catholic ceremony. They say it is performed in Christian/interfaith ceremonies or ceremonies outside of the church......
jettahot Posted:

Re: Anyone not doing a unity candle?

Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali

I am reading a bunch on the catholic ceremony and it is said to be discouraged in a catholic ceremony. They say it is performed in Christian/interfaith ceremonies or ceremonies outside of the church......


ahhh ok thanks!!!!
martea36 Posted:

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Nope.

mollygurl24 Posted:

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Not sure yet. for those who aren't, what are you doing instead?

BlushandBashful Posted:

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I want to, but I was going through my catholic mass booklet this weekend and I have NOO idea where the lighting of the unity candle happens in the mass??

SoonToBeMrsCali Posted:

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Posted by BlushandBashful

I want to, but I was going through my catholic mass booklet this weekend and I have NOO idea where the lighting of the unity candle happens in the mass??


I haven't gotten one of those booklets yet, but I would ask your priest if he recommends it. It says that it varies by priest.

I am leaning towards no since it's more of a modern tradition
SoonToBeMrsCali Posted:

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Posted by mollygurl24

Not sure yet. for those who aren't, what are you doing instead?


I don't know if there is a substitute but I've also seen that the individual candles should be lit from the Paschal candle and not be extinguished.. Also the unity candle should not be placed on the altar.
FutureMRS.Benn Posted:

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Posted by BlushandBashful

I want to, but I was going through my catholic mass booklet this weekend and I have NOO idea where the lighting of the unity candle happens in the mass??


I am doing the unity candle and it will go after the blessing and exchange of the rings and before the prayer of the faithful.

HTH!!
meya1084 Posted:

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I'm not I'm scared of fire lol. I've seen weddings where the couples combined wines and then drank from the same glass and I've seen sand as well. I'm considering those options. I'm thinking of the sand cuz I might want to involve my son too.

Tomsbride Posted:

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I just met with my priest and he said the unity candle is not part of the catholic mass but that they can incorporate it since it is a tred they see with a lot of couples. I think it comes after the rings?

Jesebelle Posted:

Re: Anyone not doing a unity candle?

We're not. No sand, wine or anything else. We chose a simple ceremony from our officiant (because it was less expensive) and I didn't want a dusty candle in my house, or a piece of sand art. LOL. We are only breaking the glass, which she said she would do because it's a cultural thing.

FutureMrsTlasek Posted:

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I'm confused, aren't catholics christians? I thought catholicism was a denomination?? I'm doing a unity candle.

smilesjc81 Posted:

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Posted by FutureMrsTlasek

I'm confused, aren't catholics christians? I thought catholicism was a denomination?? I'm doing a unity candle.


it's used more frequently in protestant - or non denominational Faiths

I'm not catholic, I am doing one

my FSIL is agnostic (or atheist not sure)
so she did a ring warming ceremony instead.

you get someone to walk around before the ceremony and let everyone touch the rings and bless it, pray for it, or just wish the couple luck thus 'warming the ring'
and then a small explanation is read during the ceremony ( or put in the program- or both)
Moonmist09 Posted:

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsCali

I am reading a bunch on the catholic ceremony and it is said to be discouraged in a catholic ceremony. They say it is performed in Christian/interfaith ceremonies or ceremonies outside of the church......


i don't think its discouraged but its more of a modern tradtion and definately not a catholic/christian thing
futurestevens Posted:

Re: Anyone not doing a unity candle?

not us

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