ARRRRRRGGGGGHHHHH HELPPPP!!!!

Stefie82 Posted: May 04, 2011 05:58 PM

ARRRRRRGGGGGHHHHH HELPPPP!!!!

I need help! So here is the situation, my sister who I used to consider my best friend but right now I just don't know. My sister got married a few years ago but, she just had a civil ceremony. She has now decided to have a renew her vows/ conciliation ceremony in church and do something a bit bigger. Se calls me and tells me that because I am paying for my wedding she didn't think that I could afford a bridesmaids dress for a wedding in Oct. so she wasn't asking me to be in her party!!! I am so hurt I can no even put it into words. I feel like that is such a flimsy excuse. I feel like if she really wanted me to be in it she would have asked me and we would have figured something out if I couldn't afford it which of course I can. On the top of that the people that she did ask aren't as close to her as I am and two of them are single Moms that have no money at all. I feel like for whatever reason she just doesn't want me in her wedding. I am really hurt I talked to her on the phone and let her know how I feel, but the problem is now she going to say that she wants me to be in her BP but, deep down I don't want to anymore because I honestly feel that it would just be an obligation on her part. What should I do? Take it as a stupid mistake and accept being a bridesmaid after the fact or hold my ground and just be another guest at my own sister's wedding???? Sorry for such a long post but, I need help.

pixietina Posted: May 04, 2011 06:06 PM

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I am so sorry you feel this way and I am glad that you confronted her about it. Don't concern yourself with the bridesmaids that possibly don't have alot of money. Your sister could be thinking about alot of other reasons. Maybe she is concerned about stressing you out and adding more to your plate. I think it could really be out of concern for you so maybe you should be in her BP.

5272012 Posted: May 04, 2011 06:20 PM

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Aww im so sorry :(

I really hope that shes just worried about the stress you would be going through!

Im so sorry..here if you need :)

Stefie82 Posted: May 05, 2011 10:53 PM

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Thanks for the advice ladies, I had a loooooonnnnngggg talk with my sister and straighted everything out. I am going to be in her BP afetrall. I am really grateful you took the time to respond.

Watermelon5 Posted: May 06, 2011 09:01 AM

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very glad to hear things worked out!

kdm822 Posted: May 06, 2011 09:14 AM

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Wow!! i have 2 sisters (they are twins and veryyy close to eachother - they do not share stories with me unless i ask) but they were never not include me. We might not be as close as the two of them are but were still sisters and always have eachothers backs. Maybe she said it wrong. I mean she knows your expenses and maybe didnt really want to make it harder on you.. She also didnt have to ask you to be in her party after. So thats a good sign that she did =). I say go for it.. after all your SISTERS , i know i would regret it if i didnt.