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Oh no Tori!! Hopefully you can work things out...if you need someone to talk to, I am definitely here.

oh no! i hope everything works out for you two...let some time go by and maybe you can work it out!

were here if you need us

checking back in to see how you are doing Tori... let us know how you are.. hope everything is ok

Awww.... I hope everything turns out ok

I'm sorry to hear this. I hope everything turns out alright.

i'm so sorry!!! mayeb everything will blow over!!! keep us posted looove u

I'm sorry. I agree with everyone give it some time and talk with calm minds. You may just need time to think.

oh noooo

hope all is well now

i hope everything is settled now.

Oh my goodness! How are you holding up? How are things now?

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Posted by Tori9299

Today was a bad day of fighting with the FH today, I called off the wedding and my parents got involved. And it came to the point where my dad was crying not to leave my FH but I'm so hurt. I don't know how to get passed this. I just need some hugs & therapy.
I feel like I have been hit by a truck.

**** THANK YOU SO MUCH EVERYONE*******
I will give u a full update in a few. Things are getting better.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

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so glad things are getting better!!!

Hope everything is alright?

Oh we've been there! Sometimes when your in a heated argument it just escalates to an unnecessary point and you just have to step back. I've thrown my ring back at FH before! Once you two calm down you'll be able to have a civil conversation and work through it!! I wish you the best!

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Posted by Tori9299

Today was a bad day of fighting with the FH today, I called off the wedding and my parents got involved. And it came to the point where my dad was crying not to leave my FH but I'm so hurt. I don't know how to get passed this. I just need some hugs & therapy.
I feel like I have been hit by a truck.

**** THANK YOU SO MUCH EVERYONE*******
I will give u a full update in a few. Things are getting better.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoThank you so much everyone. Yesterday I checked his phone and there was a message from a girl I have no idea who it was. And according to the message seems like major flirting was going on and could have been a meeting of the 2 or a plan to meet. I was soooo bad yesterday. He will not admit to it and that is what pi s s i ng me off even more.
If I had the truth we can work on fixing our situation but if he is going to lie we can't fix that. And honestly not knowing the truth is making me even more upset. He claims it was a wrong number I don't believe that, and it seems if she is a coworker. I told him when the truth comes out
( you know it always does) things are going to be even worse.
In my opinion I really don't care anymore about our relationship I will go through this wedding and I am sure we will wind up getting divorced if he doesn't change. Of course he is being Mr. Nice guy and wants to be the perfect 'husband'. WHATEVER. I wish I didn't have to go trough this.

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Oh my goodness Tori..I am so sorry....stay strong and just try to remain calm. You are a better woman than I am...i woudl not be able to go through with this until I knew the truth! You definitely think he is lying about this? What if it was a wrong number? Did she say his name in the message?

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Posted by Tori9299

Today was a bad day of fighting with the FH today, I called off the wedding and my parents got involved. And it came to the point where my dad was crying not to leave my FH but I'm so hurt. I don't know how to get passed this. I just need some hugs & therapy.
I feel like I have been hit by a truck.

**** THANK YOU SO MUCH EVERYONE*******
I will give u a full update in a few. Things are getting better.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxoThank you so much everyone. Yesterday I checked his phone and there was a message from a girl I have no idea who it was. And according to the message seems like major flirting was going on and could have been a meeting of the 2 or a plan to meet. I was soooo bad yesterday. He will not admit to it and that is what pi s s i ng me off even more.
If I had the truth we can work on fixing our situation but if he is going to lie we can't fix that. And honestly not knowing the truth is making me even more upset. He claims it was a wrong number I don't believe that, and it seems if she is a coworker. I told him when the truth comes out
( you know it always does) things are going to be even worse.
In my opinion I really don't care anymore about our relationship I will go through this wedding and I am sure we will wind up getting divorced if he doesn't change. Of course he is being Mr. Nice guy and wants to be the perfect 'husband'.
WHATEVER. I wish I didn't have to go trough this.

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Listen, i know this is a very personal situation for you and difficult for you to be dealing with. I know you dont know me from a hole in the wall, but i have some very valuable advice for you. Someone EXTREMELY close to me had a similar situation. They were dating for 7 years and engaged to be married with their wedding date quickly approaching. She broke off the engagement twice because she suspected something was going on (weird phone calls, strange voice messages, the gift of a men's gold bracelet who he said he was holding it for a coworker then the story switched to his coworkers chipped in and gave it to him). Fast forward. They went through with the wedding. 8 weeks later, she found something that proved her suspicions. He still DENIED it. Said there was nothing going on. She moved back home. He convinced her to try to work thru things. He switched jobs (where the presumed female was) and swore he was giving the relationship his all. He refused to get divorced cause everyone in his family (every single person who got married) is divorced. She stayed at her parents house and he lived in their house and they started going out casually on dates. More strange things happening. Swore to her nothing was going on. She went to their house to pick up the mail from the mailbox and there was the scum in their house drinking wine right in plain view, close to eachother. She told him she wanted a divorce. He STILL denied everything. Fast forward...they are now divorced and he is marrying his co worker, who nothing was going on with, on April 20th of this year. And dont feel bad for the new girl, cause she did the same thing to her husband!
Moral of the story: trust yourself and your instinct. Im your post you clearly know he is lying and you need to value yourself enough to decide whether you forgive and marry him anyway, or walk away. This situation is never easy. Make sure you get to the bottom of this before the wedding. Afterward, is too late. Mentally, it's not easy getting a divorce, especially shortly after getting married. This girl was so embarrassed that she walked around with her wedding rings on until the divorce was finalized because she didn't want anyone to know. Once again, value and trust yourself. Sorry this is so long but i dont want to see anyone go thru what this girl went thru. HTH and fm if you need to talk.

honestly, instincts were given to us humans for a reason and i don't think doing everything in our power to ignore these instincts is smart.

that being said, i also think you should follow your heart but don't forget what your head is telling you.