bachelorlette party!

I am trying to figure out dates with my BP. Almost every weekend in the summer someone in the party is busy. Understandable..weddings etc. I think we finally got a date that works for the whole BP, but it's the weekend before the wedding. Is it too much to ask friends and people to come and spend cash a week before?

Also, we were going to do the vineyards out east, but no one can make a Sat, so we are doing a Friday. Any restaurant recommendations that are good for b parties in the city or Queens??? Thanks! I dont want naked guys hahah