Babies

dfw343 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:47 PM

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IMO:

Adjusting to living with someone when you never have + baby= disaster.

FH kinda lives with me already and has two tweens. The first year was a BIG adjustment but now it's great.

You have to give things an adjustment period.

Rita, totally normal what you are going through.
It will pass....

JenBill61210 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:54 PM

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no, FH and I won't live together until after the wedding so we will probably get adjusted to living with each other first.. i would say prob about 2 years after we will look to have our first kid

MrsC2010 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:56 PM

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fh and i have lived together for almost 3 years now and still dont plan to have kids for a couple years after the wedding. we want to buy a house first and get settled into married life before having babies.

MikesBride2B Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:57 PM

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I am terrified of having a baby before we are ready...that is my biggest fear right now. We don't want a kid for at least 2-3 years after the wedding...if we had one before then it would be a disaster, we're not financially secure enough for a child.

kat2010 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 02:09 PM

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i want to wait maybe 2-3 years after the wedding to start having kids.

RitasEngaged Posted: Jan 03, 2010 02:10 PM

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Posted by dfw343

IMO:

Adjusting to living with someone when you never have + baby= disaster.

FH kinda lives with me already and has two tweens. The first year was a BIG adjustment but now it's great.

You have to give things an adjustment period.

Rita, totally normal what you are going through.
It will pass....

yeah ita - i just thinks its crazy people having a baby right away when you haven't lived together - JMO

harts2976 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 02:15 PM

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FH and I have already tackled living together for a year and having a dog. Depending on jobs we will probably stop preventing it after the wedding, but won't try like crazy for a year. If it happens it happens

MrsDrinkh20 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 02:18 PM

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I feel like I am one of the lone rangers on the 09 board and in my life....everyone i know is preggo...it's crazy...we are not ready for kids...we've lived together for 3 years but just want to enjoy being married for a while...and we want to have a bigger place and be more financially secure!

scatteredx12 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 02:18 PM

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Posted by RitasEngaged

Posted by scatteredx12

i agree... living together is a hugeee adjustment. i thought it would be a piece of cake but we've been living together for 14 months now and its been tough. great, but tough. we dont want kids for a few years... i'm still in school and at a crappy job, and we're only 21 and 23. his dad keeps pressuring us to start a family immediately and i want to wait until i'm at least 24 or 25.

yeah i thought it wouldnt be hard because we always spent all our time together

but there have been so many days i have cried and wanted to just call off the wedding

ita... we always spent so much time together too so we were really excited to live together but i never realized how difficult it could get and how the little things could really get to you and cause such huge fights... and every time i cry, i get nervous about the wedding but i know that we're both just really stressed and its even more stressful because not only are we planning a wedding but we're also still learning how to live with each other, amonst other stressful things in our lives... i don't think anyone realizes how tough living together can get at times.

JayBee216 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 02:21 PM

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FH and I have been living together for a year and a half, and we aren't going to start TTC for like four years; we want to get our careers together first and hopefully buy a house.

es2189 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 02:31 PM

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fh and i have been together for about 6 years, living together for 5...we're young, but we really want to start a family right away.

Windy Posted: Jan 03, 2010 02:41 PM

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I want a honeymoon baby!

hamptonsbride2010 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 02:45 PM

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we've been living together for 2 1/2 years and it is still an adjustment. Even though whenever next year or 2011 that we get married we will both be 30 - we def.want to wait a while - enjoy being married and being able to travel when we want and not to worry about the resbonsibilities of children right away. Don't get me wrong - we both want kids

GR2010 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 02:51 PM

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FH and I will have lived together for 2 1/2 years when we get married and I will be 30 and he will be 33 but we still plan on waiting 2-3 years. We want to enjoy being married, travel to a few places that aren't really kid friendly (Egypt for example) and then we'll start trying for kids.

FutureMrsBrowne Posted: Jan 03, 2010 04:07 PM

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Love this topic!

FH and I have been together since I was 19 and he was 21. I will be 27 in March and he will turn 29 on our HM in April. We've been together for almost 8 years and we have lived together for almost 5. We have a kitty who will be 3 this year. We have survived MANY life situations together (deaths in our families, loss of jobs, finishing college, being severely ill, moving, etc) and we are still going strong! All in all we are ready for kids! I don't think that we will have a babymoon, but we said that we would begin to try later on this year.

I LOVE FH!

islandweddinggirl Posted: Jan 03, 2010 04:08 PM

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my fiance has a 10 year old girl and an 18 year old son...

soooo we are not in any rush

plus i have 2 puppies and they are like children themselves...lol...

we shall see

flibbertigibbet Posted: Jan 03, 2010 04:12 PM

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i don't have health insurance and won't until we are married and i go on his plan so i really need to be extra careful not to get pg until then.

i plan to stop using my BC right before we get married. we will not actively start 'trying' but just let god do his thing. if we aren't pregnant by the following summer then maybe we'll start actively trying.

SoontobeGallagher Posted: Jan 03, 2010 04:42 PM

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FH and I have been living together for 2 years. We probably won't start trying to have kids until at least 5 years after the wedding. What's the rush? We want to travel and see the world!

SoonToBMrsC Posted: Jan 03, 2010 04:45 PM

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Posted by CristinanBen2010

Fh and I dont live together yet so we want to enjoy and get used to living together and then have a kid which would probably be 1 1/2years or more till we have our first

Same goes for me!!