Are We Supposed To Pay For This TOO???

Original post by radiostar

May 05, 2003 10:38 AM

As always, I find new stuff to worry about everyday. I was sitting here thinking about the rehearsal dinner.

1st of all, who's invited? Well obviously the BP...but what about their significant others? I have an extremely large BP...so now what WAS 16 ppl can become 32 !

If their significant others come along to the RD, am I supposed to pay for them too??

OH GAWD!!!!

isopodi Posted: May 05, 2003 05:24 PM

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We invited the entire BP and their significant others, the readers, the parents, and grandparents. My MIL paid for half of the RD, and my FH and I paid for the other half. Overall we would've had 35 people but since some of the significant others were unable to make it, we ended up having about 30 people.

112903 Posted: May 05, 2003 09:42 PM

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My FI parents are paying for it.. And we are inviting all the readers..

HearzBellz Posted: May 05, 2003 09:47 PM

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I would love to say no, but I think you do have to pay for that. Sorry

radiostar Posted: May 05, 2003 09:49 PM

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DANG-NABBIT!!!

HearzBellz Posted: May 05, 2003 09:51 PM

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i know radiostar... it never ends. We are paying for our wedding ourselves and it seems as though new stuff keeps popping up for us to take care of!

radiostar Posted: May 05, 2003 09:54 PM

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And you know what???? The one thing that I am most nervous about is uninvited guests popping up at the wedding. Also, those non-rsvp'ers!!

Sorry about the rant. . . .

HearzBellz Posted: May 05, 2003 09:57 PM

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RANT AWAY!!! My FILs have a way of 'inviting' uninvited guests to these types of things. I told FILs if the tell people to show that are not supposed to be there, then they are paying for them!

butterfly20 Posted: May 05, 2003 11:59 PM

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thank goodness his parents said they'd pay for RD... i think a few out of towners will be joining us too!

eternityawaits Posted: May 06, 2003 12:01 AM

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I refuse to have one at this point - my mom is threatening not to have my father at the wedding since she is paying for almost all of it and I know this is one more to add to her list

NovBride Posted: May 06, 2003 12:05 AM

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i would definately say that if you invite them you're paying for them...maybe have something at your house or the church hall. It doesn't need to be fancy. You can put something nice together without spending too much at a restaurant.

HearzBellz Posted: May 06, 2003 12:14 AM

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Meanwhile, radiostar -- how flippin' hysterical are your animated emoticons!!!

radiostar Posted: May 06, 2003 07:51 AM

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HearzBellz.....These emoticons represent how I really feel so very accurately!!!

What I want to do to one of my BMs:

What I want to do to my FH sometimes:

And finally, what I would like tell my MOH:

WHEW! I feel so much better now!

michele31 Posted: May 06, 2003 07:58 AM

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We invited the BP, parents, ceremony readers and spouses/significant others as well as 3 out of town Aunts/Uncles. If my grandmothers were alive they would also have been invited.

I think part of the problem is that many, many brides do NOT figure in all of these costs when chosing a bridal party. They want a large BP, but it also costs a lot to have one. You need more limos, more flowers, BP gifts, rehersal dinner costs etc...

We paid for 95% of our wedding without any help from parents. I was VERY lucky that my brother and sister gave us our RD as our wedding gift. We had a family style dinner at La Familia in Smithtown. You can also consider hosting a coffee/cake only time after the rehersal at your home or one of the parents home and not have a full dinner. We considered doing that early on and many people told us that it was fine to do.

tarakinspa Posted: May 06, 2003 01:50 PM

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usually the in laws pay for this, even though mine are I didnt invite significant others

juju Posted: May 06, 2003 06:08 PM

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I would think you didn't have to pay for their dates unless they were coming for out of town. Most of my bridal party are from out of town so it looks as though I will be inviting their significant others. As for the rehearsal dinner, we want it low key so that everyone will be psyched for our wedding. I don't wan't people pooped from the night before.