Argh - Help us out with this argument about who walks down the aisle!!!
lipglossjunky73
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Argh - Help us out with this argument about who walks down the aisle!!!
FH is telling me that parents don't walk the groom down! At every wedding I have been to, the parents walk the groom down...
He said groomsmen stand there and the girls walk solo - but in every wedding I was a BM at, I always walked down the aisle with a groomsmen....
He said the order is least important to most important - so MOH walks last? In ever wedding I have ever been to, she has always been 1st...
What is going on? Is there something I have been missing????
Help us settle this ASAP!!
johnsae
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It varies, but at our wedding we had both his parents walk him down the aisle.
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Liza - I have to agree with your FH on this, but you need to decide what is best for the two of you! I went to a wedding this weekend where the Groom was escorted by his parents down the aisle - this is up to the man and what he wants to do. Most weddings I've been to, they just come around a bend of pews and line up at the altar.
As for the BM procession - normally it's the BM, then the FG or RB, then MOH and then the Bride.
sarahradio5
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from what I understand...
MOH is right before the bride.
BM's can either walk solo or with a groomsman... it's up to you guys.
don't know about the parents walking the groom down thing. The last two weddings I was at, I just remember the groom and best man waiting in the front of the church with the priest before the processions formally began. I don't know how he got up there.
HTH! Good luck!!!
Danigrl28
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Any wedding I have been to the groom has stood at the alter after the guest were seated. About the bm for my wedding I had them walk down solo and then escorted my the gm at the end of the wedidng. I have been to wedding were the whole bp walks in and out together.
JanuaryBride06
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It varies; there isn't one set walking order than everyone goes by.
Most weddings that I've been to, the groom stands up front with the BM and the MOH walks in last.
I've also seen it set up where the BMs walk in alone and the GMs are standing up front.
You really can set it up however you two would like. There are no official 'rules' for the order.
stephanief
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At our wedding, my DH parents walked down together, then DH and the BM walked down together, then the BP, then flower girl and RB, then the MOH, then me, mom and dad walked together
lipglossjunky73
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this is so confusing... or i am just the stupidest person on the planet....
ok, what about BMS and MOh order?
ewickens
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Posted by lipglossjunky73
this is so confusing... or i am just the stupidest person on the planet....
ok, what about BMS and MOh order?
Again, it's up to you Liza! You have to decide how YOU want it. Personally, I'm having my BM walk down by themselves, then my MOH then me and my father. Our aisle isn't wide enough for two people to walk down together, so this is what we came up with.
Soccer_Girl
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sd9403
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I'm not sure about this, but my brother in law walked down with this parents. I thought that is how it was done in the Jewish religion. ???
CLMon7906
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I think traditionally, the groom is on his own as far as getting up there.....also, the MOH does walk in last...but out first...like you.....the other BMs go in then the FG then the MOH then you.
as far as the BMs walking in solo or not, THAT is a personal choice.......but the other stuff, he's right on....
now, he might walk his parents in or his grandma....but no one usually walks the groom up to the altar.
Jen2999
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Groom and BM satnd up front
Bridesmaids, MOH, FG/RB than bride....
Thats how I always thought it was done.
In jewish weddings I have been to the parents walk the groom down.
October Bliss
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Liza - from my little pocket etiquette book:
'The order of your processional and recessional will depend on the type of ceremony you're having: religious, civil, military. Family tradition and the formatlity of your ceremony will also influence the proceedings.' Then there is a bunch of stuff related to Catholic and Jewish ceremonies. Then is says:
'While there is no set order for a civil ceremony, a couple might borrow procedures from a religious ceremony, or create their own. What's important is that the ceremony feel right to the bride and groom.'
ETA: For Catholic ceremonies the order list has the groom & BM waiting at alter, with BM & ushers walking together in pairs, then MOH, then RB, then FG, then bride & her father. For Jewish ceremonies it has bride's grandparents, grooms' grandparents, ushers, best man, groom together w/ his parents, BMs, MOH, RB, FG, then bride together w/ her parents.
EmberLynn
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There are all kind of ways you can do this. I've seen where BMs walk alone or with an GM. I've talked to people who have had BM first or last. As for the parents walking down with him, THAT IS HIS CHOICE! He can chose to have them walk down with him or not. Either is fine. But him having his parents or not is completely up to him.
BKtoLI
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You can do it whichever way you choose, but typically the MOH goes right before the bride. If you have a RB or FG then they go right after the MOH but before you.
As for his walking down with his parents, that is entirely up to him and could depend on his religion.
Jewish religion dictates that both bride and groom are escorted by their parents. Catholicism dictates that the groom's parents walk down, the MOB is escorted by someone and then the bride is escorted by her father. So it's however you want to do it.
Blu-ize
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Do it the way you want. Both our parents walked us down.
R&J0806
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It is my understanding that it go like this:
groom & 'rents bridal party maid of honor & best man bride
But its your wedding. There aren't any rules, it's what you want.
Marjiesan
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I need help here too: He's Jewish I'm Not. My mom is single and there is no one 'giving' me away. His mom insists on walking down with FH. He is not to see me b4 the ceremony (I know I'm silly) so how can this work....
Please help me too!!!!
sr081906
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My father will not be at my wedding. FH's mom passed away when he was 13. My mom is remarried.
We only have 1 MOH and 1 BM.
We are doing the following.
Groom and BM will be waiting at the alter. MOH walks by herself, then FG with RG (they do better together!).
