Asking Bridal Party

TESTAROSSA19 Posted: Jan 12, 2003 10:49 PM

Asking Bridal Party

Just wanted to know if I need to ask the bridal party in a special way. I asked my sister to be my MOH with a card, but 3 others already know they are in my BP, so my question is do I need to ask them even though they already know, or should I leave it as it is? The other two who didn't know I asked personally, but I am not sure about the others.

eroxgirl Posted: Jan 13, 2003 08:06 AM

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My girls all knew who they were. I jokingly asked my MOH when I called her to tell her I got engaged (7 something in the morning on a saturday!) but I didn't bother 'asking' anyone else.

Jess2 Posted: Jan 13, 2003 08:06 AM

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I've only asked my MOH, I think some of my other bridesmaids are assuming they are in the party. It's up to you,. I'm just going to ask them outright, no card since some of them live out of town I figured I'd just call and ask.

NovemberSue Posted: Jan 13, 2003 09:20 AM

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I just came out and asked them. I think some of them knew I was going to ask.

EvenEdan Posted: Jan 13, 2003 11:42 PM

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I think it is nice to officially ask them even if they already know. I asked my bridal party on Christmas Eve because we were all together, but only one of them was surprised, it was a given for everyone else.

alfordk9 Posted: Jan 14, 2003 09:53 AM

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I asked each of mine officially. I'm going a step further to tell my other friends that we couldn't put in about our decision. It's not easy but I would rather them hear it from me.

WishCandy Posted: Jan 14, 2003 11:02 AM

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I asked mine all 'officially'. I asked them informally.

babybride Posted: Jan 14, 2003 01:26 PM

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I asked my girls, but most of them knew from the day I told them I got engaged. My MOH was like - I am starting the planning right now!!! Love her!!

WithThisRing Posted: Jan 14, 2003 01:58 PM

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my maid of honor always knew she would be my MOH.

2 of my bridesmaids I just asked and the 3rd bridesmaid when I told her I got engaged, she said to me 'well you are going to have a lot of fun and planning to do' and i said to her 'well you are too because I would love for you to be a bridesmaid and Brian would be honored to have Bart - her hubby as a groomsmen' she was so surprised and excited.

My matron lives in FL and when Bri and I were going to FL to see her and her hubby who is the best man, we didnt tell them we were engaged. When we got down there we let them see it on there own. It took the guy 2 hours to notice but my Matron took her 5 minutes to notice it on my finger. We started screaming and laughing and crying and then I just came out and asked her if she would be my matron. She was crying, I was crying. She had no idea and was so excited.

AimDom Posted: Jan 14, 2003 06:10 PM

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Everyone pretty much knows who is in my bridal party but I wanted to do something special too.
I am actually using LA Productions. I ordered cute cards with little dresses on them in the color I want for my wedding and it says...will you be my bridesmaid, I then got one asking for my Maid of Honor, and 3 for flower girls. Since everyone is pretty far apart from me...NY, NJ, CT I am sending them in the mail with fake rose petals I bought from Target with a cute poem for each one. It's not much but I wanted to do something special. It was inexpensive too.

endlessluv429 Posted: Jan 14, 2003 06:33 PM

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I have been thinking about this too--my SIL knows she is my MOH and my cousin knows she is in my wedding and I informally asked FH's sister--but I might as it draws closer do something special--maybe take them out to lunch or send a special cards! You ladies had some nice ideas!

missmmpr Posted: Jan 14, 2003 08:57 PM

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My friends really just knew. I only have five people. I did not want anymore than that. I have one friend that may expect to be in it, but is not. I just never bring it up around her.

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 15, 2003 10:05 AM

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For My Bridesmaid Rosanna

In life there are old friends
and those who are new,
when choosing a bridesmaid
it had to be you.
From the moment we met
you've been the friend,
always close by
with a shoulder to lend.

So I thank you for all
your help and concern,
conversation filled days,
and all that I've learned.

Without you I don't know
what I would have done,
certainly not had
near as much fun.

In life there are old friends
and those who are new,
but none like the true friend
I've found in you.

Even though we don’t speak everyday
and I don’t see you as often as I would like
I would be honored if you would stand by me on a winter day
when my love is sworn to Ronnie.

Love you always, Theresa

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 15, 2003 10:05 AM

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Kath … With Love Theresa

12/25/02
A friend who's good and true.
Who will wear a dress to show her colors
through and through.
Who will listen to gold and white or
flaming red and orangey bright.
A friend who will dance with heart
knowing every part.
A friend who will shower me with tokens of love and liberty as my days of single-hood fly by me.

You've been there when I did not have a dime,
and did not mind when I would cry.
You've loved me through the storm and
picked me up when I was torn.
Now please be my side as I would be honored
to have you as my Matron of Honor on a Winter day when to me my love is sworn.

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 15, 2003 10:06 AM

For when we go dress shopping!

Diamonds & Pearls, Satin & Lace
Issues of Brides, books
all over the place
I’ve chosen my gown, and
now it is time,
to give my attention to very
special girlfriends of mine
You’ve been right
beside me in good
times and bad, we
have such great
memories of times
we have shared
So now lets get going!
Lets have some more fun,
Time to go pick out a bridesmaid gown
for everyone!

eroxgirl Posted: Jan 15, 2003 10:07 AM

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R&T: did you do different poems for each girl? Thats so much work!

I'm so lazy!!

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 15, 2003 10:14 AM

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one for BM'S

One for MOH..

The one for when we go dress shopping which isn't till 2004!

eroxgirl Posted: Jan 15, 2003 10:24 AM

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thats so nice! maybe I should do one for dress shopping because my girls are lazy a$$es and if they don't get 40 reminders to do something they'll never get together!