Ok so Im throwing a bachelorette party for my bf Aly (08 bride AlyNJoe). She knows about it, but doesnt know where it is.
My question to you all- Since all of her wedding hoopla has begun, she has become better friends again with one girl ( who is in my BP along with this friend Aly of mine- we all went to college together) - hope thats not too confusing... So anyway, Aly originally thought it would be nice to invite Melissa to her bach party, even though she isnt invited to the wedding. I thought maybe it wasnt such a hot idea. Aly is limited in the amount of people that she could invite to the wedding ( like us all ya know)... so if her guest list was allowed to be bigger, she would have invited melissa, however that was not an option. So now here we are with the evite out already and wondering should we have invited melissa? Aly would love her there, but we are left with the thought that its probably not ok to invite her since she isnt invited to the wedding... Aly wanted me to ask you girls... please honest opinions
NickandTara426
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IMO I just think that the fact that you are sharing a piece of her 'wedding' experience is nice. I would invite her...but then again it is a tough decision because she may feel slighted because she isn't invited to the actual wedding.
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the bachelorette is fine...bc technically is jut a party night out ...you should not however invite her to the bridal shower...
i believe martha would totally agree with me...lol
Utterhappiness
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Posted by NickandTara426
IMO I just think that the fact that you are sharing a piece of her 'wedding' experience is nice. I would invite her...but then again it is a tough decision because she may feel slighted because she isn't invited to the actual wedding.
Good call.. you have a point here
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Posted by evewedsjc
the bachelorette is fine...bc technically is jut a party night out ...you should not however invite her to the bridal shower...
i believe martha would totally agree with me...lol
OK thanks martha!!! you are right- the shower happened already and no melissa there hehe
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IMO, I would probably be insulted to be invited to the Bach party and not the wedding, so I don't think she should be invited. I would feel bad and ask why wasn't I invited to the wedding.
evewedsjc
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Posted by evewedsjc
the bachelorette is fine...bc technically is jut a party night out ...you should not however invite her to the bridal shower...
i believe martha would totally agree with me...lol
OK thanks martha!!! you are right- the shower happened already and no melissa there hehe
good call...
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My friend did that with another friend when she got married a few years ago and it was great. As long as she understands that she's not invited to the wedding and she still wants to come then it works out fine!
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Honestly we have had people at bach. parties that were notinvited to the wedding. its a fun night to have some fun with friends. Im sure in some way she already knows that she isnt invited to the wedding OR maybe someone should explain to her why at somepoint. ims ure she can understand that guest lists get crazy!
Mrs B to Be
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i think is melissa is ok with it and wants to go she should be invited...but she shouldnt have to put any money towards paying for the bride since she isnt going to the wedding. i've gone to bach parties of friends of friends
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i think its absolutely fine.. ive been to a bachelorette party that iwasnt invited to the wedding.. its a friend of a friend who i have a great time with when we are out.... but we dont talk on the phone or anything ya know?
i would however ask your friend who is the bride first.. :)
Utterhappiness
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i think its absolutely fine.. ive been to a bachelorette party that iwasnt invited to the wedding.. its a friend of a friend who i have a great time with when we are out.... but we dont talk on the phone or anything ya know?
i would however ask your friend who is the bride first.. :)
The bride knows hehe she asked me to ask LIW
Thank you guys for the advice... Ill pass along the info to Aly and we can decide... it seems that more than not think its ok to invite her, but explain the situation...
