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Are there things that you should expect your bms and moh to do?

SimHawk8 Posted:

Are there things that you should expect your bms and moh to do?

If invited into a bridal party what do you expect your financial and time responsibilities to be?

LoveyDovey Posted:

Re: Are there things that you should expect your bms and moh to do?

i expect them to buy a dress , be available for dress shopping

i expect them to be supportive

to show up to bach party, bridal shower, rd and be with me the night before the wedding

and would like it if they could be around to help with things like favors and assembling other DIY projects

financially, whatever they can afford, but certainly enough to buy a dress and possibly shoes and attend bach party

i dont expect gifts or money from my BP...id rather them be able to be a part of my day even if that means they cant afford a gift for shower or wedding...I have one friend that will prob not be able to do either but she means enough to me that it doesnt matter.
spdy540 Posted:

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I purchased my girls dresses and I'm paying 50%of their hair but I expected them to throw a shower and BP party and support me. I didn't care if the shower was in the backyard with a homemade cake but most are family and they know my mother situation . They did a good job with shower with the cake from my favorite bakery and having it in the catering room at the blue lagoon. I didn't expect them to put invites together or participate in my 2 DIY projects but some offered anyway but I just purchased most stuff already done.

FutureJOC Posted:

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Financially I plan to pay for my dress/alterations, accessories, hair, makeup, bach party. If the mother of the bride is throwing the shower and would like help money wise, I would throw in if asked. If the BP is the one throwing the shower, than obviously I would pay there as well. Also, you have to factor in your gift for the shower, a joint BP gift (if doing one) and a wedding gift and hotel room (if you are staying).

Other than financially, all I said to my BMs was show me a good time at the B party and if my mom needs any help with the shower to help her out.
jovigirl414 Posted:

Re: Are there things that you should expect your bms and moh to do?

Posted by LoveyDovey

financially, whatever they can afford, but certainly enough to buy a dress and possibly shoes and attend bach party

i dont expect gifts or money from my BP...id rather them be able to be a part of my day even if that means they cant afford a gift for shower or wedding...I have one friend that will prob not be able to do either but she means enough to me that it doesnt matter.


I agree ... I actually told my girls that the Shower/B-party memories will last much longer than a blender, and that I do NOT want gifts because they are spending enough this way...
itbroi805 Posted:

Re: Are there things that you should expect your bms and moh to do?

if I'm asked to be in a wedding...I expect to pay for my dress, chip in for bridal shower and bach party and help plan them, pay for hair, and shoes if necessary. Of course to be supportive and help out with things if asked (favors etc)

JandS Posted:

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I expect my bms to buy their dresses, shoes, look nice at the wedding, be at the bridal shower bach party and not stress me out. My MOH has already complained to me that i'm not involving her enough in the planning but I am very independent and don't need the worry about if I'm not including someone enough.

pjc92980 Posted:

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i would expect to buy a dress, shoes, hair and makeup. I would also expect to help coordinate and pay for the shower and bachelorette party. Regarding time, i would assume i would need however long it takes to find a dress, completely available the day of the wedding, the RH day, the shower and bach date.

I know a lot of brides that have a lot of expectations from their girls though...one of my BM said that the last weeding she was in, the bride basically had her as the DOC (handing out tips, managing the must take pics etc). To me, that is a bit over the top. They are in the bridal party and need to be there to help you but they should be able to enjoy the reception and partyyyyyyy
Bree71584 Posted:

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i think it really depends on the person. i know when i was a BM for my twin sister and my friend i was very involved especially as the MOH for my twin sister. i went with her to every vendor and gave my opinion on everything, planned teh shower and bacherlorette party and helped her research the best prices etc. but thats probably because i really enjoy wedding planning and party planning in general.

my friends on the other hand i know range from a little flaky to totally irresponsible so all i except from them is to show up the day of on time in the dress, a decent pair of shoes and their hair and makeup looking good. ofcourse i want them all to come to the shower and bacherlorette but im not expecting them to plan anything becuase i know they wont. my mom and sisters are doing my shower and my twin sister is planning the bacherlorette.

i think you really just need to know your audience. it would be nice if every bridesmaid was totally on the ball and willing to help and support you, but thats not realistic

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