are parents coming with you to take pics?

Original post by Espo22

Apr 30, 2008 11:41 AM

Ok i was asked about this and now im confused. From what i know, most of the time the parents don't go after to take pics at a different location. I know usually its the bp with the bride and groom. I personally dont care, its not like i dont want them there, i think now it seems like i dont want them there. I just went with what i know and figured they didn't come. This came up recently and i said if they want to come they can, just as long as they know that for 4 hours we will be running around taking pics, if they're ok with that im fine with it. I didnt even say 'oh parents cant come' i just didnt exactly plan for it either. To tell you the truth, i was under the impression they were going to do something else, it was talked about a year ago so i just assumed all this time plans remained the same, now i find out that those plans will no longer happen but i was never told this.

What are you all doing? Are your parents going with you? In past bp's did the parents come?

snwb08 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 01:42 PM

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honestly i don't have this issue because all of our pics will probably be at the RH BUT when my three sisters got married and took pics off site my parents didn't go.... in one case it was because they hosted, but they just took pics at the church and at the RH during the CH so that was plenty.

I really don't think your parents need to go to Dumbo - and whether or not they take pics there or at your RH and Church OR - of course they are a special part of the day regardless.... I agree no need to drag them around everywhere. JMO.

PreshusSmurf Posted: Apr 30, 2008 01:45 PM

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We took pictures before the ceremony at OWG.

Parents did not come.

Logistically, it just made more sense for them not to come, though I am sure my Mom really wanted to be there ... especially since it was the first time DH & I saw eachother that day.

The benefits to them NOT coming, in my mind (in our situation) were:

* More time for them to get ready -- the started hair & makeup right around the time we left ... if they were coming with us we would have had to start hair & make up much earlier. As it was, I think we started at 9am for an 8pm ceremony

* Less people to coordinate in the pictures

* I cannot even imagine our Moms being there when one of our Limos got stuck in the MUD at OWG. I was able to keep calm b/c my BMs are awesome. The Moms would definitely NOT have been calm about the situtation

bigrd37 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 01:47 PM

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Most of the time parents don't come to take pictures. I have a different case though. We are taking pictures before hand at the Vanderbilt since we are getting married at the RH. Our parents will be with us in the limo after we're ready and instead of getting another limo to bring the parents to the RH and have them sit there for an hour waiting, we decided to have everyone just come along and take all the pictures together. I wasn't originally planning on this, but it's fine with me now

Espo22 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 01:48 PM

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Posted by Snick n Nick

Posted by Espo22

Posted by GMar9508

Yes mine are coming with me, I mean they are paying for some of my wedding and I want them there

i am dedicating 2 hours of taking pics with them well about 2 hours maybe just under so not like i am not having pics with them. Also its not about wanting them there or not, for me it was that ALL this time i thought they were having a small get together with drinks, coffee and stuff like that at the house after.

I totally hear you....it sounds like they changed their plans without really consulting you. Either way I think you will be fine, but you're probably right--most of that time will be devoted to Bride and Groom photos and photos with the BP--not much for the parents to do! How many photos do you really need with your parents?

yeah i cant really plan things if i am not updated with what is going on after hahaha. I am leaving it up to them, you wanna come then come if not we'll see you later. Everything is my fault with all this wedding planning it seems lol. Even fh called me while i was in vegas saying we have to get another limo, i say ok but why and he says that its not fair my girls get driven to the church and him and his guys dont. Ok can i tell you that when we booked limos and i was going to get another limo FH said 'NO i want to walk to the church since its a block and a half away and i think it will be cool for pics' so i said ok if its what you want, i even asked him quite a few times after and he didnt want a limo. I even suggested that if he wants i can have the party bus pick the guys up too along with the girls and he said no. This weekend somehow he wants to be driven, and he also forgot that it was his idea to not get the limos but blamed me lol, when i yelled that 'HELLO it was your plan all along' that is when he realized oh yeah then i get asked about parents taking pics and made to look like the bad guy and i was just like 'well i thought they were doing an after ceremony thing at the house with family' and again it was like oh well not anymore, cant really know that if i am not told

ugh sorry just venting lol

Espo22 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 01:50 PM

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Posted by PreshusSmurf

We took pictures before the ceremony at OWG.

Parents did not come.

Logistically, it just made more sense for them not to come, though I am sure my Mom really wanted to be there ... especially since it was the first time DH & I saw eachother that day.

The benefits to them NOT coming, in my mind (in our situation) were:

* More time for them to get ready -- the started hair & makeup right around the time we left ... if they were coming with us we would have had to start hair & make up much earlier. As it was, I think we started at 9am for an 8pm ceremony

* Less people to coordinate in the pictures

* I cannot even imagine our Moms being there when one of our Limos got stuck in the MUD at OWG. I was able to keep calm b/c my BMs are awesome. The Moms would definitely NOT have been calm about the situtation

thank you and yes to me made sense too. I know my mom and her walking all around for 3-4 hours taking pics on cobblestone streets and through bklyn she will get uncomfortable. I think it will be great if they also are there to take pics but i just couldnt imagine the parents doing this and thought it would just be too much for them. So when it was brought up that they would do a get together i just though oh ok probably more their speed good for them

Espo22 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 01:52 PM

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thank you to all the ladies. I asked bc i was made to feel that i am the only person who didnt have it planned to bring the parents

snowcutie82 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 02:07 PM

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we're going by ourselves...our bp and parents are going back to the rh in a diff limo and we're meeting up with them to take pics at the rh when we're done.

MayWeddingGrl Posted: Apr 30, 2008 02:09 PM

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its really up to you... if you want more pictures with your parents in them, then have them come with you to the location. I wanted my parents too, but since FH parents aren't, my parents declined to go also.

Mici n KC Posted: Apr 30, 2008 02:12 PM

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For all weddings I have been in, the parents did not go with us to the separate location. We are not going to a separate location and only taking pics at the church and JT. They'll be with us at the church and then at JT.

hunnybunnyxoxo Posted: Apr 30, 2008 02:31 PM

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dh's parents could not come b/c FIL is in a wheelchair and he is on a schedule. plus they are older.
My mom didnt come either because she suffers from really bad knee problems.

I wouldnt mind if they came along. it wouldnt bother me...

PreshusSmurf Posted: Apr 30, 2008 02:35 PM

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Posted by Espo22

thank you to all the ladies. I asked bc i was made to feel that i am the only person who didnt have it planned to bring the parents

parents have a tendency to try to make us feel this way, when they have a different opinion

Espo22 Posted: Apr 30, 2008 02:39 PM

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Posted by PreshusSmurf

Posted by Espo22

thank you to all the ladies. I asked bc i was made to feel that i am the only person who didnt have it planned to bring the parents

parents have a tendency to try to make us feel this way, when they have a different opinion

it will just be easier to say 'hey i would love to be there and take the pics' lol but yeah very true.

DeeluvsVinny Posted: Apr 30, 2008 03:04 PM

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We are having the parents come. mostly because Fh's stepbros are our JR GMS and one has ADHD and needs to be supervised..which as I as the bride will not do! Plus the Fgs and Rbs...need someone there.

Also, the church is 3 blocks from my house and the RH is about 15 mins away...and there's a 2 hour gap..I do not want my poor mother hosting ppl at my house and trying to serve them in her gown and worrying about them..