Well I wouldnt mind having a baby after a year of being married- cept I don't want kids till we can afford a house in a safe area with good schools. From what I am seeing on realtor websites, a nice house in a great area is going to be over $700,000!! So either we will have to move away from NY or wait like 8 years before having kids. :(
Probably 2 yrs.
We would like to wait 2-3 years. I'll be 24 and FH will be 29 when we get married. We don't live with each other and won't till our wedding day. I want to be selfish and have FH for myself for our first few years of marriage. Working on a pediatric floor gets to me though. I had a patient recently who was 8 mths old. They didn't know who he's father was and his mom was an addict and wasn't allowed within the vicinity of the hospital. His foster mom couldn't stay with him because she had other children to care for. It broke my heart that he was sick in the hospital and no family member to hold him and comfort him. I rocked him to sleep one night and he had his little fingers wrapped around my finger and I felt this sudden urge to have a baby!!! Sometimes I imagine how it would be to be pregnant and carrying my man's child...
2009 is my hope for a baby. Fh is 35 already so we need to get a move on
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Posted by LuvMyAlfonse
We want to enjoy ourselves first (we don't live together) and then whatever happens, happens.
I don't want to wish for children (or 'try') b/c I'm terrified of not being able to have them. Honestly.
i could have written this entire post myself. totally understand.
we dont live together so i want to enjoy that first - in a house not even in the apartment we will be staying in for a few years. . .
plus we have our first second and third anniversary vacations planned out![]()
as for babies - i have NO reason to think it will be difficult to have a baby - we are both healthy and come from a family of 'oops!' babies . . . but it is my biggest fear. I think bc I have been on BC for so long. . . and spent so many nights praying that I WASN'T pregnant. . . i feel like i 'jinxed' myself in a way.
i am scared too that i wont be able to have kids...don't know why, theres no real reason but i think its a fear for many women
We want it to be just us for awhile. Im thinking 4-5 years from now. But if it happens sooner thats A-OK with me.
I think my FH is looking for a honeymoon baby...
A year or two after the wedding. I want to enjoy being married first for a while.
We will wait about 3-4 years after we are married. I want to devote my attention to being a wife and travelling with my new husband when we don't have to feel guitly about being away from children or spending $ on something like that. I also have to pay some major student loans and have our first home before babies. I grew up in small apartments when i was little and i was always embarrassed that i didnt have a 'home' or a 'backyard'. i hope i can given them everything i didnt have.
lol...mizzdimple i am laughing at your wish for boys! FH comes from a family of 8 boys, no girls! His mother is a saint. seriously, she is an amazing woman...they all turned out to be awesome guys but imagine that house when they were growing up!
oh yeah and we were just discussing this last night...we are going to start trying around our 1 year anniversary. we'll both be 31 so its time to get a move on it.
ugh i will be 30 at wedding time FH will be 33...lol prob wait about a year
I think we are going to wait 4 years the most. That is what I wanted at first but it will probably be more like 2 or 3 years after we get married.
Posted by MayBride08
honestly, this may sound bad, but I kind of want to wait till some of my friends start having babies. I'm one of the first to get married and I don't want to be the only one with kids. I think it will be much more fun if we have babies at similar times so we can go through things together and not feel isolated.
Posted by Snowflake08
well, like i said, we're going to start trying about a month before the wedding
FH has the 'itch' worse than me!!
FH and I want to wait at least 2-3 years after the wedding before we have a baby
