Babies

RitasEngaged Posted: Jan 03, 2010 12:51 PM

Babies

I feel like every single 09er is pregnant and a lot weren't planned lol

does anyone worry or think that they will get pregnant sooner than later

and is there really a lot of you out there that wants to get pregnant right away??

Honestly I have a puppy and moved in with FH about 3 months ago. I thought i wanted a kid a year after marriage but now i don't think i want any because FH and my pup are really a lot to handle - i could never imagine having a kid

and just a piece of advice - make sure you live with FH for a while before you have a kid because you might not think things will change but it was a huge adjustment at least for me

20mrsc10 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 12:53 PM

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well fh and i havent lived together yet-so we def. need to get used to that first..i would say hopefully not for like 2 years after we get married

NovBride10 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 12:55 PM

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FH and I have been living together for a year---by the time we get married it will be two. We definitely want to start trying right away.

AngnShaun Posted: Jan 03, 2010 12:55 PM

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FH and I have lived together for nearly our entire relationship... that will be 9 years by the time we are married...

we definitely want kids right away....

MerSaysEh Posted: Jan 03, 2010 12:56 PM

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FH and I have been living together for over 6 months, but we're getting married when I'm only going to have been out of school for a few months, so I think we will wait at least until I have had a steady job for a while - I don't want to take mat leave when I haven't been there that long. So we will probably wait between 6 months-a year to get pregnant.

StaceyWill Posted: Jan 03, 2010 12:56 PM

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FH and I have lived together about a yr now, and we def want a HM baby

Lsorrent Posted: Jan 03, 2010 12:57 PM

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We'll probably wait a year or so until I stop taking BC. I definitely am not ready for children yet.

scatteredx12 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 12:57 PM

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i agree... living together is a hugeee adjustment. i thought it would be a piece of cake but we've been living together for 14 months now and its been tough. great, but tough. we dont want kids for a few years... i'm still in school and at a crappy job, and we're only 21 and 23. his dad keeps pressuring us to start a family immediately and i want to wait until i'm at least 24 or 25.

RitasEngaged Posted: Jan 03, 2010 12:58 PM

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Posted by scatteredx12

i agree... living together is a hugeee adjustment. i thought it would be a piece of cake but we've been living together for 14 months now and its been tough. great, but tough. we dont want kids for a few years... i'm still in school and at a crappy job, and we're only 21 and 23. his dad keeps pressuring us to start a family immediately and i want to wait until i'm at least 24 or 25.

yeah i thought it wouldnt be hard because we always spent all our time together

but there have been so many days i have cried and wanted to just call off the wedding

xela Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:00 PM

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I waited till I was 28 and I am glad I did. I don't think I could of did it any younger. It is alot to handle but you find a way to make it work.

Nina1010 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:00 PM

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FH and I live together for years and we are a bit older so if we have children, it will be sooner than later. It is a huge adjustment and I came from a big family, wanted a big one too. I changed my mind after moving in with FH. But I still want a family.

MongieToBe Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:01 PM

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FH & I have lived together for a little over 3 years. We are not planning on TTC for 4 years probably.

netsirk10 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:07 PM

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NewYorker09 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:11 PM

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I think it all depends on your expectations and where you are in life. I've been living with FH for 8 months and while it was a transition it really wasn't THAT much different from what I expected. We definitely want a family (not 100% on exactly when yet) and I expect that will be a big transition also . . . BUT it's a transition that I feel ready at this point in my life to make.

If you don't feel ready then it's probably a good idea to wait a while-or just don't have children at all if that's what you want. It's definitely a huge change and a lot of work and I see nothing wrong with not doing it if you're not ready.

CristinanBen2010 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:14 PM

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Fh and I dont live together yet so we want to enjoy and get used to living together and then have a kid which would probably be 1 1/2years or more till we have our first

Melvin1297 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:14 PM

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Posted by 20mrsc10

well fh and i havent lived together yet-so we def. need to get used to that first..i would say hopefully not for like 2 years after we get married

same here, looking forward to being 'just us', we still live at home in crowded houses so it will be nice to have some time together

latinaj Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:15 PM

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never!!!! lol
idk... definetely not anytime soon! maybe 2-3 years after the wedding!

Clover23 Posted: Jan 03, 2010 01:18 PM

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we've been together almost 8 years and living together for a year and a half. definitely glad we did that before the wedding. we're finally settling into a groove, but there are still rough days here and there. we do plan to try right away though just because i've been on BCP for 14 years and i think it's going to take a bit for my body to adjust. and at 30 I don't want to wait too long to try just incase I run into problems. so I will go off BCP after the HM.