Are any brides doing this?

Original post by cantwait2bewed

Jan 13, 2005 11:41 AM

Are any of you not going to work after you get married or have kids? And how does your FH feel about this?

CaCRmr Posted: Jan 13, 2005 01:44 PM

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We're both working day and night so I won't have to work once we have children. My husband wouldn't have it any other way

gina&ken Posted: Jan 13, 2005 01:59 PM

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Posted by Thumballina

We've discussed this and unless we move out of NY its not happening...

I want to stay home and raise my children bc thats what my mom did...but situations were different back then...

same here

Laura1976 Posted: Jan 13, 2005 02:32 PM

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I'll probably continue working right after the wedding, but come the end of this year we'll probably be moving out of state, and I won't have to work. By then I would like a bun in the oven too, and once we start having kids i'll be staying home.

FH and I were both raised with our Mom's being home all the time, thats the only way we know how to do it

marc_rai Posted: Jan 13, 2005 02:34 PM

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i don't want to work, but the reality is that I probably will have to.

sunshine&jules Posted: Jan 13, 2005 02:37 PM

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Arent some of us lucky. My FH is on unemployment right now and its a bad time for construction. So I just hope i can pay for my wedding with rent and everything.

MrsA814 Posted: Jan 13, 2005 02:39 PM

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I want to have a baby after the wedding and i don't want to work to but i have to

nferrandi Posted: Jan 13, 2005 02:40 PM

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Idealy I would like to b a SAHM, but I don't know if we'll be able to afford it. DH knows that even if we have to struggle, I'm really against going back to work FT, I would only want to work PT until my kids are school-aged.

girlygrl33 Posted: Jan 13, 2005 05:08 PM

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I will be home pregnant and after the baby I want to go back to work. FH will not discuss it he doesnt want me working while Im pregnant then after its up to me. I cant stop working I worked so hard for my career and I have to maintain my license in NYS ( I have to attend classes and pay for them) and I dont want to lose my skill. I will prob work 1 or 2 days. After a month or 2 though.

Azrael27 Posted: Jan 13, 2005 09:08 PM

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My FH and I go back and forth on this. He wants me to stay home with the kids and if I don't want to - then he said he will. We're not styaing in NY - we're trying to move down south come summertime, so we may be able to afford it. But I do value my career...so I really don't know and probably wont till the baby comes

Jamie&MarkSept.'05 Posted: Jan 13, 2005 09:12 PM

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I may be overreacting or misinterpreting, but I am a bit of a womens' libber and I think it is kind of wierd when people wrote 'FH doesn't want me to work' when I have kids or after I get married, etc. Why should they get to decide what happens?

If my FH ever told me what to do there would be some big trouble!

Just playing devils advocate a bit here....

Again, I could be misinterpreting what was written...don't want to cause a bridal war...just a thought!