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Anyone NOT invite certain family members?

Lisa715 Posted: Jul 25, 2014 09:28 AM+

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Posted: Jul 25, 2014 09:28 AM

Anyone NOT invite certain family members?

How did you go about telling others they weren't invited? Or in my case, how should I go about telling my mom I don't want to invite her family?

Long story short...I don't want to invite my Grandmother or my mom's brother and his family. They have never really been a part of my life and this past Christmas, my grandmother hung up on my mom when she called to wish her a Merry Christmas, making my mom cry and be upset all day. I don't think they have spoken since.
I want my wedding to be a happy day for all invited and by inviting them brings drama

summerbridejen2015 Posted: Jul 25, 2014 09:36 AM+

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Posted: Jul 25, 2014 09:36 AM

Anyone NOT invite certain family members?

Yes, I have a couple of cousins(and I am even inviting his sibling) because hes a A**hole...he got the save the date and apparently he threw itout and said he wasn't going so he isn't invited. my aunt that I amnot thrilled with also is not invited. Its your special day and show only be around positive people.

Jsabbatino Posted: Jul 25, 2014 09:41 AM+

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Posted: Jul 25, 2014 09:41 AM

Anyone NOT invite certain family members?

I think you should be honest with your mom. If things are still tense between them I think she will understand why you do not want the drama at your wedding and you want it to be a happy day.

I would be prepared for backlash from the relatives - but if they confront you just be honest and say that you want your wedding to be a happy time with no negativity. The only other thing I would be prepared for is the possibility that family members you are inviting who are close with those who are not invited may not attend.

FH is the only one of his siblings who speaks to his father, so he was not invited to my FBIL's wedding 2 years ago. When my FFIL's sisters found out that he wasnt invited they chose not to attend either. They were very polite about it and sent a gift but I just wanted to mention that.

Just remember that at the end of the day - on your wedding day you will be surrounded by love and it will be a great celebration! Hope everything works out

booie135 Posted: Jul 25, 2014 09:53 AM+

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Posted: Jul 25, 2014 09:53 AM

Anyone NOT invite certain family members?

This is such a tough topic. My FH and I have a few family issues on both sides of our families. We had open discussions with our parents and came to an agreement on who to invite and not to invite. Those who don't like it may not come, but what it really comes down to is celebrating a special day with those you are closest with! Good Luck!!!!

Chels Posted: Jul 25, 2014 10:06 AM+

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Posted: Jul 25, 2014 10:06 AM

Anyone NOT invite certain family members?

There is family I didnt invite... You cant invite everyone... well at least in my case since I am having about 85-90 people. I just didnt say anything. They will find out eventually and get the picture.

Just know they will have something to say. But to be honest after a while you just wont care (not to be mean) but there will be so much going on as the days get closer. I have family coming out the woodworks that I havent spoken to in years magically reappearing. They dont confront me, they confront my parents and my grandma and they all just reply saying 'its not my wedding, so I dont control who is invited' and they just leave it like that. And then i think they realize that they havn't spoken to me and drop it cause they sure havent rang my phone personally to say anything!

Brittney22 Posted: Jul 25, 2014 10:06 AM+

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Posted: Jul 25, 2014 10:06 AM

Anyone NOT invite certain family members?

This is a topic that I'm currently dealing with! My uncle (who is only related by marriage) is extremely obnoxious and ruined my graduation party last year so FH and I don't want to invite him but aren't quite sure how to go about it in a polite manner. Plus we really have to think how everyone else would react to it before we make a decision :/ but I do agree with the other ladies that your wedding day is a day that should be filled with positive people and the people that mean the most will be there no matter what!

JaimeLin Posted: Jul 25, 2014 01:37 PM+

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Posted: Jul 25, 2014 01:37 PM

Anyone NOT invite certain family members?

I have a cousin that I really didn't want to invite but my family told me I'd be starting more drama by leaving her out. Instead I didn't invite her with a guest, knowing she won't come alone.

Chels Posted: Jul 25, 2014 01:48 PM+

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Posted: Jul 25, 2014 01:48 PM

Re: Anyone NOT invite certain family members?

Posted by JaimeLin

I have a cousin that I really didn't want to invite but my family told me I'd be starting more drama by leaving her out. Instead I didn't invite her with a guest, knowing she won't come alone.

::evil laugh::

I love it :-x