Are you paying for your Bridesmaids ....

hair/makeup?
dress?
shoes?
hotel rooms?

Is anyone helping their girls with ANY of the cost other than giving them a gift and the rehearsal diner?

Some girls I've talked to have paid for something and other girls say no way. In the end it's do what you feel is best, I know this, but I'm just being nosey. Tell Espo to read this and give it to me straight!

Thanks!

I'd love to...but I can't financially. So to be fair, I told them that hair and makeup were 100% optional since I know how expensive it gets.

hair and make-up yes, everything else no....

ETA: also going to do mani-pedi for them if they want the day before the wedding

I'm only giving them DOJ and RD. Everything else they are paying for themselves. I think accepting to be in someones bridal party comes with a financial obligation and you accept understanding that financial obligation. Honestly every wedding I have been in that is how it ws handled.

Aww, that was nice. I think I'm going to help them with that because I just feel so like, selfish. Forcing them to get hair and makeup - though they all said they wanted it. Thanks for your input.

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Posted by beachbum05

I'd love to...but I can't financially. So to be fair, I told them that hair and makeup were 100% optional since I know how expensive it gets.

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You quoted my MOH excactly.

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Posted by bluekat16

I'm only giving them DOJ and RD. Everything else they are paying for themselves. I think accepting to be in someones bridal party comes with a financial obligation and you accept understanding that financial obligation. Honestly every wedding I have been in that is how it ws handled.

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Posted by AllyDrew1108

Aww, that was nice. I think I'm going to help them with that because I just feel so like, selfish. Forcing them to get hair and makeup - though they all said they wanted it. Thanks for your input.

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Posted by beachbum05

I'd love to...but I can't financially. So to be fair, I told them that hair and makeup were 100% optional since I know how expensive it gets.

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If having their hair and makeup done is important to you, I guess I'd try to cover some of the cost (If you can!).

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Posted by bluekat16

I'm only giving them DOJ and RD. Everything else they are paying for themselves. I think accepting to be in someones bridal party comes with a financial obligation and you accept understanding that financial obligation. Honestly every wedding I have been in that is how it ws handled.

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you said it perfectly....i have been in many bridal parties at this point and not one bride has asked that i get my hair or makeup done...totally my option with which i have always gotten my hair done...not my makeup....and for mine the same goes....i would never feel comfortable telling anyone how to wear their hair or to spend money on getting it done....therefore....totally the BM's choice....but expenses come with the territory of being in a BP....

I bought DOJ, tee-shirts, hotel rooms, party bus for a Girls Night Out, gift bags with some nice toiletries, and a weekend at AC. My bridal party consists of 11 girls.

no my girls are staying with me the night before but they're paying for all the other stuff. I got gifts for them. we couldnt afford to

I am not asking them to get their hair/make-up done. I told them that someone was coming to my room to do my hair (I didn't even mention make-up) and asked if anyone was interested. My best friend wants a blow-out. I'll pay for her for that, but that's it!
I've been in two weddings, and never was it required that I get my hair/make-up done.
I think that at this point in our lives, most of us know how to do it, and it isn't necessary as a BM. JMO

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Posted by bella1028

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Posted by bluekat16

I'm only giving them DOJ and RD. Everything else they are paying for themselves. I think accepting to be in someones bridal party comes with a financial obligation and you accept understanding that financial obligation. Honestly every wedding I have been in that is how it ws handled.

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you said it perfectly....i have been in many bridal parties at this point and not one bride has asked that i get my hair or makeup done...totally my option with which i have always gotten my hair done...not my makeup....and for mine the same goes....i would never feel comfortable telling anyone how to wear their hair or to spend money on getting it done....therefore....totally the BM's choice....but expenses come with the territory of being in a BP....

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I agree too. I couldn't afford to pay for everything and then I would feel responsible to pay for the GM as well. The girls know that hair and make-up are optional. I let them choose the dress they wanted (actually it came down to two dresses and I suggested they go with the cheaper one of the two they really liked). I will however in addition to their gifts (which include DOJ, vera bradley bag, and flip flops) invite them all out for mani-pedis which I intend to pay for the day before.

I would love to pay for something for my girls, but i just can't afford to......as it is right now......i'm over my budget....fh and I are footing the bill ourselves so i just really can't

Actually I was just talking about this with my mother, because both of my sisters said they couldn't afford to get their makup done. I want them to feel beautiful, but I am not sure I can afford to pay for it for them, and I feel like I should buy their jewelry also.

I don't think we are going to end up paying for the makeup, although I would like to. I feel your pain!