Bachelor party drama/VENT!!!!

Original post by HelenZ

Mar 30, 2007 04:36 PM

Please tell me if you would be upset about this bachelor party drama………here's the story (sorry its so long!!):

I'm going to my friends wedding in Ireland from 7/31 to 8/05…..I'm not going away for my bachelorette party unlike FH (he's going to Vegas) so I was hoping his party would be at the same time I go to Ireland, so at least I'm not sitting home the week he goes away.

A few weeks ago he told me that they were going to go to Vegas the week of July 4th b/c one of his friends has a timeshare there and they had reserved that week…..so at first I didn't like him having it so early (hello, over 2 months before our wedding), but then I figured it's a timeshare and there's not much they can do about it.

Fast forward to today……I find out that b/c one of the 12 guys going to Vegas has a BBQ every year on July 4th, they moved it to the following week- they're going July 8th to July 15th……which now I'm annoyed b/c if they were going to change the week and therefore not use the timeshare, I wish they would've went with the same week I'm going to be in Ireland.

Now for the WORST part……..b/c FH is apparently really insensitive, he didn't care that during that one week he'll be away, he's missing two of our anniversaries!!! July 8th makes one year we're engaged (I would've liked to go out to dinner), and July 14th is our dating anniversary. He's trying to tell me that he didn't have a say in the date b/c the guys planned it out, I told him I find it hard to believe that they wouldn't check w/ him before booking the plane tickets to find out which dates worked best for him.

I am so upset right now, I wish I wasn't at work, b/c I really want to cry, and I absolutely HATE fighting with him. I sent him an e-mail and he hasn't read it yet, I hope we're on speaking terms when I go home tonight!!

Thanks for listening to me vent!!

LisanAshMay07 Posted: Mar 30, 2007 08:20 PM

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All I can is that BOYS WILL BE BOYS! Don't worry about it, just look forward to your wedding, and at the fact that you'll have each other for the rest of your life.

HelenZ Posted: Mar 30, 2007 08:25 PM

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Posted by AlmostKulak

I guess I would be upset too, they changed it because of a BBQ??? Hello isn't this the grrom's time to shine?? Since they are not going to change it then maybe when he is away you could have a get together with your girls and just have some time to you and your friends and family before you become a wife. Make the best out of it and just think he is yours for the rest of your lives.

I know that's what I was thinking too......must be SOME BBQ!!!!

I am hoping that I can plan a little weekend getaway maybe to the Hamptons.....my sis & cousin both have kids and at least this way I can include them without having them feel obligated to be there the whole weekend, since both of them live on LI. I will definitely try and make the best of this, I just wish he was going away on different dates.

HelenZ Posted: Mar 30, 2007 08:27 PM

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Posted by chatxleau24

He's gonna miss you so much when you go away - he'll regret not MAKING SURE his bach party was scheduled when you were gone!! Itll be okay!!

I like the way you think!!! at least brady37 (the friend whose wedding I'm going to) will try and get me some lap dances from some friendly Irish lads

chatxleau24 Posted: Mar 30, 2007 08:34 PM

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Posted by HelenZ

Posted by chatxleau24

He's gonna miss you so much when you go away - he'll regret not MAKING SURE his bach party was scheduled when you were gone!! Itll be okay!!

I like the way you think!!! at least brady37 (the friend whose wedding I'm going to) will try and get me some lap dances from some friendly Irish lads

lap dances from guys with accents are the best!!!!!

HelenZ Posted: Mar 30, 2007 08:40 PM

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Posted by chatxleau24

Posted by HelenZ

Posted by chatxleau24

He's gonna miss you so much when you go away - he'll regret not MAKING SURE his bach party was scheduled when you were gone!! Itll be okay!!

I like the way you think!!! at least brady37 (the friend whose wedding I'm going to) will try and get me some lap dances from some friendly Irish lads

lap dances from guys with accents are the best!!!!!

yes and I'm a sucker for a brogue (sp?)......I'm feeling better about this already!!

MrsBrags7706 Posted: Apr 05, 2007 09:16 AM

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Honestly, if my mother is throwing something like, for ex-my bridal shower, she never asked him the date. We had just moved in together, but nothing would be going on on a Sat afternoon. Plus the fact, my DH has a HUGE mouth, so they didn't even tell him the shower date brcause they thought he would slip and ruin it for me.

I think it is alittle inconsiderate that he is telling you the dates he is going, rather than asking you, or at least saying 'is this ok?' or 'does this con-inside with any of our other plans.' Also consider-what if it falls on the weekd of ur shower?

Thirdly, I hate to say this, but I;m going to anyway - I don't not, aboslutely posiviely NOT, agree with any groom [or bride for that matter] going away [out of state] for their B-party....ABSOLUTELY NOT! I'm a traditional girl....I never even had a B-party, and my DH wasn't going to either at first, instead they went to a bar and he was home by 2 am. I don't believe that there is a neccessity of a groom going out of state, espeically Vegas, where sex is everywhere, filled with prostitutes and what not. Personally, I wouldn't let him go, thats just me! I would trust my FH, don't get me wrong, but there is no need for them to go away for the b-party. It should be a 1 night thing, not a week thing, and persoanlly, I don't even believe in them! I'm not into strippers or anything like that, so if I did have a b-party, it would be all the girls just getting together.

This is just my personal opinion, but I do not agree with him just telling you the dates rather than asking you. I thnk you should sit down and talk to him about it and tell him your feelings. Cry if u have to - works every time!

jenn122397 Posted: Apr 05, 2007 09:23 AM

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aww sorry you're upset -
my FH dropped the bomb on me that his friends are planning his in vegas too - and i was kind of pissed cause i was hoping they would go the samw weekend as mine but thats not happening. so i know how you feel - but try not to stress too much over it