arrrrggghhhhh... advise please...
fmil is in town... already stressed out!!!! and mad at FH..
FH-i have been asking him for 2.5 months on and off to take care of something.. now it is too late and I am stuck cleaning up a mess if he had just done it atleast a month ago! this all came on me this morning..
FMIL- i am at work and just got a message she left an hr ago, she went on line to look at something FH wanted off the registry and it is purchased... I purchased it for his xmas/b-day gifts... he was deployed for xmas so he is getting them all for his b-day... anyway, while deployed i bugged him to register for the drill he wanted cause i was going to buy one for his b-day last yr but didnt know what one he wanted, so perfect, we have a registry and he registers for the one he wants and now i know what one to get! FMIL got him golf clubs for xmas/bday gifts, and now wants to get him this!... i got him dvd recorder and his drill for his xmas/b-day gifts... the thing is she did this FH's and my 2nd xmas! our 1st xmas i wanted to get him a watch, i asked his brother for help to pick one out, he never responded to me at all... so our 2nd xmas i had a better idea of what wach to get and FMIL kept bringing up her buying the watch after all i put into looking for one even after i explained all this and that i am getting him the watch i finally got fedup with the 100th time of this and agreed to let it be a joint gift from his mom and me.. then dec 23rd she tells me she and his syblings decided to make it a gift from his family! i went hysterical crying to him about this.. i got it back and then she asked for the other stuff i got him so his syblings could give them to him... she left the whole gift i was so excited about tainted, to this day i hate looking at that watch.. and now she is doing it again.. when i tell her i bought the drill she is gonna get all pissy and ask for it! what do i tell her? i am tired of dealing with this cr@p! the thing is even if i tell her you got him his gifts (golf clubs) this is what i have wanted to be getting him for a while she wll still be like then i have nothing to give him etc etc and pull her sympathy card, she is hard to stand up to, i have done it once before i told FH what i said (and i DID NOT sugar coat it either) and he said good for you it's about time' ... but she later turned around and told FH I said things I didnt say! bad things about his syblings... which I didnt, I stood up for them cause she is always being mean to them about their weight and i told her how much she hurts them by doing that! (ie: she told her daughter her invitro didnt work cause she is too fat, and she is not too fat!) FMIL is.. i dont even know the word for it! a pathological lier?!?!
how would you deal with this? i am just tired of the stress i feel like she puts on Fh and I... i just can not let her to continue to do this stuff and walking on me... but she wont stop and realize how she is hurting her son!
TIA!!!!
FH-i have been asking him for 2.5 months on and off to take care of something.. now it is too late and I am stuck cleaning up a mess if he had just done it atleast a month ago! this all came on me this morning..
FMIL- i am at work and just got a message she left an hr ago, she went on line to look at something FH wanted off the registry and it is purchased... I purchased it for his xmas/b-day gifts... he was deployed for xmas so he is getting them all for his b-day... anyway, while deployed i bugged him to register for the drill he wanted cause i was going to buy one for his b-day last yr but didnt know what one he wanted, so perfect, we have a registry and he registers for the one he wants and now i know what one to get! FMIL got him golf clubs for xmas/bday gifts, and now wants to get him this!... i got him dvd recorder and his drill for his xmas/b-day gifts... the thing is she did this FH's and my 2nd xmas! our 1st xmas i wanted to get him a watch, i asked his brother for help to pick one out, he never responded to me at all... so our 2nd xmas i had a better idea of what wach to get and FMIL kept bringing up her buying the watch after all i put into looking for one even after i explained all this and that i am getting him the watch i finally got fedup with the 100th time of this and agreed to let it be a joint gift from his mom and me.. then dec 23rd she tells me she and his syblings decided to make it a gift from his family! i went hysterical crying to him about this.. i got it back and then she asked for the other stuff i got him so his syblings could give them to him... she left the whole gift i was so excited about tainted, to this day i hate looking at that watch.. and now she is doing it again.. when i tell her i bought the drill she is gonna get all pissy and ask for it! what do i tell her? i am tired of dealing with this cr@p! the thing is even if i tell her you got him his gifts (golf clubs) this is what i have wanted to be getting him for a while she wll still be like then i have nothing to give him etc etc and pull her sympathy card, she is hard to stand up to, i have done it once before i told FH what i said (and i DID NOT sugar coat it either) and he said good for you it's about time' ... but she later turned around and told FH I said things I didnt say! bad things about his syblings... which I didnt, I stood up for them cause she is always being mean to them about their weight and i told her how much she hurts them by doing that! (ie: she told her daughter her invitro didnt work cause she is too fat, and she is not too fat!) FMIL is.. i dont even know the word for it! a pathological lier?!?!
how would you deal with this? i am just tired of the stress i feel like she puts on Fh and I... i just can not let her to continue to do this stuff and walking on me... but she wont stop and realize how she is hurting her son!
TIA!!!!
