I need to vent or else I might be brought up on charges for murdering one of his family members.
It all started with his sister the BM FROM HELL that I posted about on here a few times....Long story short there she is kicked out of the birdal party after she expressed that the BM dress doesnt go with her hair color or complexion..no time for her BS
We have been engaged now for 7 months and it kills me to say this...I have hated his family since day one of our engagement. If I were to fast forward 30 years from and look back on my engagment I would only remember the awful things they have done to me. I dont even know where to begin...From the fact that his father had to come check out the RH to make sure it was up to snuff for his stuffy pretensious taste...They think bc we are getting married on LI its not going to be classy enough!!...mind you they arent contributing a dime to this wedding!!!
I have gone above and beyond to kill them with kindness but the digs and insults have gone above and beyond. The final straw was when I so nicely asked them if they had friends they wanted to make sure were on the invite list so when I send STD out next month that they get one....The response i get...NO, this wedding is restricted to immediate family only....*** is RESTRICTED?!?!?!?! ---------------------UPDATE---------------------------------
No offense to anyone that is from CT but thats where they are from. They are your old school country club CT people....I mean every meal with them has to be at their club.
FH went there for Christmas without me to make a point and he laid everything out on the table and told them everything. They just dont get that the wedding isnt about them or his bratty sister, that its about us starting our lives together!..They even had the nerve to act shocked when he told them I woldnt be coming, like everything was 100% fine!!
Im sure they will be back to their old ways after the new year....Im starting to become numb to their insults!
Thanks for all the support ladies!!
2009Bride2Be
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Wow I thought I had some issues... Im sorry to hear you are going through hell with your in laws, that really sux! You should maybe remind them that a wedding is a celebration of love and its not about how big the hall is, how big the wedding is or any of that BS, ITS ABOUT YOU AND YOUR FH getting married and spending your lives together! Weddings can bring out the best of people and it can also bring out the ugliest... I think it may be a good idea to talk to them, as weird as that is, but you dont want to start a marriage resenting your in laws ya know?
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Posted by mimid15
I am not the type of person to forget the hell you put me thru. I may forgive u, but I will never forget what you did to me!
I understand your upset but from an outside point of view it's best to try to work out these differences before the wedding. The wedding is one day but your in laws are with you for life. You need to work with FH to find a way to get along with them bc you will have them in your life forever. I hope this works out for you
Mrs A in May
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Just wondering, where are they from that they think a LI wedding will not be classy?? And also
EmiNoa628
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Ohhh No!!!! Let me tell you something!! You need to put your foot down now!! FH family don't dare comment or say anything bc I care less what they think and they know it!! I get along fantastically great with everyone but my decisions and opinion counts not theirs... So talk with FH and let him know how you feel... Good Luck!!
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Brat23
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Ugh! I am frustrated for you! I know what it feels like to be in that position!
You need to talk with FH and seriously tell him enough is enough and he needs to take a stand because they are sucking the life out of your planning!
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well at least fh did what he had to do..im happy for that i hope it gets better and it if does not screw em..dont let anyone ever ever ruin ur chance at a happy life together
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I am really sorry you are going threw this. Weddings bring out the worst in people. At least your fh stands behind you and makes them see what they are doing is wrong. My fh family also caused a lot of problems for me with the wedding planning and all I can see is me remembering all the bad things they did to me but then I thought about it the day is about fh and I and no one is going to wreck my wedding day or make me upset. Don't let them get to you. Your wedding day will be great and you will see they will back off after you are married. I am hoping for everyone to be a family and be close with each other after my wedding and after all the stress is gone. I always wanted that and I am going to try and see if I can make things work with fh's family. I want to. It would be great.
