So I just told my mom that me and FH have split the holidays where x-mas eve will be with his family and x-mas day will be with my family because those days are a bigger deal to our families. So, she says that she would think that I would spend both days with my family since it would be my last year as a 'single'.
One, I hate the term 'single' being used because I don't consider myself single since the day before me and FH started dating.
Two, why is she making such a big deal about this? X-mas day is a bigger deal to my family so that is why we'll be here. Can't she just appreciate that I want to spend some time with my family as well as with fh's family? We both feel the obligation to spend time with each other's family and we want to be together for the holidays.
So, now I think she's mad at me for not asking her before making a decision, has called me stubborn and accused me of not even listening to her.
I don't know what to do.
DiamondPipa
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it's not worth arguing with your mom, especially during the holidays. Just calmly explain that you and FH have 'compromised' and this is what you can do. That is exactly how we split our time!
MattandTricia07
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oh boy do I know this situation too well.
I think it's hard on our families when we 'grow' up and have another family to spend time with. I still feel the guilt and the sadness when I leave to spend time with FH's family for a holiday. I think you just have to explain that you and your FH want to be together and with each family and that this is the solution you came up with.
Good luck!!!
PS- we're splitting this year too
Shell84
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I think you handled it pretty by splitting the days between the two families. Try to speak to her again, maybe she will understand better.
babieblueeyez96
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omg i TOTALLY agree about the 'single' term...FH and i have been together for 10 years, so i havnt been single since then! i hate all the comments that FH's friends have bene making 'oh your last year being single' im like NEWSFLASH! HE HASNT BEEN SINGLE IN A LOOOOONG TIME!!! lol, sorry, that was a tangent on what you were talking about but i had to say it! lol, i hope things work out between you and mom!
cbcf
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oh man your mom sounds like mine.
although me and fh split the holiday but spend more of it at my house. his family doesnt really go all out and celebrate holidays. so christmas eve we go to church with my family at 4pm then go to his house and exchange gifts with FBIL and his wife and his parents. Then after that we go to my BIG christmas eve party at my house and fhs family comes as well. then christmas morning we wake up at my house open gifts from my parents and from each other than visit his fmily for a little and go back to mine for dinner
now my mom is made that my older brother who is just dating someone is not going to be around for both christmas and christmas eve. he will only be tere for our christmas eve party. my mom is mad bec she told him this is our last christmas all together in the house since i will be living with fh next year and my brother will be getting an apt in the summer ..so needless to say my mom is mad and my brother isnt doing anything about it haha
but i agree compromise tell your mother that was what you decided on
