So my MOH was on the phone with me the other day (I actually have two) and was asking me if she is suppose to foot the bill for the bridal shower
She then goes on to say how she doesnt have a pot to p*ss on, so i'm like well i'm sure my mom will help out.
She basically didnt know how to approach my mom and was asking me what the right call is- she said she had been a bridesmaid before and the MOB fit the bill-
So who pays? I know my bmaids dont have mula- two of out of my six are even in the ny area. but is it too much to ask my mom to foot the bill? She will prob have to help us out in the rehersal dinner (FH parents arent supportive of us getting married so they arent helping with squat)
DeeluvsVinny
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I think it really all depends on each individual case. I'm a BM in my cousin's wedding in April and the whole BP is pitching in for everything. But, I know my mom is paying for mine...
tell you MOH to ask your mom what she's comfortable with and I'm sure they can work out a solution that is okay with everyone.
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nowadays i do see the MOB paying for the shower. Not always but do see it alot. My mother is paying for my shower but i do know my MOH did get some things for the shower. Other times i see the bp chip in together. They'll figure out the costs and divide it amongst themselves. Theres no set rule as to who HAS to pay. Or sometimes MOB will pay for the place and bp chips in for the rest such as favors, flowers, decorations, invites
Can you bring it up to your mom?
Mrs. V 2008
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my mom is
gabbie83
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my mom is paying for the whole thing. she said thats her gift to me!!! :)
NicoleBell
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I'm pretty sure my parents are paying for the shower; but the bridesmaids will hopefully help out with the rest of pulling it together --> favors, centerpieces/decorations, games and prizes, wishing well, invites, music, etc...
Is this normal?
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My matron of honor has offered to spot the whole event, since my maid of honor (sister) is only 18. I told her that was TOO gracious of her to do it all out of her own pocket, and to please talk it over with my Mother and the others in the bridal party. I hope she listens to me
MrsD71208
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My mom is..I'd never impose such a huge expense on my BP/friends.
snwb08
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my mom's paying. it's different for everyone; in my family the mom's always paid, but i hear the BP often pays or they just split it
Adriana618
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Thanks Ladies!
I know my mom wont have a problem helping or hosting, providing my bmaid or MOH's help out/plan.
I just wanted to know what the proper ettique is/ what everyone else is doing before I approach my mom.
deff helped a sista out! thanks again!
angl2001
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i dont think there is really any rule. My BMs are splitting it and i am sure my mom will help.....we did the same thing sfor my MOH wedding the whole BP split the $$ for the shower
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Posted by Adriana618
Thanks Ladies!
I know my mom wont have a problem helping or hosting, providing my bmaid or MOH's help out/plan.
I just wanted to know what the proper ettique is/ what everyone else is doing before I approach my mom.
deff helped a sista out! thanks again!
although my mom is paying, my MOH is planning alot of it
catsgirl
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well in my case my mom and my bridal party are splitting the cost. they all have been planning and working on this together, i just feel so left out.
