Arggg.. Sometimes i hate that FH was already married..

lookitscassie Posted: Aug 04, 2007 04:44 PM

Arggg.. Sometimes i hate that FH was already married..

My FH got married at 19, because his ex was pregnant. Sometimes i get really upset and feel like maybe we shouldnt get married b/c I wont get to be his first wife, or when we have kids it wont be his first.

i'm just being stupid and childish..

anyone else have a similar situation?

mdawg Posted: Aug 04, 2007 04:46 PM

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uhm cassie... most people within the next 10 years will have been married more than once... i think youre just ahead of the game now. :)

seriously though.. the only reason why you shouldnt marry him is if you dont love him anymore. There should be no other reason.

kBr Posted: Aug 04, 2007 04:46 PM

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i get jealous about everything... that i was never anyones 1st, etc... but you cant live that way cass, he is with YOU now cuz he LOVES you.. obviously he made a mistake and only got married cuz he got her pregnant... think of it this way- he is marrying YOU before you even got pregnant- which means he is doing it cuz he WANTS to... but i know how you feel! *hUG*

lookitscassie Posted: Aug 04, 2007 04:56 PM

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lol whats hysterical is his son told his mom that im pregnant IM NOT!

so monday when frank dropped his son off, his ex's whole family was congratulating him and stuff.

was hysterical.
theyre all happy that he found someone that isnt a nasty beetch.

GinaBambina08 Posted: Aug 04, 2007 11:48 PM

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I could absolutely understand why you'd be bothered by that....deep down inside I would be too...you just have to remember not to let the jealousy make you do crazy things....it's perfectly natural though, you're human, i've felt that way many times ...HTH

DonnaPWhite1124 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 10:41 AM

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I get sometimes jealous thinking of FH and his ex gf(they lived together and almost got married) But still, I know its different, but its human nature to feel a certain way about something-especially that.

But know that youre thee ONE he wants to be with.

lookitscassie Posted: Aug 05, 2007 10:45 AM

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thanks for making me feel better girls.
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like once or twice a month i'll just get really upset about it. but today is a good day! lol

dazies1011 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 12:59 PM

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I wouldn't get upset....you might not be the first but you will be the one that lasted, the one that stayed together, spent all the rest of your lives together. You were the ones that made it work. Look on the positive side. Also he was young and now he is smarter!!!! Hey I have a kid with my ex fiance and I will have kids with my FH, it'll be my first with him but, not my first all together but, the baby will be ours and think of things like that.Did that make scense?

lookitscassie Posted: Aug 05, 2007 01:24 PM

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definatly. thanks for cheering me up. i bought my first wedding magazine today so im in a good mood. i need to look at it as, they got married because she was pregnant. i'm not pregnant so hes marrying me because he wants to not cuz he has to. and his son means the world to me so im getting a fh and a step son and im super lucky =)

dazies1011 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 05:30 PM

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Posted by lookitscassie

definatly. thanks for cheering me up. i bought my first wedding magazine today so im in a good mood. i need to look at it as, they got married because she was pregnant. i'm not pregnant so hes marrying me because he wants to not cuz he has to. and his son means the world to me so im getting a fh and a step son and im super lucky =)

Good, I'm glad your in a better mood!!!

little34 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 05:58 PM

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I think you should focus on that he and his ex are no longer together and he wants to marry you. I don't think you should worry about all of that... his past made him who he is today. I wouldn't worry....it will be special for him because it will be with you!!!

lookitscassie Posted: Aug 05, 2007 06:01 PM

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and i refuse to have a half assed cheesey gross wedding like he had the 1st time lol

HotAir Posted: Aug 05, 2007 07:07 PM

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Posted by lookitscassie

and i refuse to have a half assed cheesey gross wedding like he had the 1st time lol

lol there you go! Tell us about his first wedding. I'm evil! lol

There are a lot of girls on here that are marrying for the second time or are marrying a guy that has already been married. Your day will be special either way.

lookitscassie Posted: Aug 05, 2007 09:26 PM

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they got married at this tiny little crap hall in lindenhurst and it was miserable. i dont know too many of the details b/c he hates to talk about it. but i used to be friends with her before me and FH stated dating, and she said it was stinky.
but thats a whole nother story lol