At first I thought this was cute but now its getting annoying...

My bms.. they are from another planet... I thought most bms arent really involved in the wedding planning stuff. Well not my girls. they want to be involved in EVERYTHING.
At first I thought it was really sweet ( I still do) but they get upset everytime I dont include them in something!!!! and you know how hard it is to get 5 girls together even once for dress shopping.. imagine all the time??
they want to help pick out/make favors, and come with me to vendors, help assemble the invitations.. I mean literally help me with everything... but then when I cant get ahold of all of them and do something with just one or two of them.. the others get all bent out of shape!!!

Im starting to loose it over here

Re: At first I thought this was cute but now its getting annoying...

That's how I felt about DH with the planning...he wanted to be involved and had an opinion on everything. He even pitched a little fit about not going to fittings with me.


Try to overlook the annoying part

(believe I know it's hard)

Re: At first I thought this was cute but now its getting annoying...

omg thats so funny about the fitting part!!
I understnad if he wants to be involved since its his wedding also.. but its so hard b/c everyone has different opinions and ideas.. its hard enough sometimes for me and fh to agree on wedding stuff... and then I have to run it past the bms too!!!! What one loves one hates.. and then they are ofended you didnt take their advice.

Re: At first I thought this was cute but now its getting annoying...

I gave up and did everything with my mom or FH!!!!

Re: At first I thought this was cute but now its getting annoying...

Maybe you should set them straight. Tell them you appreciate how much they want to help, and you recognize how lucky you are to have such helpful friends (because you are, believe me!) but if you have to coordinate with all 5 girls each time you want to do something, their helping doesn't help anything - especially if you have to deal with them being upset because they couldn't be there.

If you have the time, you might want to lay out a schedule and pick dates for doing certain things (invitations, makeup trials - whatever you have to do) and send it out in an email to all of them so they can work out their schedules accordingly without them blaming you for 'leaving them out'.

Re: At first I thought this was cute but now its getting annoying...

It's really cool of them that they want to help with all that stuff, but they shouldn't get mad if they are not available when you set something up.

Hang in there. They just mean well, I think. :)