my moh is my best friend since kindergarden, and my bm's are family. but i have 2 really close girl friends who i think thought they would be bm's and i get the feeling one of them in particular is upset that i didn't ask her. i asked them both to do a reading at the ceremony, but i don't think that made it any better.
i didn't want a large bp and i don't think she understands why i wouldn't just add 2 more bms and include both of them. i just don't want that many ppl in the bp!! anyone else having this problem?
AMGBride2008
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No, thankfully I'm not. But sorry your friends are giving you a hard time. Bigger BP's are more expensive, you have more flowers to pay for, more BP gifts to buy. I think doing a reading is just as good as being in the BP... she can still be involved in all of the BP stuff, like the shower and Bach. Party... hopefully she'll get over it.
Good luck!
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Yup!! I have one friend that got REALLY upset and left my Eparty early because i did not include her.. i told her that i would like for her to still be a part of the day by doing a reading at the church and she was like i guess so.. oh well.. you're not going to please everyone and its your day
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maybe you can mention the $$ thng....?
Like, FH and I are totally scrapped for cash...and I just can't afford a large bridal part....
ehhh, actually, now that I say it...it sounds like an excuse...
Yeah, I'd make sure they are really involved in the BP and the showers, etc.....
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I understand how you feel. Not the same exact problem but close. My MOH is my aunt, she is very close to me, but I have a friend that I have know for 8 years and we are very close also. Well I asked my Aunt and not her and I think that upset her some. I felt bad but in the end I picked who I felt should be there.
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I have a cousin and a 'friend' (my two godsons mom) that keep saying they KNOW they are in my wedding. I can't stand when people volunteer themselves into my wedding. Now the 'friend' is very sometime-sy and always hitting me up for money, so Im assuming Id have to pay for everything. She's not reliable and expects to be in my wedding.
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MY CO-WORKER is upset...***..i dont even know her like that
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I have a friend that got upset! We only started to become close friends last year. I only picked 3 friends that I have known for 7 years now. The rest is 2 cousins and 2 sisters and my FSIL. Not so sound like a b-tch but even if I could have one more she wouldn't have been picked. I have a cousin that i would have loved to put in but i gave her a reading instead. It's so hard i have a huge family that i'm really close too.
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YES!! One of my friends was highly insulted that she isn't in the bridal party and has been a real pain in the a$$. She's going through a lot of difficult things in her life and she needs to focus on them... not my wedding!
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thanks for sharing, i'm glad to know i'm not the only one going through this stuff. i feel bad and i asked fh if maybe i could add them and have 2 more bms but he gets mad b/c i am always trying to please everyone else and he said it's our day and i should do what makes me happiest.
i just get sick of trying to make everyone happy, or hearing about why someone is annoyed w MY plans. it's stinky.
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that's why i'm only having a MOH, and it's my sister. No drama.
LoveRocks
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Posted by jeanette0402
thanks for sharing, i'm glad to know i'm not the only one going through this stuff. i feel bad and i asked fh if maybe i could add them and have 2 more bms but he gets mad b/c i am always trying to please everyone else and he said it's our day and i should do what makes me happiest.
i just get sick of trying to make everyone happy, or hearing about why someone is annoyed w MY plans. it's stinky.
You will never be able to make everyone happy!! Someone will always have something to say. I'm a 'people pleaser' myself, and I'm trying not be when it comes to wedding decisions.
It sounds cliche', but this really is your day.
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Posted by LoveRocks
Posted by jeanette0402
thanks for sharing, i'm glad to know i'm not the only one going through this stuff. i feel bad and i asked fh if maybe i could add them and have 2 more bms but he gets mad b/c i am always trying to please everyone else and he said it's our day and i should do what makes me happiest.
i just get sick of trying to make everyone happy, or hearing about why someone is annoyed w MY plans. it's stinky.
You will never be able to make everyone happy!! Someone will always have something to say. I'm a 'people pleaser' myself, and I'm trying not be when it comes to wedding decisions.
It sounds cliche', but this really is your day.
exactly!!! You dont want to regret this years down the road because you felt YOU HAD TO! No one should feel that way.
Are these girls married? My single girlfriends who have never been thro this I am finding arent understanding why things are the way they are, while my married/engaged friends are a million times more understanding to everything going on...they know how tough things are.
Maybe this is a sign...if ppl are real true friends, any hurt they may feel would be gone knowing that you are including them and would be more understanding. Being in someones BP shouldnt make or break a friendship.
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Posted by Mizzdimple
MY CO-WORKER is upset...***..i dont even know her like that
WHAT!! That is insane!
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My cousin assumes her children are in my wedding, she doesn't know that they're not yet. I'm 100% sure she'll be upset, but oh well, it's my wedding day and it's not my fault her children are scared of people.
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I think my little cousin (10 yrs) is upset that she is not in it. When we said that we were engaged, she was like 'Yay I get to be in another wedding' I looked at her and said sweetly 'no I am sorry I am going to have my sisters (4 and 8 yrs) in it'
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my friends are all very understanding and supportive
however, everyone is in an uproar that my two youngest nieces are not in it ( well FH;s niece and my niece)
he has his two older nieces in it and I have my older niece. . . FH did not want babies in the wedding ( the girls will be 2 years old at the time of the wedding)
maybe if we didnt have FGs we would have used them. . . but we have two who will be 9 and 7!
my mom is sooo upset she cant even talk about it i am not sure what my brother thinks though. . .
madseason
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ugh.....this is when i want to elope....its times like this!
And then i hear...'well fine! Youre not in MINE!!!'
Jesses Girl
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i havenmt asked my girls yet but im sure the friends i dont ask will not be insulted...im basically the last to get married and im sure they will be ok with it. i mean they have to understand i would think
i have a lot of family..and im having 4 family members in it already.
yah my FH cuzin is a sweetheart but she thinks im gonna ask her. i luv her but not over people i have known forever.
im sorry that they are treatin u that way
Kimbalina
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we are not having any ring bearers sooooo I think some people who have younger sons might be annoyed! OHHHH well. We dont feel like we need one and are not close to anyone who has that younger kid.
